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Married but not accepted by his family

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Scribbles Fri 21-May-21 17:27:24

By "family", I assume you mean your husband's adult children?
If so, perhaps it's time for him to tell them very firmly to grow up and stop behaving like mardy brats. He could also tell them that there will be no further financial help forthcoming until they learn to be civil to his new wife. They don't have to actually like you, just to be basically good mannered.

TBH, I find myself agreeing with Ellan - I would cerrtainly have thought long and hard before marrying into such a family. Sadly, love does not always conquer all.

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tanith Fri 21-May-21 17:26:42

Sounds like an awful family and your husband sounds just as awful, I’d be hitting the road.

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FlexibleFriend Fri 21-May-21 17:24:56

He needs to grow a pair.

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Hithere Fri 21-May-21 17:21:28

Your husband is not on your side.

He picks: his wife or his extended family

What is the deal with the prenup?
It sounds like it got signed for his extended family's benefit?

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crazyH Fri 21-May-21 17:18:03

They all turned up in ‘black’ for the wedding!!!!!!
I would have asked them to leave.

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EllanVannin Fri 21-May-21 17:13:07

IMHO, I wouldn't have married him.

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jamjak Fri 21-May-21 16:56:38

Two years ago I remarried. His family were horrified. They live close by but do nothing to assist him or keep him company, though constantly ask for money. We signed a very tight prenup which he said would reassure them that their inheritance was safe and that they would then "come around to the idea". Wedding was supposed to be just us two with two witnesses, but his entire family arrived all dressed in full black mourning gear and never even greeted me! I know that I have done nothing to alienate them as they refuse to be around me so have never even had a conversation with them.
Recently had a birthday and a card arrived in the post from one of them. Correct address but first name only - no surname. As they obviously know their father's surname, I have to assume that they refuse to acknowledge that it is mine now. It felt like a card to the family dog with only one name. Husband says that I should be grateful that I received a card. They can do no wrong in his eyes.
Any thoughts please?

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