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Should I ‘fess up? Saga of the sausage pie.

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Baggs Fri 10-Dec-21 12:25:32

I once served a stew to some Mormon friends. I'd got it out of the freezer. Only remembered afterwards that I'd thrown in some cheap red wine ?. Never confessed. After all, what could they have done about it retrospectively? Also, they didn't knowingly consume any alcohol and it's the knowingly part that counts.

Baggs Fri 10-Dec-21 12:21:24

What cold said. Or make a pie using "vegan ground beef, which is made of mushrooms and ground almonds, plus whatever your magic gravy was.

This story kind of vindicates meat though – well, its tastiness anyhow wink

Zoejory Fri 10-Dec-21 12:16:41

Lease said, soonest mended.

No harm has come to your guests, Ignorance is bliss.

Just enjoy their company with your delicious vegan pie. Good advice from Cold re: couldn't get the same brand if they ask, which I doubt they will.

Cold Fri 10-Dec-21 12:14:12

Can you post the recipe?

Cold Fri 10-Dec-21 12:13:07

Don't confess

Make the pie with alternative vegetarian sausage - actually the "Beyond Meat" meatballs taste a lot like sausage (even DH will eat them) and we are using them to make veggie pigs in blankets www.beyondmeat.com/products/beyond-meatballs

If they say anything just say you couldn't get the same brand this time

PerserverencePays Fri 10-Dec-21 12:05:33

I wasn’t entertaining the idea of giving them meat again! That would be unforgivable. It will be properly vegan.
Would they want to know the mistake I made last time?

Nortsat Fri 10-Dec-21 12:00:03

Years ago, we had unexpected visitors for supper and I made spicy kebabs with minced pork.

I had no idea that one of visitors was Muslim and didn’t eat pork. It was only after we finished eating, the subject came up in conversation. Then I lied and said that the supper had been made with minced lamb. No one queried this.
I didn’t have the heart to explain.
I know it’s terrible and I have never confessed … even after all these years.

I would cook the meal this time with good veggie sausages (Linda McCartney’s are nice), a splash of red wine in the gravy and say nothing.
Good luck.

Elizabeth27 Fri 10-Dec-21 11:43:37

Nothing to be gained by telling them and some may be very upset. I would make it with vegan ingredients and say you couldn’t get the same sausages.

luluaugust Fri 10-Dec-21 11:40:26

I am amazed they didn't realise it was meat, thank goodness on your behalf. It is very easily done all the vegan and GF etc are in the same cabinet usually and I find I have to read all the backs. What a minefield it is nowadays a few years ago it was just everybody having different teas in our family now its all different diets.

PerserverencePays Fri 10-Dec-21 11:28:23

I’d like to know what they think too!

Kamiso Fri 10-Dec-21 11:22:12

theworriedwell

I'd keep shtum and just say you couldn't get the same sausages so it will be a bit different.

I think it would be upsetting for them to know now and nothing they can do about it. Might clear your conscience but I'd put their feelings first.

Seems like the best idea. It was a genuine mistake that can’t be rectified so move on.

Be interesting to know what our vegans and vegetarians think?

PerserverencePays Fri 10-Dec-21 11:19:20

I do feel it on my conscience but like you say, no good will come of telling them.

theworriedwell Fri 10-Dec-21 11:17:18

I'd keep shtum and just say you couldn't get the same sausages so it will be a bit different.

I think it would be upsetting for them to know now and nothing they can do about it. Might clear your conscience but I'd put their feelings first.

Liz46 Fri 10-Dec-21 11:16:27

Oh dear. My vote is for vegan this time. Good luck!

PerserverencePays Fri 10-Dec-21 11:10:44

A couple of years ago I was out and about when I got a family call to say could I rustle up a family dinner for that evening, vegan and gluten free? Not often seen family members were visiting. Sure, said I.
I’d left my reading glasses at home so when standing blurrily in front of Morrison’s free from chiller cabinet , I chose sausages and pastry. Then hurried off to get mushrooms, ice cream and chocolate for pud.
All went well; mushroom and sausage pie devoured, with much pressing for the recipe , I said it was all down to the gravy, then ice cream and chocolate ganache equally appreciated . It was only later that it occurred to me to check the packaging and the sausages were gluten free not meat free. I was mortified that I’d fed them meat. How awful but I never said a thing as couldn’t be changed.
They want to visit again and they want the sausage pie. Should I tell them what happened last time or keep shtum and make another,but vegan this time?