AIBU to not disclose compensation

Does he buy your clothes? Pay for hairdresser? Buy lunches out with friends ? Any activities you do ?
It all sounds a bit 1950’s to me….

that's good point, pink cosmos.
but i doubt that is the case here.

Serendipidy
Are you saying you need more money per month or that you want more money per month because he has more than you in the bank.
It sounds like a very sad relationship if you have to be sneaky.

Hahahahahahahaha, your replies are BRILLIANT.... hahahahaha.

½ of my feels really bad but then the other ½ feels WHY THE HECK NOT, HE HAS ABSOLUTELY AMPLE ( and plenty more )

Never thought of it showing up on the bill !!! Eeeeeeek.... but now i get my thinking cap on, the gas and electric bill cone to my phone via an app....

Yes OHHHH WHAT A TANGLED WEB WE WEAVE ........( hahahahaha thats brilliant)

Have you deliberately set out to shock?

You've been married 30 years and your husband keeps all the savings in his name AND he 'gives' you £100 a month?

It's neither here nor there what you do with the cheque!

I wouldn't keep it, not because I'm very noble, but because I'm sure it would show up somewhere along the line.

Elizabeth27

As he pays all the bills I suppose legally and morally it is his, he paid for the electricity he didn’t get.

However, I would keep it as it can’t be very much and he has enough.

legally and morally ??
how do you work that one out.
they are married. the assets are assets of the marriage, whether he admits it or not.

Have you had financial issues in the past that would lead to him denying you access to 'his' savings.

I say this because my DH is financially irresponsible and does not have access to 'our' savings, which have actually been saved by me alone.

His income each month is higher than mine but he choses to spend rather than save.

Denying him access is the only way I can guarantee the savings don't disappear

of course. that's your cheque, made out to you as payee, so only you can bank it,
and as he says, you account are separate, so goose for the gander.
but if you are under state pension age, and unable to work, could you not claim employment support allowance, or whatever its called. to at least cover your national insurance contributions.
it can cause problems later if there is a gap.
by the way, what are you meant to pay for out of the generous pocket money which he allows you from what would be joint assets if you were to sue for divorce.

Keep it. If it shows up on your utility bill, tell him "This was MY CHEQUE IN MY NAME AND YOU ARE NOT GETTING YOUR HANDS ON IT"

As he pays all the bills I suppose legally and morally it is his, he paid for the electricity he didn’t get.

However, I would keep it as it can’t be very much and he has enough.

Oh I’m not getting involved ha! Good luck with whatever you decide.

Just had a thought though. Won’t it show up on his utility statement as a credit for energy at that address?

My mother’s words come back to me as I’m writing ....
‘Oh what a tangled web we weave
When first we practice to deceive”
?

I'd definitely keep it and say nothing!