MamaCaz
25Avalon
But nobody asked if the named recipient was happy to have their parcel delivered elsewhere. EP is not. He wants it delivered to him personally. This is what he has paid for. Why should he traipse everywhere to get his parcel? If he is in why isn’t it delivered directly to him. I can see his point. We don’t expect the postman to deliver our mail to someone else - it could be private and personal.
That's very true, and like you, I can perfectly understand EP's reasoning there.
That is something that he (?) needs to take up with the delivery companies, making it quite clear in his delivery instructions that his parcel must under no circumstances be left at another address, and that if it is, he will hold the delivery company responsible for retrieving it and delivering to the correct address.
Where, IMO, his views become unreasonable is in his attitude towards neighbours who kindly accept such a parcel when asked, and his assertion that they have then taken on the responsibility of 'completing' the delivery.
He doesn't seem to understand the concept of simple neighbourliness.
Nevertheless, I suspect that EP sees things (in general, not just this one issue) very much in black and white, with little or no overlap between.
I don't mean that unkindly in any way, and if that is the case, fair enough, we are all different and he is as entitled to his opinion as the rest of us.
However, it would also mean that no matter how hard we try, our opinions are not going to make one jot of difference ...
Yes, I am male.
> Where, IMO, his views become unreasonable is in his attitude towards neighbours who kindly accept such a parcel when asked, and his assertion that they have then taken on the responsibility of 'completing' the delivery.
The key phrase that you write is "hen asked".
If the parcel recipient has asked them to do that, then fine, collect it or they bring it round, as arranged. Yes, normally collect, but maybe they have meals to get and want to watch television so offer to bring it round when convenient for them, or maybe because the recipient is old and would have difficulty carrying it.
The issue being discussed is whether it is reasonable for people to take in a parcel when asked by a delivery driver with no knowledge of the views of the recipient and then expecting the recipient to come and ask them for the parcel rather than delivering it and feeling annoyed if the recipient does not do that.
So I don't agree with the majority, well that is how it is. Like people at the time who said slavery in Britain and its colonies was wrong, like women who got the idea that women should be allowed to vote, like people who thought women should be allowed to be members of the stock exchange.
He doesn't seem to understand the concept of simple neighbourliness.