Thank you so much to everyone who has responded and to those kind people who messaged me with suggestions - I feel much better having shared.
To answer some of your suggestions, we have a wonderful, supportive GP with whom I had a discussion about NHS responders taking mum to appointments, but since the onset of the dementia mum is extremely difficult to deal with if she is stressed. She panics and gets herself into a state if I go out of her sight when outside the ‘safety’ of the house and this has triggered seizures in the past. GP agreed that it was probably better to postpone appointments rather than risk more seizures.
One contributor suggested getting in touch with the Community Matron - I hadn’t thought of this and having made enquiries today, I’m advised that they can involve the district nurse service to do things like routine blood tests and health checks at home, rather than our local clinic, which will help.
I am registered with the GP as a carer, but am advised this won’t get me vaccinated any sooner. We are slightly behind other areas in the roll out of the vaccine according to the doctor - still dealing with the first priority group, so I imagine it will be a while before they get around to the CEV category.
We haven’t missed anything critical - just monitoring appointments so far which could be done by telephone, but the osteoporosis infusion would have been a big risk as it required admission onto a ward for several hours and our local hospital has high levels of Covid inpatients. Mum has the infusions every two years, so again not critical if delayed by a couple of months.
I was offered home care services just after the pandemic began, but have refused for the time being as, understandably, the care agencies can’t guarantee whether carers coming into our home have not had previous contact with Covid patients - too big a risk.
My biggest fear is myself or my partner contracting Covid as if anything were to happen to us, mum would end up in full time care, which is something I’ve devoted myself to avoiding for as long as we can. I was born with a disability (spina bifida) and at the time it was common for parents to put children with this condition into care. My parents didn’t and thanks to them I’ve had a good life and one that’s been as ‘normal’ as possible. It’s my turn to look after mum now, and full time care isn’t part of the plan !!
Thanks to all, and as always, stay safe.
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