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Sarah Everard vigil

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Hetty58 Mon 15-Mar-21 08:17:11

I can't help thinking that the tragic death and precious memory of this young woman - has been hijacked and used as an excuse, by those desperate to just go out, get together, ignore lockdown rules and socialise.

Am I wrong to think this way?

PaperMonster Mon 15-Mar-21 18:30:25

And yet, Chakotay, the audio has chants of ‘shame on you’ as the Police herded the attendees closer together in contravention of Covid guidelines. And someone walking home from the vigil was flashed at and the Police didn’t want to know. I’m a million miles away from there and had there been a local vigil I would have attended, but for me someone saying they didn’t want to attend because they were scared of the police reaction speaks absolute volumes.

suziewoozie Mon 15-Mar-21 18:29:59

Sarnia

I find this whole sorry mess such an insult to Sarah Everard's memory and her family and friends. They have more than enough to deal with at this precise moment. The gathering was against Covid-19 restrictions and the police can't win whatever they do. A peaceful vigil could have waited until after the court case and verdict.

I think we all feel for the family but sadly high profile deaths increasingly provoke high profile responses. No one knows how long it will be before the trial is over and the impact of the publicity has already led to the government opening its consultation and receiving a record number of responses. Also for the first time ever, high profile groups of people are meeting to discuss the issue of female abuse and violence and how it’s being responded to ( o4 not as the case may become). The last week has allowed many many women to talk about their experiences of all forms of sexual,a use, harassment and violence. If we’d all,just kept a respectful silence until the trial was over would have denied all these positive things from happening. Of course things around the vigil could have been handled differently but responsibility is across the board but with more on the authorities who should have handled it better. The most shocking story unheard today was that a rape victim giving evidence at the trial of her alleged rapist was asked what type of knickers she had been wearing. In 2020 this was thought acceptable? How have we allowed things to come to this ?

Sarnia Mon 15-Mar-21 18:03:33

I find this whole sorry mess such an insult to Sarah Everard's memory and her family and friends. They have more than enough to deal with at this precise moment. The gathering was against Covid-19 restrictions and the police can't win whatever they do. A peaceful vigil could have waited until after the court case and verdict.

NellG Mon 15-Mar-21 17:54:22

Thanks MaizieD I'd heard/read conflicting interpretations so appreciate the correction.

Read the linked tweet - so, not illegal as such. I wonder how well the arrested women will fare using it as their defence though if they are/have been charged.

I still think it was irresponsible and showed a lack of respect. before right come responsibilities and all.

mrshat Mon 15-Mar-21 17:25:48

I have not read all the posts but ..........all actions have consequences. Those who went to the 'vigil' whatever their reasons, were wrong to go and gather in a crowd which is against the lockdown rules.
Consequence - the police had to get involved ............. and so it goes on.
Go, pay your respects and leave would have been better.

The rights and wrongs of the police action is a separate issue.

Chakotay Mon 15-Mar-21 17:23:04

PaperMonster

This was a vigil. Although it suits a certain type of individual to think otherwise. A friend of mine lives nearby and wanted to attend - but felt too scared to because of what she anticipated would be the Police reaction.

Yet I have a friend who lives nearby who didn't attend but heard the chants of F... the police clearly, her neighbour who did attend told of how she was pushed around by a group of women holding banners.

MaizieD Mon 15-Mar-21 17:08:15

Correct me if I'm wrong but this particular event had been vetoed by the court.

You're wrong, Nell. The court basically said that it was not going to intervene and that the organisers and the police must sort it out.

I can't find the actual judgement but I can find the legal advice given to the Reclaim the Streets organisers subsequent to the judgement. Follow the link on this tweet

twitter.com/AdamWagner1/status/1371093801746448386

It is by no means cut and dried and at no point did the judge uphold the police ban on the planned vigil

Mollygo Mon 15-Mar-21 17:07:39

If it was a gathering of any sort, vigil or protest it was not allowed under current Covid rules.

PaperMonster Mon 15-Mar-21 17:05:08

This was a vigil. Although it suits a certain type of individual to think otherwise. A friend of mine lives nearby and wanted to attend - but felt too scared to because of what she anticipated would be the Police reaction.

Smileless2012 Mon 15-Mar-21 16:53:33

But it was supposed to have been a vigil ayse not a protest.

Jaxjacky Mon 15-Mar-21 16:52:07

Well there’s a Celtic v Rangers match next weekend, any armchair suggestions how any crowds are controlled as it’s against Covid guidelines in Scotland?
suziewoozie that’s very simplistic and possibly sexist, the Rangers supporters included women, not all football supports are men you know.

suziewoozie Mon 15-Mar-21 16:16:12

ayse

Let’s compare the activities of the police at the Liverpool and Rangers football games. These were huge illegal gatherings and yet little was done to prevent them.

I heard on LBC this afternoon at least two women who were at the Clapham gathering horrified at the actions of the police. Until they began to arrest some women it was a peaceful and calm vigil “with the laying for flowers and candle lighting”. Sheila Forgarty the interviewer said she was initially against the Virgil but pointed out that she had changed her mind. She seems generally to be a fairly conservative commentator.

Later in the same discussion it seems that rape cases taken to court have dropped substantially since 2016.

This is not just about one abduction and murder. It’s about women not feeling safe to walk the streets and the failure of our society to curb violence towards women both at home and on the streets.

Little seems to have changed since the 1960s. I understand that young men are also attacked for little reason. I have no solutions to offer but something within our society needs to change.

Street protest has been happening for hundreds of years. This government as others have said seem intent on denying ordinary citizens the right to protest. This is against our rights as citizens of a so called democratic country. Fascism is on the move.

The real problem at Clapham was no football scarves and the leaders didn’t have penises. The end.

ayse Mon 15-Mar-21 16:12:22

Let’s compare the activities of the police at the Liverpool and Rangers football games. These were huge illegal gatherings and yet little was done to prevent them.

I heard on LBC this afternoon at least two women who were at the Clapham gathering horrified at the actions of the police. Until they began to arrest some women it was a peaceful and calm vigil “with the laying for flowers and candle lighting”. Sheila Forgarty the interviewer said she was initially against the Virgil but pointed out that she had changed her mind. She seems generally to be a fairly conservative commentator.

Later in the same discussion it seems that rape cases taken to court have dropped substantially since 2016.

This is not just about one abduction and murder. It’s about women not feeling safe to walk the streets and the failure of our society to curb violence towards women both at home and on the streets.

Little seems to have changed since the 1960s. I understand that young men are also attacked for little reason. I have no solutions to offer but something within our society needs to change.

Street protest has been happening for hundreds of years. This government as others have said seem intent on denying ordinary citizens the right to protest. This is against our rights as citizens of a so called democratic country. Fascism is on the move.

NellG Mon 15-Mar-21 16:08:10

OK, I get you.

suziewoozie Mon 15-Mar-21 16:01:33

NellG

Is Hillsborough a fair comparison?

Correct me if I'm wrong but this particular event had been vetoed by the court.

People ignored that, and lockdown, and went anyway.

It would appear that some groups were there for another agenda that was not a peaceful vigil.

Hillsborough was a massive tragedy that came about due to a series of gross errors and resulted in 96 deaths. All of them innocent fans who were attending a football match, not a demonstration/protest/vigil.

Nobody died at this event. So is it a fair comparison? Are there other mass vigils it can be compared to instead - as the investigation and findings of how those panned out might be a better baseline.

The comparison is that those we should be able to rely on are capable of lying when being questioned about their behaviour. That’s all.

Iam64 Mon 15-Mar-21 15:59:53

I don’t see any comparison between Hillsborough and the vigil/protest in London yesterday.
I don’t defend what looks like over reaction by some officers but don’t know enough to put all responsibility on the police.

On what I know so far, I see no reason for Cressida Dick to resign. To lose a female senior police officer over this would be a tragedy.

ayse Mon 15-Mar-21 15:56:53

eazybee

This was not a vigil, it was used as a protest, in defiance of a High court ruling.

The high court chose not to comment and referred it back to the police.

NellG Mon 15-Mar-21 15:54:28

Is Hillsborough a fair comparison?

Correct me if I'm wrong but this particular event had been vetoed by the court.

People ignored that, and lockdown, and went anyway.

It would appear that some groups were there for another agenda that was not a peaceful vigil.

Hillsborough was a massive tragedy that came about due to a series of gross errors and resulted in 96 deaths. All of them innocent fans who were attending a football match, not a demonstration/protest/vigil.

Nobody died at this event. So is it a fair comparison? Are there other mass vigils it can be compared to instead - as the investigation and findings of how those panned out might be a better baseline.

suziewoozie Mon 15-Mar-21 15:38:02

emmasnan

Suziewoozie

Unless we were at this gathering its impossible to know if differential treatment was needed.
Police have a difficult job to do and are open to criticism by everyone including those who are not doing the job or have no experience of it. On this occasion they were also putting themselves at risk from Covid infection and like many of us no doubt would have preferred not to do that unless necessary.

My point is how do people who weren’t there carry out an official investigation then? But they do. People who weren’t at Hillsborough eventually ( after years) carried out a proper investigation . And guess what -lots of lies and misleading statements were made by people who were there such as police, paramedics, ground officials. The fans who were there were disbelieved for years.

emmasnan Mon 15-Mar-21 15:32:06

Suziewoozie

Unless we were at this gathering its impossible to know if differential treatment was needed.
Police have a difficult job to do and are open to criticism by everyone including those who are not doing the job or have no experience of it. On this occasion they were also putting themselves at risk from Covid infection and like many of us no doubt would have preferred not to do that unless necessary.

Madgran77 Mon 15-Mar-21 14:45:11

In fact there are many pictures and videos of it as a vigil, calm, thoughtful, peaceful. A minority appear to have started behaving in a way that changed things. I am not commenting on whether the police response was OTT or not, but I think it important to acknowledge that many appear to have genuinely just been there to hold a vigil.

As far as I understand it Sisters Uncut and the Socialaist Workers Party activists were present in London (though I have no way of verifying those reports) which sort of puts another light on events and how they developed

The whole issue of why any vigils were allowed anywhere is a moot point ...under present rules it is actually not allowed. Opinions on whether this was an exception seem to vary greatly.

Gwyneth Mon 15-Mar-21 14:32:59

This wasn’t a vigil it was a protest. In all the news reports I have not heard one interviewer ask why they were there when it is currently illegal to hold such large gatherings. All the blame has been placed on the Police when it was the protesters who were acting illegally. Also the politicians from all sides have jumped on the ‘bandwagon’ criticising the Police. Perhaps in the future the Police should refuse to be present at any protest and if people are injured, property destroyed etc so be it. I have every sympathy for the cause but the timing was irresponsible and illegal and designed to show the Police in a bad light. Has there been any statement from the family of the poor woman killed to support these protests?

Summerlove Mon 15-Mar-21 14:25:05

Lucca

Ironic but of mistyping....

And no mask.

If I were cynical, I’d comment on how its hard to be seen doing good when not wearing a mask

Smileless2012 Mon 15-Mar-21 14:17:56

It had nothing to do with his lack of b#*1s Nanna58 it would have been and was an illegal gathering due to the current restrictions.

They shouldn't have been there. They were told not to turn up but they did. My idea of a vigil is to lay flowers, light a candle and have some time for quiet reflection not waving my arms and/or a placard in the air and shouting.

It was undignified to say the least and probably only caused further upset to her family and friends.

lemsip Mon 15-Mar-21 14:02:19

Hetty58, Thanks for the OP I totally agree with you.