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ExD Fri 02-Jul-21 09:58:04

I'm beginning to feel how I imagine German people felt when Hitler came to power, I'm afraid to speak of my feelings.
Emmerdale and Corrie both force fed us 'gay' propaganda this last week in a blatant attempt to make same sex love the new norm.
Whatever you say - it's not the way the majority of the population behave (though many do) and although I'm content for people to follow their natural inclinations in this department - why do TV programmers force feed it to us?
I mean, how many gays can one village (or street) contain as a percentage?
I know I'll be shot down for being homophobic, but I don't feel I dare criticise this policy - which makes me uneasy. I feel the Thought Police are here, and soon our neighbours and family will be encouraged to inform on those who speak out.
This is not an invitation for you to sling mud at me and call me a horrible person, although you can if you wish, I'd seriously like to know how many other people felt uncomfortable with the storylines, and the self congratulatory trend of the writers.

Blossoming Tue 06-Jul-21 12:13:13

When Coronation Street first started in 1960 homosexuality was still illegal. I haven’t watched it for years but I’m glad it’s moved on since then. The sexual offences act 1967 decriminalised home sexuality but the age of consent for gays was 21 until 1994, and 18 until 2001, when it was finally brought in line at 16. It sounds to me as if these storylines are reflecting real life and the changing nature of society, albeit exaggerated to make good television. After all, Midsomer surely wouldn’t have that many murders in real life.

If anyone disagrees with the law maybe they should write to their MP, though why anybody would disagree with it is beyond me. I’d find an ‘anti gay’ political movement far more frightening.

As you were.

GillT57 Tue 06-Jul-21 13:58:09

After all, Midsomer surely wouldn’t have that many murders in real life. What must it do for house prices? grin

Blossoming Tue 06-Jul-21 14:01:10

GillT57 a property developer could make a killing grin

jeanrobinson Tue 06-Jul-21 17:06:15

I believe in the principle: 'I may not agree with what you say,
but I will defend to the death, your right to say it.'
Democracy depends on such beliefs.

muffinthemoo Tue 06-Jul-21 18:05:45

There are so many gays on television now. It never used to be like this. Prime time light entertainment used to be full of strong heterosexual types like Frankie Howerd, Charles Hawtrey, Kenny Everett, Julian Clary, Eddie Izzard, Graham Chapman, Kenneth Williams, Michael Barrymore, Stephen Fry, Stanley Baxter, Larry Grayson, Gordon Kaye, Dustin Gee, John Sessions, Tony Slattery, Rosie O’Donnell, Ellen DeGeneres, Sue Perkins, Sandi Toksvig, Graham Norton, Paul O’Grady, Derren Brown, Clare Balding, Philip Schofield, Andi Peters, Christopher Biggins, Mark Curry, Alan Freeman, Dale Winton, Richard Wilson, Eddie Mair….

Blossoming Tue 06-Jul-21 18:10:47

muffinthemoo. I applaud you, finest GN comment ever.

Lucca Tue 06-Jul-21 18:11:14

muffinthemoo

There are so many gays on television now. It never used to be like this. Prime time light entertainment used to be full of strong heterosexual types like Frankie Howerd, Charles Hawtrey, Kenny Everett, Julian Clary, Eddie Izzard, Graham Chapman, Kenneth Williams, Michael Barrymore, Stephen Fry, Stanley Baxter, Larry Grayson, Gordon Kaye, Dustin Gee, John Sessions, Tony Slattery, Rosie O’Donnell, Ellen DeGeneres, Sue Perkins, Sandi Toksvig, Graham Norton, Paul O’Grady, Derren Brown, Clare Balding, Philip Schofield, Andi Peters, Christopher Biggins, Mark Curry, Alan Freeman, Dale Winton, Richard Wilson, Eddie Mair….

???? great post

JaneJudge Tue 06-Jul-21 18:13:42

grin grin grin grin

Whatdayisit Tue 06-Jul-21 18:31:39

Well i never Muffinthemoo and the sad part of it that so many have had to keep quiet about who they are.

Kandinsky Tue 06-Jul-21 18:34:37

muffinthemoo
They weren’t snogging each other on a 7.30pm family soap though were they.
So point spectacularly missed.

Lucca Tue 06-Jul-21 18:36:57

No sorry point spectacularly made

Kandinsky Tue 06-Jul-21 18:43:32

Not at all Lucca.
Of course there’s always been gay people on TV, the vast majority openly gay, but we’re talking about a soap where gay men are kissing, that crosses a line for some people.
So trying to compare the wonderful Larry Grayson to gay men kissing in soaps is a bit crass.

MerylStreep Tue 06-Jul-21 18:44:29

jeanrobinson

I believe in the principle: 'I may not agree with what you say,
but I will defend to the death, your right to say it.'
Democracy depends on such beliefs.

Do you remember the court case where a street preacher was charged with ‘inflammatory language’ against homosexuals.
Peter Tatchell defended him.

Galaxy Tue 06-Jul-21 18:45:17

Yep only closeted gay men are acceptable. What a way to ask people to live their life.

Kandinsky Tue 06-Jul-21 18:50:52

So gay men will only exist if they’re in Coronation Street? grin Played by straight men in at least 2 cases btw

Listen, I personally couldn’t care less, but I thought muffinthemoo post was actually quite insulting.

Galaxy Tue 06-Jul-21 19:01:49

No that wasnt what I was saying. I was pointing out that Larry Grayson was only acceptable on TV because he wasnt open about being gay, whilst at the same time being very camp, it's always been a very odd contradiction. So he and others like him had to hide who he was (whilst not hiding at allsmile) because people cant cope with reality.

Blossoming Tue 06-Jul-21 19:12:38

So gay men will only exist if they’re in Coronation Street?

Said nobody ever.

I see the OP hasn’t been back to defend their views.

Callistemon Tue 06-Jul-21 19:45:15

Galaxy

No that wasnt what I was saying. I was pointing out that Larry Grayson was only acceptable on TV because he wasnt open about being gay, whilst at the same time being very camp, it's always been a very odd contradiction. So he and others like him had to hide who he was (whilst not hiding at allsmile) because people cant cope with reality.

But everyone knew and no-one made an issue about it.

Likewise with so many other people in muffin's list and others.

Likewise no-one made an issue about other comedians/celebrities who were/are heterosexual.

They just were/are people.
It shouldn't be relevant.

Callistemon Tue 06-Jul-21 19:49:20

I see the OP hasn’t been back to defend their views.

I'm not surprised.
As one of our older Gransnetters, ExD may well have been frightened away by some of the posts.

Alegrias1 Tue 06-Jul-21 19:52:45

muffinthemoo wins the internet ???

Alan Freeman bless him, I didn't know.

Callistemon Tue 06-Jul-21 19:56:59

Really?
Alan Freeman, DJ in Tasmania, wore fluffy jumpers so gained the nickname Fluff.
On Radio Luxembourg which I used to listen to on my transistor radio, hidden under the bed clothes so Mum couldn't hear it!
He had such a lovely voice.

Alegrias1 Tue 06-Jul-21 20:00:48

I had to google it Call and yes, its that Alan Freeman,

In a way its good I didn't know, because it doesn't matter. But in another, I hope that doesn't mean that he had to keep it secret.

Galaxy Tue 06-Jul-21 20:01:48

I agree that it shouldn't be relevant but it is if people complain about gay men kissing on soaps whilst being happy about straight people kissing on soaps. Then it is relevant.

Alegrias1 Tue 06-Jul-21 20:12:41

Agreed Galaxy.

muffinthemoo Tue 06-Jul-21 20:19:58

I hope that some day, people will be able to be shown kissing a consensual adult partner of their choice at 7.30pm, regardless of that partner’s race, gender, disability status, or anything else that makes our very existence “crass” and “insulting” or “offends” people.

I hope that some day we all are accepted as real people with real feelings and real relationships, and not kept as sexless circus turns hosting game shows.

I hope some day not to disgust and insult people by the unchangeable fact of how I was born. I am sorry I am intrinsically offensive, despite living as a straight person. I didn’t choose to be how I am, and I have never hurt anyone by it either. I promise you, it would have been a lot easier to be born straight, and if I could change who I am, I would in an instant. I was raised in an environment that did not allow me to accept myself for me. I don’t ever want that for any other young person.

I hope that mine is the very last generation that didn’t have the right to a spouse and (adopted) children under the law because the chosen life partner was the ‘wrong’ gender.

I hope some day, the closet goes the way of jail and chemical castration and all the indignities heaped upon people like Alan Turing because he didn’t know how to pretend to be someone else.

I want young LGBT people to grow up without shame for just being who they are. I want us not to have to hide who we are and who we love anymore.

It seems like so little. Then some days I remember that for some folk, it is still too much to give us. I hope to live long enough to see that change.