Taking in parcels for neighbours

I've always taken parcels for my neighbour but 1 went missing. Not taken by me as I wasn't in but now noone accepts or is allowed their parcels. I have a safe place so my parcels never go anywhere but to mine.
I always take parcels to their Recipients as soon as I know they are in

I rather like being a postie for my neighbours. I don't find it a problem at all and I certainly don't mind taking it around for them. It saves them ringing the doorbell at an inconvenient moment.

And some people deem nobody at home if nobody is there within about five seconds. I swear some couriers think I spend my life standing inside my front door waiting for the bell to ring!

RosesAreRed21

I would leave it until they come to collect it. Its good of you to take it in for them so the least they could do is collect it from you

Provided they know! As has been mentioned not all couriers leave cards.

I think most of us will go and collect. However on more than one occasion I've been arriving home and my neighbour is calling me and bringing a parcel she's taken in for me.

It's just being neighbourly and pleasant. Give and take.

SueDonim

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Because they have done a nice thing for the intended recipient, by preventing the parcel being returned to sender and having to be re-sent, presumably involving more costs for the recipient, not to mention the environmental costs.

They have done a nice thing for the delivery driver.

It is in their mind that they have done a nice thing "for" the recipient.

On what basis do they then assume that they can expect the person to come and ask them for it and do nothing about delivering it?

What if the recipient in unable to carry it?

I would leave it until they come to collect it. Its good of you to take it in for them so the least they could do is collect it from you

I should add I have to use the neigbour's address - f I use mine then they go back! Complain? I have tried!

It would just be nice to have my parcel delivered. Our Hermes lady will not deliver to anyone along our track because she has a mini - she now sends parcels back without attempting delivery as has just happened! So I have to use a nice neighbour who lives at the bottom of the track and she is happy to bring them to me or I collect if they're too big. When she delivers to the neighbour she has said "It's for 'er up there"!!

I take in for the lady opposite and then if I see her coming home I give her a shout or drop it over. I don't mind as she's really friendly and I know she would do it for me. I keep a large plastic box down the side of my bungalow and now my delivery people know go drop it in it for me.

I agree, why can’t we all just be nice, what happened to doing something just because it’s the decent thing to do and would people really feel better saying no as I always have to drop it round

Our Main Street has no name Lots of houses are barn conversions , Farms or farm buildings turned into houses. We all help each other some people come for their parcels others bring yours. It was good when we first moved in as I got to know quite a few people that way.
Must admit one parcel went missing for months and was brought by a very sheepish man four doors up and said it had been in their unused garage for months. The name of their house is practically the same as ours and one of those dropdown menus had been used and the wrong house on the label. When we phoned to enquire we were told it was in the garage which it was but not mine.

Alright, a scenario. She lives alone. She ordered some underwear mailorder. The delivery driver has left it with the man in the house opposite. She knows that his wife fled to a refuge. The delivery driver has given him an excuse to interact with her. She is worried. What does she do? Would she ever wear that underwear as she knows it has been in his house with him? She looks from her window at his house and knows her parcel is in there.

What a creepy thing to write.

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Maybe because they wanted the goods and paid for them so should be bothered enough to collect them?

ElderlyPerson

Why do people have the belief that the onus is on the person to whom the parcel is addressed to come and collect it?

Because they have done a nice thing for the intended recipient, by preventing the parcel being returned to sender and having to be re-sent, presumably involving more costs for the recipient, not to mention the environmental costs.

Seems to be a lot of mean spirited people on here.
It's give and take: I've taken in parcels for neighbours, especially a young couple up the road who are out at work, and others have taken in parcels for me when I've been out or away. I have no problem taking small parcels to the recipients, or in the case of the couple up the road, who have a security gate and 2 dogs on patrol, waiting for them to collect when they get home.
Mutual benefit I think, and saves everyone having to arrange redelivery or go to the sorting office.
By the way, our lovely postman always asks politely if we will take in others' parcels, he never takes it for granted.

unfortunately the delivery person does not put a card through the door of the parcel owner because it involves going back to that house and he is paid by each parcel delivered! he may say he has put a card through but he hasn't!

said this earlier but ignored

Yes but luckily not very often ?it’s our next door neighbour too who never comes to get it?

I am guilty of not always going straight away to collect parcel. If I get in and am rushing around I think I must grab that parcel then sometimes they bring it. I don’t always see when they arrive home to take parcel to them if I taken one in. I wouldn’t refuse a parcel, if they didn’t collect, if your home anyway I don’t think it’s a big deal. It’s just nice and neighbourly

I take in parcels for my neighbours & visa versa but I always ask the delivery driver to put a note through their door telling them that I have it.as I too do not like traipsing next door with packages in all weathers . How long can you have a package for before they collect it ?

RicePudding613794

I don’t have a problem taking parcels for most of our neighbours, and everyone is great about doing it for others where we live. Our postmen are great about putting cards in so the recipients know to come and get their parcels too.
I do refuse to take for my next door neighbour though…a parcel arrived before Christmas a few years ago, which was obviously a large toy for their kids. If they had asked me if I’d mind holding on to it until they could get the chance to collect it and put it out of the way so the kids wouldn’t have seen it, I’d have been ok with that to a point, but it seemed they were content to leave it with us until Christmas Eve, so I got fed up with it in my front room and took it to their door. The guy obviously knew what it was and I was greeted with an irritated, ‘Oh, I didn’t want the kids to see that!’, as if I should have held on to it. They are up-their-own-arse types anyway, so it really pissed me off and from then on I told our postman that I was sorry, but I wouldn’t take parcels for them any more.

Exactly my point RicePudding.

I take in parcels and sometimes drop them round if I see neighbours are home or wait until they collect. Few weeks ago one of my parcels was left with a neighbour and all I had was a photo of parcel, two hands and some feet. No name or number on the message and I had no idea who it was. Waited four days and eventually a neighbour I didn't know brought it round. I apologised for not collecting but explained why and showed her the photo?

I think the whole thing boils down to what sort of neighbours you have. With some people, their neighbours may very well be their friends, or just people they love to see...chat with etc.

For others...neighbours are literally a nightmare, and not the sort of people anyone would want to cross, let alone take responsibility for one of their parcels, as Georgesgran said.

So..no one should be judged for whatever decisions they make in this regard. Most people make them taking personal circumstances into account.

I don’t have a problem taking parcels for most of our neighbours, and everyone is great about doing it for others where we live. Our postmen are great about putting cards in so the recipients know to come and get their parcels too.
I do refuse to take for my next door neighbour though…a parcel arrived before Christmas a few years ago, which was obviously a large toy for their kids. If they had asked me if I’d mind holding on to it until they could get the chance to collect it and put it out of the way so the kids wouldn’t have seen it, I’d have been ok with that to a point, but it seemed they were content to leave it with us until Christmas Eve, so I got fed up with it in my front room and took it to their door. The guy obviously knew what it was and I was greeted with an irritated, ‘Oh, I didn’t want the kids to see that!’, as if I should have held on to it. They are up-their-own-arse types anyway, so it really pissed me off and from then on I told our postman that I was sorry, but I wouldn’t take parcels for them any more.

I take in parcels happily, however one neighbour would leave them for days before collecting, some were large boxes, so now I just say sorry to delivery driver I can’t take them in. All other Neigbours including myself collect after returning home.

I always ask the delivery person to put a note in the door of the person to whom they are delivering. I can see their door so I wait until the note is posted. I do not accept other people's deliveries unless they are close neighbours. Quite often I notice large parcels (boxes) stacked at neighbours' doors and phone them to let them know and it turns out they have not heard the doorbell or knock. I sound quite an interfering old besom but on this point I have very fixed rules.
I am happy to say my endeavours are reciprocated.