Thanks again for further replies.
To answer a few-
Although our cars aren’t used every day, they are still used quite often, particularly the one they hope to borrow. As stated previously, it’s not a small, ideal learner car, and to be honest, we have no intention of selling it yet, to DS or anyone else.
It worries me that if say, the clutch goes, it might be a case of “Well, it was probably on its way out anyhow”, and cause ill feeling on both sides.
DS and DIL can or should be well able to buy and insure a little car themselves, they usually have an expensive holiday every year, not happened with Covid, and have often said how much they have saved over the last 18 months, not going out etc.
I love DS and his family dearly, but over the last few years since we retired we have done a lot for them, school pick ups, babysitting, sleepovers, meals with us, help with decorating and gardening, etc. etc. I don’t begrudge any of it, but sometimes feel that DS just assumes we will do anything, and I honestly think we are one step removed from this and it’s up to him to sort it.
We paid for him and his sister to have driving lessons and practise in our car, 30 odd years ago, and I don’t think we need be involved again for the GC frankly.
Haven’t spoken to him since the request, feel it will be ‘the elephant in the room’ situation.