I don’t need a reply just needed to tell someone

Pinkjj
I just want to put my arm around you and give you a hug.
You have great advice here l don’t need to add anything just to say that young woman who is apparently so beautiful on the outside is ugly to the core.
I hope you are getting some comfort from everyone here.

Somebody screaming in your face is not beautiful inside or out. You were beautiful to your husband - something she hasn’t had or experienced. Don’t settle for the police doing nothing. If it happens again say you are vulnerable and under threat and maybe, if she is renting, approach her landlord. This rotten time will end and life will get better.

You sound like a lovely neighbour , wish you lived next door to me . I know what its like to have a horrible neighbour but you have done nothing wrong . Its her that has the problem . Hope you are OK

I have been wondering how you are, all right I hope and getting some support. ?

Dear me, Pinkj she sounds awful. So glad you came on here to say what's been happening. Hope you feel you've had some good advice. Sending

How awful - make sure you have a Covid test ????

I'd love to know which subjects you teach, too!

pinkjj27, the police would need a very good reason to refuse attendance, especially when threatening behaviour is involved. There must be more to this story.

Pink - Glad to see the huge support and (mostly!) helpful suggestions on here. I had a neighbour problem a few months ago. Other neighbours were aware but, understandably, didn’t want to get involved. What I did, although not going out often, was exchange a few words of greeting each time I happened to see anyone. As it was summer I was sometimes gardening in the front. My outdoor exercise was limited to walks to the post box and putting the bins out but I briefly greeted everyone I saw. This made me feel a lot less nervous. A councillor was extremely helpful over the legal aspects of the situation. One neighbour I already knew better than most rang me occasionally to check I was all right and said to ring any time I felt I needed support.
I am far more confident now and sleep better.
You sound like a kind and sensible person who deserves a calm life, don’t feel alone. You did the right thing in posting here.

Just wondered how everything is pink. Are you feeling better?

Unhinged behaviour is definitely being shown.

Yogagirl:

"As the police are still in contact with you, ask them to tell her it wasn't you that reported her party. Good luck."

The abuser sounds unhinged nevertheless this sort of conflict resolution might get through to her.

Yogagirl

So sorry Pink. Put a note through their door and tell them it wasn't you. What awful things to say to you. Hope you're OK today

I don’t think that would help. Pink is not dealing with a rational person. Even if she had been the one to report the party, that was hardly a ‘normal’ response.

What a dreadful experience! Support definitely needed here. All the helpful advice should be taken up.

Hope you are feeling a bit better today,

I've just read your opening post OP and then further on when you expanded on your relationship with your aggressive neighbour. I'm so sorry, you sound such a lovely caring person, she should be counting her lucky stars to have someone like you around, clearly a kind and thoughtful person. She has been unbelievable cruel with her words, she won't be young forever, and maybe when she has reached her older years, her own nasty comments may come back to slap her in the face, I like to believe in karma. Quite honestly they way you describe she comes across as really base, conniving and selfish in the extreme, almost to the point of being unhinged.

Somebody upthread mentioned Age Concern I hear they do good work with older people experiencing problems. I know you don't want to involve your family but I think you should let them know how she has verbally abused you in the most horrific way, as for getting your children struck off from the dental practice where she works, as a receptionist, I doubt whether she would have the power to do that. There are many helpful suggestions posted here, I think you probably need to be a bit proactive in dealing with someone who is an absolute monster.

I wish you all the best and hopefully happier times

As the police are still in contact with you, ask them to tell her it wasn't you that reported her party. Good luck.

So sorry Pink. Put a note through their door and tell them it wasn't you. What awful things to say to you. Hope you're OK today

Find out who your local councillor is. They are more likely to help you than the police.

Do as eazybee says about the police too.

I'm so sorry you had that experience. What an awful woman. You don't deserve that kind of treatment.

She sounds as though she should be on the Jerry springer show, what a vile human being and what a lovely mouth on her, I’m so sorry this happened to you, I have a feeling she will be signing her pathetic petition many times herself pink! She certainly needs putting in her place, Don’t worry I doubt if this is a one off episode obviously shocking for you but she will soon realise you can’t get away with this sort of bullying behaviour, hopefully karma will bite her on her bum

I don’t have any advice other than that has already been given, just that I’m so sorry someone was so horrible to you. You must have felt very shocked and shaken up. I am sending you good thoughts and a virtual hug x

I'm so sorry that you have been on the receiving end of such vile behaviour pinkjj27, she sounds an absolutely appalling disgrace to the human race.

Action on Elder Abuse has a free confidential helpline which might be worth trying for both practical advice and moral support
www.thenationalcareline.org/AccessingHelp/ActionOnElderAbuse

Aww, bless you, you sound lovely. *Disco’s post was funny, and so true. She said to feel sorry for her husband and children.....but also, I would add, her too. Happy people don’t need to be so disgustingly awful to others. Just take comfort in that she’s obviously a very unhappy person. I do hope you get it sorted. Hopefully, she’ll be sent into outer space or somewhere further. God bless?

You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. I guess the petition thing is something she’s heard at her previous location. I bet her old neighbours got one up to move HER on! You are not in danger of being moved out my lovely.

Teeth whitening

Thank you to everyone who replied I was very upset this morning and just wanted to join my husband. I had done nothing wrong and didn’t see it coming. There are many neighbours in my street who could have called the police but she didn’t accuse them she actually picked on me as the only person who lives alone. I think as you lovely people have suggested it says more about her than me.
I was upset because she said she had a petition to get me out. After thinking about it, I am very quiet and don’t bother anyone. I get on with most people I can’t see many people wanting to sign it.
I was upset because she picked on my dead husband but he was a fighter fighter and would have just laughed.

I also know that she has stolen from the dentist she works for taking teeth whiting kits, mouthwashes and tooth paste and passing them to friends (I refused to take or buy anything from her. I also made her aware I didn’t approve)

I felt bad by her hurtful comments (I have always been so kind to her) but post on here like the one from DiscoDancer1975 have made me laugh. She called me jealous but I don’t want to look like Kim Kardashian. I actually keep myself slim and healthy and I am proud of the person I am. I have now put her comments into perspective with the help of replies on here so thank you again .