People who say 'remind me'

Thing is I would always text so someone the day before to check they're still OK for tomorrow.
And I totally understand that people forget sometimes. We all have busy lives.
It's the sort of command to be the one that remembers that bugs me. It does imply that you're the one with the less busy life and it's your job to make sure the meet up happens.

If it's a really really close friend who's inclined to be forgetful about everything and says 'now you know me, won't you remind me the day before' it's OK.

But this is someone I see a handful of times a year.

I sometimes use double alerts as well mollygo. Sometimes I will set one 24 hours in advance, sometimes a few hours in advance, but I always put on 30-45 minutes in advance, depending on how far I have to drive.

annodomini - I will nee to figure that out. I love Alexa. She is the only person in my house who listens to me when I tell her to turn the lights off.

There is, it seems, a way in which I can synch Alexa with my phone's calendar so that I can be be given verbal reminders instead of having to look them up on my phone or on the paper calendar hanging up in the kitchen. I must ask one or other of my DSs how to do it. Or perhaps I should just ask Alexa! My dentist is very good about reminding me when an appointment is due - two weeks before and again two days before.

Thank heavens for phones. I put everything on my phone with an alert one day before and another 2 hours before. I update after the first reminder so it tells me when to set off.

I don’t think I’d be irritated if someone said that to me, but to be honest, no one ever does. I put future plans into my phone calendar and check it each week so I know what I’m doing. I confess to saying ‘take care’ sometimes though. I would only ever say ‘bless him/her’ about a child, but may go the whole hog and say ‘bless his little cotton socks.’ My mother used to say that too, but only about a child.

This also bothers me beswitched. Anyone who knows me knows I have a wicked case of ADHD and can barely keep track of my own life. I can not possibly keep track of other's schedule as well.

One of the biggest reasons this bothers me is this, the person I am meeting is important enough to me to ensure I remember to attend, even with my ADHD. Technology makes it very easy to put things on a calendar and have it remind me. I use it because I know that, without it, I would forget.

I someone forgets once, I understand and move on. If it happens more than once, I think that I must not be important to that person, so I will find a new friend who does think I am important enough to remember our appointments.

I don't think it is necessarily about being reminded per se, rather just a check up that all is well to go ahead with the arrangement.

Take care is a phrase I use often, I suppose it is just an alternative to many other phrases used in closing a conversation. I don't think it is in any way condescending.

You could always answer with " remind me to remind you"

MerylStreep

I always say remind me. I do have a busy life and I do wright things on the calendar but I forget to look at the calendar ?

But everyone has busy lives, so why do they have to remember other people's commitments too? I have enough trouble keeping my own commitments straight. I'm not taking responsibility for someone else's as well. I remember mine (and those of the people I care for) by keeping a diary.

If someone needs reminding, it doesn't sound like whatever I've arranged with them is important enough, or something they are looking forward to enough, to remember on their own. If they don't show up, that's fine once, maybe once in a while. We all have our weak points and make mistakes. After that, they are just unreliable and I don't have the energy for that.

I always say remind me. I do have a busy life and I do wright things on the calendar but I forget to look at the calendar ?

Yes I would think it's a bit rude to say remind me. I would put it on the calendar.

I use take care a lot. I think it's a silly phrase but we all use it. ? I can't think of a better one.

She now tells me to ‘take risks mum’.

*only the bless bit. ?

Definitely getting better Millie thank you so much for your kindness asking, bless. x

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Blimey sounds a bit tough on people you call friends.

Oh dear, I rely on being reminded - or I may forget and not turn up. No insult is intended if I just say 'remind me'.

My husband is always asking me to remind him of things. The way he says it, it is clear he has delegated responsibility to me to remember. I respond: "I'll remind you if I remember but it's your responsibility to remember that, so no promises." It usually results in him writing it down since I haven't allowed him to offload responsibility and make it my problem. I have enough to remember already.

saying remind me… makes me think they do not really want to meet up but are to polite to say no then if texted nearer the time they can refuse by text.

I'm also forgetful and ask for reminders. I really hope people don't think me rude.

I'm terrible, I can write it down and lose it, I can put it on my phone calender with an alarm and forget immediately. My husband reminds me to take my tablets every night.

I don't even have a hugely busy social life and will often double book myself..

Remind your friend, maybe they are asking for a reminder because you matter and they don't want to forget

Aw I quite like 'take care' it's better than 'my dear' which people seem to be saying a lot lately. Hope you're feeling better Urms btw.

Yes, I would find it annoying. Put it in your diary you lazy g*t!

I suppose I’d have to think which would annoy me more; reminding them, or being stood up at the meeting place tomorrow

I don’t like “take care” “aw bless” or anything like that. It just sounds awful. Why wouldn’t you take care anyway?

Oh sodapop it’s me, not you! Our eldest daughter until recently used to say it at the end of many of our phone calls. Eventually I told her I didn’t like it and why. She now tells me to ‘take risks mum’.
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“Oh bless”
Now that’s condescending!

Oh dear I say "take care" quite a lot Urmstongran didn't realise it sounded condescending, I just want the recipient to know I do care about them

I admit I find it an irritating phrase. One friend kept saying it to me so eventually I smiled and said ‘no, put it in your diary - like me’.
Ditto ‘take care’ makes my teeth itch. Sounds condescending.