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Call from her bank to my very elderly mum.

(32 Posts)
jeanie99 Sat 08-May-21 14:06:40

I can't imagine any bank phoning your mum out of the blue.

Contact your mums bank.

Buy her a phone which only allows people from her contacts list getting through.
She only will need to put the phone down they will soon get tired of ringing if it's a scam.

She will also be able to block numbers.

MerylStreep Sat 08-May-21 12:34:44

I support an elderly ( can get confused) neighbour who gets regular phone calls from NatWest. In fact last week they sent her a beautiful hamper.
I too am a little concerned that she might fall for the lovely young man on the phone
I do, in a subtle way try to educate her in these calls. I have to be careful as she gets very defensive if there’s any suggestion that she might be getting confused.

eazybee Sat 08-May-21 12:28:25

I would go into the Bank, preferably with your mother, and ask them about these calls, who is making them and why.
It does sound like a scam to me.
If it is a genuine concern to protect an elderly customer, you can set up a code/password for future contact.

M0nica Sat 08-May-21 12:12:12

Scam or not, it means your mother is more like to respond to a spam call when she does get it because she is so accustomed to getting regular calls from the bank.

The bank should be told, in wrting, with your mothesigned consent that if they need to phone her they must phone you, possibly change the phone number on the account to yours.

It then means that your mother will know with absolute confidence that anyone ringing her claiming to be the bank, are scammers and she should just put the receiver down.

Namsnanny Sat 08-May-21 11:41:07

I would be concerned for the same reasons as you are nonogran
TBH I dont know if it is a scam or not but it certainly sounds as like it.

Peasblossom Sat 08-May-21 11:33:21

I’d definitely get in touch with the bank. I’m pretty certain they’ll confirm this is a scam. Your mum’s being groomed.

Nonogran Sat 08-May-21 11:28:09

Am I being unreasonable to ask my mum's bank to stop phoning her to enquire if she is OK or has any worries they can help with? Apparently, if so, they will engage with the "authorities" to obtain their support for her.
On the surface all well & good but if my mum gets lulled into a false sense of security when "that nice man from the bank" calls & gives away information better not shared, I'm afraid that actually it might not be him, but a scam call.
My mum is well into her nineties, sees family throughout the week and has no dementia issues at all. She is totally ambulant, in good health for her great age and certainly has no welfare issues.
Was I unreasonable to ask her bank to stop calling her? Mum's in agreement that they should stop.