"Sweet"

@ Quote MummyJoJo62
Selling door to door unlicensed.
Lying about working under an ex offender scheme (there is no such scheme that ever existed that would encourage door to door selling!)
Flouting travel rules
Flouting contact rules
Flouting mask rules.
I don’t think he deserves ANY considerations whatsoever.
That’s not being mean, it’s being sensible and correct?

'Mummyjojo62'
One appeared at my house..... ex-serviceman ( he could repeat some sort of ID number), limping ex- offender and with a big bag of stuff I didn't need.
Yes, I felt so sorry for him as he was trying to rehabilitate himself. I explained that the paid job of weeding our wilderness of a garden could be all his as I admired his efforts to go straight
He suddenly zipped up his holdall and dashed along the road to the local pub shouting over his shoulder that he needed a coffee.
As for Jehovah's Witnesses, my husband generally asks them if they know they are breaking the law by knocking on the door with an under-age proselyte in tow to preach at us
I don't know either but they generally make speedily for a parked car nearby

We use varying techniques for the phone nuisances depending upon how we feel

I wouldn't like it either, too familiar!! i dont like people selling things at the door either

A couple of young men knocked on my door and said they were from the local housing association/they had come to check my guttering.I said no thank you.I might as well have saved my breath.one of them said well as we are here we will check any way.I said NO YOU WILL NOT AND GET OFF MY PROPERTY.I was told there was no need to be nasty,I kept repeating get off my property and they went..I phoned the police and got a lovely young woman who told me I had done the right thing she didn't think the local council would be sending people door to door at this time Neither of them had masks on that night a young police man called and I told him the story he said he would check around He came back later and said they were genuine oops.Now i don/t open the door til I know who it is and I would do the same again.The same day I got 2 scam calls 1 from Microsoft I just put the phone down on them.Yes I would object to be called sweet or any thing else.

As long as it's friendly and polite I don't really mind. Nice to be acknowledged.

I wouldn't have even gone to the door. Having had a video doorbell for a while now I can't understand why everyone doesn't have one :D

i have a sign on my door saying no cold callers please, it , hopefully is a deterrent, apart from that , i would love it if someone called me sweet

A little sidelined maybe, but my pet hate is to be called a 'guy'. A collective noun that seems to have become very common and obviously from over the Pond. It sounds so disrespectful, particularly in the workplace and in schools, when addressing a group of people or children. What happened to 'ladies and gentlemen' and 'children'? How has everyone turned into a 'guy', whatever their sex or age? Grrr!

I don't mind being called sweet/darling etc by a stranger but I do NOT like to be called by my 1st name by people who have access to both my names, eg. insurance, hospital, etc.
And I hate cold callers. They can Foxtrot Oscar and take their tat with them.

I really feel for you as I too hate it. I also hate it when people phone me and ask for me by my first name and I don't know them. I'm sorry I find behavior like this disrespectful. Yes I'm old fashion with old fashion ideas.

I'm pretty sure that legit ex-offenders wouldn't be going door to door at the moment. When you can't even deliver leaflets in a lot of places, it seems very odd. A polite 'no thank you' through the closed door would be enough.

Slightly different but I hate Hun and Babe on FB or selling sites!

I wouldn't have even noticed. Would you have preferred to be call Madam? That's a term that was polite and respectful many moons ago.

Honestly Ninathenana - there's more going on in the world than to get 'upset' because someone calls you sweet, or dear, or love or whatever. Some people have grown up being able to address people in 'affectionate' terms, but he's right it's just an expression, but one that he and others have always found it normal part of their conversation. Get over yourself.

Call me anything just don’t call me down!

Had our first cold callers recently. I pretended to have a coughing fit and they backed away pretty smartly. It’s thought locally that some are checking which houses are occupied.

A health visitor I know called everyone Petal as she was hopeless at remembering names.

Ha ha ...no, although I would probably not buy anything from an ex offender although it must be tough if he is trying to go 'straight' after completing his sentence or whatever, I have no objection to being called anything ...now I live in the N E (via Suffolk, Cambridge, Essex, Nottinghamshire, Spain and France ) I am used to being called allsorts .....luv, duck, dearie, Mrs, sweetheart, man, (everyone gets called MAN in the N E), sweetie, etc etc I just laugh as I think its funny ....I worked in the NHS and we were issued with a letter saying we must call all patients by their surname and not use first names, nicknames, etc etc.....some patients preferred it, some asked why we had to use surnames as it didnt seem very friendly ! I guess life is too short to worry about it ! Although I have to say the term 'significant other' grates !!

We have had them in our area recently. The police did put out a warning. These people are scammer. As for being called 'sweet' no its not the greatest but I would have let that pass. I just say that we never buy from the door. We do have a sign stating that too.

I utterly hate being called Love, Darling, Sweetheart etc, etc...unless it’s my DH using the terms. It is over familiar and makes me grind my teeth. I particularly hate it if it’s a male stranger as it is so patronising and will often respond “ I think you’ll find I am not actually your Darling”. I certainly would not conduct business with anyone who was so rude as to address me in those terms! So if that makes me an old fogey, then so be it!

As some posters have already pointed out, these young people (always men in my experience) are Nottingham Knockers’. It’s a scam, the young men are bussed in to Cover a specific area then get out.
They are also scoping out potential burglaries. Use your local Facebook page to give warnings to neighbours and report to your local police area.

Jeez there are some miserable Cynical old crows on here!
True, shouldn’t be selling door to door
True,may not be totally legit but maybe
But to say give him credit for trying to earn a living and then not buy anything because he called you “Sweet”?! Well he got that wrong didn’t he?
I get these boys at my door once a year I buy a cheap duster and give them twenty quid because I CAN!!

All the important points have been made, I feel. I would add only that 1) people are accustomed to these these 'pet' names ('pet' being one of them, actually) and it isn't personal, and I go out of my way to focus on that to myself however much it irks me; and 2) there are far worse things to be called!

A lot of the door to door sellers have printed cards claiming to be ex offenders, or having a disability and apparently are nothing of the sort. However if someone has to resort to such a soul destroying way of earning a living I feel sorry for them. Not that I would necessarily buy anything but I would not be rude. I don’t mind what I am called providing it is not said in a condescending way.

Some of the ex-offenders are being scammed themselves. There are adverts offering "jobs" to them, they pay £35 for their kit which includes, unknowingly to them, a fake peddlers license.

They can only sell what is provided by their employers or their "license" will be revoked.

Employment for ex-offenders is scarce so there are often genuine people that take up this offer.

I was aware of this many years ago and after googling see it is still happening.

I’m surprised we still get cold callers in the present climate. If I’m not expecting a delivery I don’t answer the door, and my children have a key to get in and they always ring the doorbell first. Too many scams and assaults nowadays.