Taking in parcels for neighbours

I take in parcels for my neighbours & visa versa but I always ask the delivery driver to put a note through their door telling them that I have it.as I too do not like traipsing next door with packages in all weathers . How long can you have a package for before they collect it ?

I am guilty of not always going straight away to collect parcel. If I get in and am rushing around I think I must grab that parcel then sometimes they bring it. I don’t always see when they arrive home to take parcel to them if I taken one in. I wouldn’t refuse a parcel, if they didn’t collect, if your home anyway I don’t think it’s a big deal. It’s just nice and neighbourly

Yes but luckily not very often ?it’s our next door neighbour too who never comes to get it?

unfortunately the delivery person does not put a card through the door of the parcel owner because it involves going back to that house and he is paid by each parcel delivered! he may say he has put a card through but he hasn't!

said this earlier but ignored

Seems to be a lot of mean spirited people on here.
It's give and take: I've taken in parcels for neighbours, especially a young couple up the road who are out at work, and others have taken in parcels for me when I've been out or away. I have no problem taking small parcels to the recipients, or in the case of the couple up the road, who have a security gate and 2 dogs on patrol, waiting for them to collect when they get home.
Mutual benefit I think, and saves everyone having to arrange redelivery or go to the sorting office.
By the way, our lovely postman always asks politely if we will take in others' parcels, he never takes it for granted.

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Because they have done a nice thing for the intended recipient, by preventing the parcel being returned to sender and having to be re-sent, presumably involving more costs for the recipient, not to mention the environmental costs.

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Maybe because they wanted the goods and paid for them so should be bothered enough to collect them?

Alright, a scenario. She lives alone. She ordered some underwear mailorder. The delivery driver has left it with the man in the house opposite. She knows that his wife fled to a refuge. The delivery driver has given him an excuse to interact with her. She is worried. What does she do? Would she ever wear that underwear as she knows it has been in his house with him? She looks from her window at his house and knows her parcel is in there.

What a creepy thing to write.

Our Main Street has no name Lots of houses are barn conversions , Farms or farm buildings turned into houses. We all help each other some people come for their parcels others bring yours. It was good when we first moved in as I got to know quite a few people that way.
Must admit one parcel went missing for months and was brought by a very sheepish man four doors up and said it had been in their unused garage for months. The name of their house is practically the same as ours and one of those dropdown menus had been used and the wrong house on the label. When we phoned to enquire we were told it was in the garage which it was but not mine.

I agree, why can’t we all just be nice, what happened to doing something just because it’s the decent thing to do and would people really feel better saying no as I always have to drop it round

I take in for the lady opposite and then if I see her coming home I give her a shout or drop it over. I don't mind as she's really friendly and I know she would do it for me. I keep a large plastic box down the side of my bungalow and now my delivery people know go drop it in it for me.

It would just be nice to have my parcel delivered. Our Hermes lady will not deliver to anyone along our track because she has a mini - she now sends parcels back without attempting delivery as has just happened! So I have to use a nice neighbour who lives at the bottom of the track and she is happy to bring them to me or I collect if they're too big. When she delivers to the neighbour she has said "It's for 'er up there"!!

I should add I have to use the neigbour's address - f I use mine then they go back! Complain? I have tried!

I would leave it until they come to collect it. Its good of you to take it in for them so the least they could do is collect it from you

SueDonim

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Because they have done a nice thing for the intended recipient, by preventing the parcel being returned to sender and having to be re-sent, presumably involving more costs for the recipient, not to mention the environmental costs.

They have done a nice thing for the delivery driver.

It is in their mind that they have done a nice thing "for" the recipient.

On what basis do they then assume that they can expect the person to come and ask them for it and do nothing about delivering it?

What if the recipient in unable to carry it?

RosesAreRed21

I would leave it until they come to collect it. Its good of you to take it in for them so the least they could do is collect it from you

Provided they know! As has been mentioned not all couriers leave cards.

I think most of us will go and collect. However on more than one occasion I've been arriving home and my neighbour is calling me and bringing a parcel she's taken in for me.

It's just being neighbourly and pleasant. Give and take.

And some people deem nobody at home if nobody is there within about five seconds. I swear some couriers think I spend my life standing inside my front door waiting for the bell to ring!

I rather like being a postie for my neighbours. I don't find it a problem at all and I certainly don't mind taking it around for them. It saves them ringing the doorbell at an inconvenient moment.

I've always taken parcels for my neighbour but 1 went missing. Not taken by me as I wasn't in but now noone accepts or is allowed their parcels. I have a safe place so my parcels never go anywhere but to mine.
I always take parcels to their Recipients as soon as I know they are in

SueDonim

^Alright, a scenario. She lives alone. She ordered some underwear mailorder. The delivery driver has left it with the man in the house opposite. She knows that his wife fled to a refuge. The delivery driver has given him an excuse to interact with her. She is worried. What does she do? Would she ever wear that underwear as she knows it has been in his house with him? She looks from her window at his house and knows her parcel is in there.^

What a creepy thing to write.

I was told such a thing was unlikely.

So, as I had been to creative writing class, and writing promptly generating a scenario given some basic concept was part of what we did, I responded to the challenge.

It is exploring human nature.

We are more than happy to take parcels in for our neighbours, and they for us, and we will take said parcels to them once we know they're home again, and of course collect ours promptly.

As I shop almost totally online now I get a lot of deliveries. I don't want to inconvenience our neighbours too often, so we have a large parcel box by our front door. Although we're not often out if I'm just in the garden I can't hear the door bell/delivery man. Our postman and the local couriers are quite happy to leave parcels in the box, with the exception of DPD who refuse because the box isn't lockable. It's not visible from the street and it's a very quiet village.

Occasionally cards are not left telling us (or our neighbours) that a parcel has been left elsewhere, so we don't know to go and collect it. Also there are two other houses with the same number within 50 yards of us which can cause confusion. Before the pandemic our local Post Office accepted parcels from any delivery service for people to pick them up, but now they don't do it anymore and the P.O. only opens 3 days a week.

For us the most annoying thing about deliveries is when parcels are thrown over the side gate rather than leave them in the parcel box (DPD again!) and things get broken. When I complained I was told the delivery person had opened the gate to put the parcel in a safe place. Because of the way the gate locks he could not have opened it so had to have thrown it over.

How rude. If you are ever in need I think you will find with your attitude people with be unlikely to help you no matter what the problem. I certainly wouldn't.

If you pay for delivery then unless you have specified a safe place or neighbour then it should be delivered to your door. This is what Hermes state they do but some of their couriers don’t.

Usually most carriers text or email to tell you when your parcel will be delivered within an hour. If you aren’t in, a card should be put through the door telling you they will try again the next day or do you have a neighbour. Nowadays they don’t usually go direct to a neighbour without your permission. This has arisen during the pandemic. They don’t even need a signature if they take a photo. So much quicker than faffing around looking for a neighbour. Problems arise when it’s not your door.

We've been caught a few times.
One neighbour rarely collects "oh I didn't come in case you were eating" - sure I'm fat but actually only eat the usual 3 meals a day, not trough thenwhole day. She prefers the other neighbour to have her stuff anyway so I send any one there!!

The other side are great at collecting but it's a standing joke with them that the minute I see them loading their car for a few days away I know they will get a parcel!!

Sorry that was aimed at elderlyperson