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Dishwasher and husband enraged

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HowVeryDareYou Wed 22-Dec-21 11:37:03

I recently posted about my husband ranting and swearing because he was struggling to mend the dishwasher (and I laughed every time he shouted and swore). New dishwasher arrived at 9am today, and he's still faffing about trying to install it (it's integrated). He says the screws they've sent are too short, so he's found some in his very messy shed. Now the door won't close. Swearing, shouting, etc/ BUT this time, I haven't got any Bailey's to enjoy grin

Ladyleftfieldlover Wed 29-Dec-21 16:10:56

Surely hiring a professional to do a job that you aren’t qualified for is the right thing to do? It helps independent and self-employed workers to make a living for one thing. When we were first married and short of money we bought MFI (remember them?) cupboards etc. OH would assemble them and there was always some disaster or other!

Calistemon Wed 29-Dec-21 16:02:03

Ro60

?? One of those - if you don't laugh, you cry times. Reminded me many years ago when DOH resolved the problem of my broken washing machine: he ordered a new one - more basic, Less reliable, Less 'features'. They delivery chaps installed it & took away the old(er) one - remarking all that had happened was a fuse had blown ?

He did try everything with the shredder but I had to stop him taking it apart to investigate further as that would invalidate the guarantee.

After an hour on the phone to sort it out, it's now packed up with a returns label on the box smile

janeainsworth Wed 29-Dec-21 15:56:46

Sue I learned a long time ago that if I wanted MrA to do something that was normally within his job description but which he was putting off, the easiest thing was to start it myself. He would quickly appear & take over & I could retire gracefully to my usual role of laundry fairy, cook, and general household manager.

SueDonim Thu 23-Dec-21 12:06:12

grin Dannierae!

DanniRae Thu 23-Dec-21 07:37:48

OMG SueDonim - that is exactly the kind of thing Mr R would say.......grrrrrr!!

SueDonim Thu 23-Dec-21 00:28:56

A number of years ago someone in my area started up a handyman business called Hire a Husband. I said they’d chosen the wrong name, because most of us females had resorted to using his company precisely because the husbands we already had had proven to be useless at the task they’d been given. grin

He did say he’d been called by a woman to install some IKEA shelves. They’d been sitting in their wrappings in the house for eleven years waiting to be installed by her husband. The Dh came home before the handyman had finished, and asked what was going on. She told him and he said ‘But I was going to put them up tomorrow!’ ???

Hetty58 Wed 22-Dec-21 23:59:08

I just have a go at anything, a firm believer in 'if you want it done properly, do it yourself'.

I've successfully installed two integrated dishwashers - but (quite a big but) I've put in a new floor since then - so I've no idea whether the current one will ever come out again.

Will the adjustable feet lower it enough or would I have to remove the worktop? - that's the question (so hoping it doesn't stop working).

Kittye Wed 22-Dec-21 23:05:58

Urmstongran I realised as soon as I’d posted ??

SpringyChicken Wed 22-Dec-21 22:58:56

There's an art to knowing which jobs to tackle and which to leave to the experts. He may be saving an installation fee but your husband is paying for it in other ways.

Granniesunite Wed 22-Dec-21 19:35:09

paddyann54

When my neighbour said they were getting a new kitchen fitted I asked why not do it yourself now you're both retired.She said" I dont know what would happen to the house if he attempted that...if a plug needs changing the first thing he looks for is a hammer ."
I am exceptionally lucky my OH can and does do anything needed in the house and the houses of family .He doesn't cook though but I can happily do that myself .

Think I might be your neighbour.. so funny…

Millie22 Wed 22-Dec-21 19:24:12

GSI every time. So much easier.

Aldom Wed 22-Dec-21 18:53:07

HowVeryDareYou

He's managed to do it, then he went to his shed for a while grin so I've given him a can of beer and mince pie for his hard work

I hope you warmed his mince pie!
Thank you for making me laugh out loud grin

MissAdventure Wed 22-Dec-21 18:21:16

My ex always used to sweat, too, when he was doing diy. (Sounds a bit rude!)
Anyway, he would end up with a tea towel on his head like Rambo, swearing his head off.

EllanVannin Wed 22-Dec-21 18:20:00

I nearly greased the stairs a few times gringringrin

EllanVannin Wed 22-Dec-21 18:17:20

It was always the size of the screws/ cross-threaded nuts and bolts with my late H.
I always knew straight away when he used to go into Meldrew mode " I don't believe it", then the swearing began grin
I used to scarper, laughing to myself of course.

Ro60 Wed 22-Dec-21 18:07:10

?? One of those - if you don't laugh, you cry times. Reminded me many years ago when DOH resolved the problem of my broken washing machine: he ordered a new one - more basic, Less reliable, Less 'features'. They delivery chaps installed it & took away the old(er) one - remarking all that had happened was a fuse had blown ?

Calistemon Wed 22-Dec-21 17:55:59

HowVeryDareYou

Apparently "They" never send the right size screws (whoever "They" are!)

I could hear DH swearing away this morning - at the new shredder which has stopped working already! Now he'll want me to sort out the return which may be easier and may stop him swearing at his computer
?

MissAdventure Wed 22-Dec-21 17:51:18

I am having to wean myself off having a go myself, because it inevitably ends in me having to pay someone to come and do it properly.
I can understand the mindset.
Fortunately I'm lazy, so that helps in getting someone else in.

HowVeryDareYou Wed 22-Dec-21 17:46:24

grandtanteJE65 Married 41 years. I'm certainly not slagging him off or suggesting he's no good at things - he's actually done lots of big jobs in our house, from rewiring the place, knocking down walls, creating a bathroom upstairs, plus many more things.

M0nica Wed 22-Dec-21 14:56:50

I am lucky, DH is good at fixing almost anything, and to be fair, enjoys it, although you would never know. He too is a a member of the blood sweat and swear words fraternity, plus the endless trips to DIY store, electrical wholesaler, Builders Merchant etc etc.

But he has one final touch. Having insisted that he would do the job himself, worked hard, blood sweat and tears etc and the job issuccessfully completed, he then turns to me and blames me for insisting he did it himself instead of getting a tradesman in.

Soroptimum Wed 22-Dec-21 14:45:56

Urmstongran

Kittye

The minute my husband says he’s going to mend something I’m online looking for a new one. ?

Gosh can you buy husbands on line these days? Do you get a 28 day refund?
??

Brilliant! ?

paddyann54 Wed 22-Dec-21 14:39:36

When my neighbour said they were getting a new kitchen fitted I asked why not do it yourself now you're both retired.She said" I dont know what would happen to the house if he attempted that...if a plug needs changing the first thing he looks for is a hammer ."
I am exceptionally lucky my OH can and does do anything needed in the house and the houses of family .He doesn't cook though but I can happily do that myself .

Urmstongran Wed 22-Dec-21 14:35:10

Kittye

The minute my husband says he’s going to mend something I’m online looking for a new one. ?

Gosh can you buy husbands on line these days? Do you get a 28 day refund?
??

mumofmadboys Wed 22-Dec-21 14:25:52

This thread has made me laugh!!!

FarNorth Wed 22-Dec-21 14:21:40

A friend once commented to me that I was lucky to have a DH who never attempted any diy or home maintenance.
(He had been hopeless at it when he did try.)
Until then I hadn't realised that doing it myself, or getting someone in, was much more peaceful and straightforward than having a 'handy' man about the place.