Husband refusing to take COVID test

I'd definitely say no test, no visit and stick to my guns.

TBH if he doesn't like her, he shouldn't go anyway.

Top reply Infinity2.

Awesome. Thanks for the info. I've never done a test because I dont mix apart from outdoors but I will need to take one soon in order to visit someone vulnerable and it has worried me since someone told me they caused cancer (mind you they were an anti vaxxer)

Elegran

If he is concerned about the strong chemicals used in the test, remind him that the chemicals never touch you - you add two drops to the sample after it leaves your mouth/nose and then wait for the reaction. You would need to be really stupid with it to come to any harm.

It's the sterilization of the swabs that people are getting bothered about.

Ethylene Oxide is the sterilising compound onward
Here's the info:
fullfact.org/online/lateral-flow-tests-ethylene-oxide/
less harmful than bleach with less residue

Why not ask him to stay inside for 2 weeks instead? That's what my daughter did when she visited her grandmother in pre-testing days.

Sometimes it’s fear that stops us doing this. I think he’s doing the I’m ok so why should I test thing.?

If he is concerned about the strong chemicals used in the test, remind him that the chemicals never touch you - you add two drops to the sample after it leaves your mouth/nose and then wait for the reaction. You would need to be really stupid with it to come to any harm.

It's probably because he's read about the harmful chemicals in the test. Ask him if he's concerned about those.

It's best he stays at home. Your Mum, your rules.

He is being totally unreasonable.
Has he got a reputation for being deliberately obstructive because if my OH became like that I would be reconsidering our relationship no matter how long we'd been together.

To be honest I think he should take the test to put your mind at rest at the very least....and the fact that he refuses would definitely make me say no test, no visit but also make me ponder on his lack of willingness to compromise to save me worry!

It’s not about him, it’s about your dear mum, God bless her. Give your husband a kick up the behind and tell him to stop being so selfish.
If he won’t do it, make him stay at home.
Better safe than sorry. Even the double jabbed can still pass it on.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.
We both took a home lateral flow test before we visited our daughter while she was pregnant. She hadn't been vaccinated at the time but we'd had both.
It reassured her and her partner.

No test no visit

I cant see why he wont take the test given your Mothers frailty, and your feelings on it.
If you are really worried say you are going on your own.

I can see both sides of this. If you're both jabbed and have no symptoms, I wouldn't be inclined to take a test either. But it's not a huge ask to do one either. I'm not sure what the right answer is but I hope you work it out.