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AIBU to think this is Cyber Stalking?

(86 Posts)
DillytheGardener Thu 08-Apr-21 22:22:40

I would keep a diary of these incidents and their impact on you in case they escalate. You have my sympathy, sounds awful.

NotSpaghetti Thu 08-Apr-21 22:17:58

Looking at a profile isn't cyber stalking.

I admit the watching from windows is a bit odd though!

TrendyNannie6 Thu 08-Apr-21 22:05:06

Oh it does sound very weird, no good putting a higher fence up if he’s watching you from an upstairs window,you have very strange neighbours, you are not being sensitive

M0nica Thu 08-Apr-21 21:47:21

This isn't cyber stalking - yet, but it is harrassment and intimidating. Why not keep a diary of his movements and then, perhaps, speak to Citizen's Advice or talk to Age UK. They should be able to advise you what to do.

Sara1954 Thu 08-Apr-21 21:46:38

No not at all, I think it would make me very uneasy. They sound like a right pair of weirdos, somehow creepier because the woman watches you as well, I don’t know what to suggest, but I would keep your distance.

EllanVannin Thu 08-Apr-21 21:34:25

They sound as though they need something to do. Life must be so boring for them.
I'd get a tailors dummy and stick it in the garden----with its bare behind facing them grin

Esspee Thu 08-Apr-21 21:23:40

An elderly gentleman across the road used to watch me and it creeped me out. He died recently and I still find myself feeling uncomfortable working in the front garden.
You are not being over sensitive but I have no idea what you can do.

Kamiso Thu 08-Apr-21 21:22:39

Sounds weird. Can you afford to have a higher fence or buy a tree that blocks or impedes their view? Have you considered moving?

Grannybags Thu 08-Apr-21 21:13:20

I don' think you are being over sensitive it all sounds rather weird

Shinamae Thu 08-Apr-21 21:10:41

No, I don’t think you’re being over sensitive at all, it is very creepy behaviour......

seastar Thu 08-Apr-21 21:08:43

Just want to run this past you all in case I'm being over sensitive.

The man next door has always been a bit creepy. He watches me when I'm in the garden weeding from behind a curtain in his upstairs window. He'll do this all the time I'm in the garden and it makes me feel uneasy. His wife watches me from behind the front room curtains. They are intensely private and they hate it when someone knows what they are doing. I can't confront them as they have become extremely aggressive in the past and they don't talk to anyone. If they see me they hide until I have gone. My husband died about 2 years ago and the lady next door gave me a big hug but now it has gone back to normal.

I received a message from Linkedin which said that my profile had been looked at. Usually it is people I don't know but yesterday I discovered that it was the bloke next door. I've deleted my profile now. I feel invaded especially as the man is very creepy and watches what I am doing. He has always done this and his wife has always watched from the front. I find it creepy. Am I being over sensitive?