TV problems - DH's attitude

It sounds as if you need someone to set it up for you, also its a good idea to have his and hers TV. Then you can both watch what you want. He used to have his TV up in the bedroom, did away with him saying " you're not watching this rubbish are you".

Speak to your son in law .again about it. Those people who programme things ate usually very good at sorting out our problems with technology. I know my Son in law is.

He wants it all his own way doesn`t he. I would refuse to pay half the subscriptions and use the money to buy my own TV. I know you paid half for this new one but he isnt going to `allow` you watch it as you want to.

You are being perfectly reasonable. I would change the settings to how you want them. He will have to change them back for his stuff. I actually don’t think he knows what he is doing. We watch on various platforms and I have a 3 way adapter plugged in the HDMI slot. Your new tv should already have more than one slot.

If the old remote has packed up, can’t you at least use the new remote until you get a new old type one, as presumably he can’t watch the channels he wants for football at the moment anyway.You never know he might like the better picture and not want to go back to the old one? Sorry if I have missed something, or repeated what has already been discussed, I haven’t read the full thread, and am not very tech savvy! You are not being unreasonable btw.

It’s get a grip time Trish. Irritating and non instinctive as it is you can do it. Now is definitely included in your smart TVs. I haven’t even got a smart TV but use a kindle dongle with Alexa and have recently unsubscribed from Now as I dip in and out for films... expensive). Husband would need it for sky sport. Don’t you pay for it. It’s a great feeling when you can do it yourself men really haven’t got a tech y brain any more than you have a cake baking one..

Trisha57

Aaaaaand......... I've ordered it!!!

Thank you so much to all those who have commented and helped me make up my mind. StatenIsland, I now know a million times more about Smart TVs and thingummy sticks than I did yesterday!

Trisha, Excellent news. I hope the NOW Smart stick resolves the problem and you can finally start to enjoy your new TV and all its features. Do report back and let us know how you get on.

I don’t think you are being unreasonable but I do think you should stand your ground. Why pay half for something that you can’t use?

You only need one tv license no matter how many tellys you have. x

I am amazed that this has gone to three pages! Lots of posters watching different TVs - must be a common problem! Just to be clear, he doesn't control what we watch and when, just HOW we watch it! Because NowTV isn't an installed app on our TV as it isn't compatible, we watch everything via the TalkTalk box, which gives an inferior picture (although still very good, not as good as if we viewed via the TV itself). He does watch his football when it is on, and also some tennis, but it's the principle that's bugging me most, not what he watches. Anyway, I think I may have solved the problem, with a little help from my Gransnet friends, by ordering a NowTV stick for his birthday and insisting that it is plugged in! The payment for the subscription to NowTV is another issue, but not the main one. I'm dealing with that by reducing the amount I pay into our joint bills account by precisely half the cost of NowTV.........

lovebeigecardigans1955, your tv licence covers all tv's in the household so you can have 5 in every room if you want to!

Trisha 57 You don't have to buy a new tv, if the worst came to the worst, you could buy a NOWTV stick and use the remote that comes with that to access the sport. However, a new Smart tv should have NOWTV accessed through the APPS so it shouldn't be too difficult to set up, you just need to input the account details once you have downloaded it.

I am quite tech savvy but I must admit that our new tv has taken me a bit of a while to get my head around. Perhaps your husband just needs someone to set up the tv with the new remote and then he can write down how to access the channels he wants.

I think you husband is wrong and just doesn’t understand how to use the new TV

I’m pretty sure on the smart TV option you can get all the channels and apps you need

We have two smart TVs and watch all the things you mention It just has to be organised and set up properly x

Good luck

TV apart I think it’s a bit sad that as a couple you are saying I paid for half and he is doing this and I don’t like it. Surely you buy a television, get someone who knows to set it up properly, throw away the old remote and enjoy the benefits of your new TV and talk to each other about channel choices or have two TVs - a his and hers in different rooms if you clash.

This is the beginning of coersive control.
He is clearly afraid of new technology. Nothing wrong with that many of us are. However, you have a right to exercise your wish to use your part of the joint subscriptions, or not, using the new gadget. I suggest that you get someone in to sort out the situation and write down the instructions. The next move would be to get an equally good TV to use in a different room. Holding up your hand with palm facing towards him and saying "No, this is unacceptable" is a very powerful psychological statement, it cannot be misunderstood. It will also shake him to his core. Then you get to say what you really want.

Similar thing here. My husband ordered a massive TV without talking to me - but we have 2 remotes. One for the tv itself + sky came at my husband request + we were given a new smaller different sky remote.As bigger old one didn't connect..

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I’m thinking he’s possibly a typical male who doesn’t really understand the way the new tv/remote works so is using the old one to cover his lack of knowledge. My OH reckons to be good at tech but is actually really rubbish. He doesn’t read instructions properly. Am sure there are other reasons and no you’re not being unreasonable- but the fragile male ego could be a factor.

I love this… ‘reckons to be good at tech but is actually rubbish’! Sounds VERY familiar! ???

I think I must be very old fashioned but I don’t understand all the this ‘his money’ and ‘my money.’
However, in any case, your husband’s being very unreasonable.

My hubby totally dominates what is on the tv and drives me insane. We have two TVs - sky is on both and one of the TVs which is newer and has all the smart functions we can also access Now Tv, Netflix etc. This does involve the use of a second controller in that room but it’s only the press of a button....whilst I prefer to sit together in the evening there are days when we sit in separate rooms - better than missing everything you love on tv. Also sometimes I put headphones on, sit in the same room but watch something on my IPAd. I does make me mad occasionally as I will always let him have his choice on tv but it doesn’t work the other way round and I find if I have a soap on for half an hour he moans all the way through it and spoils the whole thing! Selfish behaviour really but at the end of the day it’s just tv.

Whatever the technicalities your husband is, of course, being unreasonable. Is this a one off or should you stand back and consider if this is a trend, that needs addressing? Sounds rather controlling to me.

Im lucky in that neither of my sons(18&22) like sport! But if they were, im sure they'd pay for it between them if they wanted it.

Yes stop paying for half the subscriptions that are just his! If he wants those, let him pay for them.

I got new bigger tv about a year ago and my son set it all up.and then he bought himself a bigger one a bit after that to watch tv & now tv & netflix all through his xbox.All work fine. I don't watch now tv, but he does, he tells me i could though if i want to.My tv works with both my tv remote, AND my sky remote just fine, and i only have the old sky+ box.A lot of buttons are preloaded on the tv remotes these days.(most annoying if you lean on it accidentally) my son uses a remote especially for the xbox for most of his (purchased separately, bit more expensive) If your Dh has trouble getting a channel he buys extra from sky maybe he should ring them for help first? If no joy ring a local satellite tv installer, who should be able to help.unless sky send one FOR FREE- but check, as theirs are dearer than local satellite guy.If none of that helps, make your hubby be the one buying another tv- why should you.?

My DH watches sport too, we have a Sky Sport subscription but he hardly ever watches it, seems a waste of money but we can't cancel until the year is up.
I actually got the Sky subscription which can operate TVs in different rooms which solves our problems We have a small TV in another room and can watch recordings from the main box there too.
As regards HD, I really don't notice much difference and HD recordings use up a lot more space on the box.
DH refuses to use technology if he can avoid it but has got surprisingly hooked on YouTube on our smart TV. Je actually prefers it to regular programming as he can watch videos on virtually any topic at all.

Your husband is being, in my view extremely unreasonable....enough said !

You can get a really good Smart TV from Sainsbury's or similar for under £250. Buy one for YOU, take control of this situation, it's really unfair and it will eat away at you.
Set up a little woman cave in another room, get a school-age child (!) to set it all up for you, and enjoy all your own favourite programmes, even on catch up, and let the other half do his thing. It's easily solved, oh and when you've bought your fab little TV, stop paying any money out on subs for his. Please do this, soon as possible while you feel motivated, don't just think about it, what is the worst that can happen.