Seeing adult children over Christmas

M, I so agree with H. Try to let it go. Oh I know that's easier said than done (many Tshirts!) but letting it irk away will only cause you discontent and unhappiness. The distance factor doesn't help but there's no guarantee things would be any different if you lived closer. I just take whatever I'm offered in terms of their time and always enjoy it when it happens. Unfortunately, time is a commodity I have much more of than they do at the moment. Circle of life, I guess.

Muncie - I really feel for you and I can understand why you are feeling hurt. However, there is nothing you can do about the situation so the best thing you can do is make some plans of your own and make sure they book in some time with you over Christmas early on next year. Like most young parents they have busy lives and don’t always realise how much a visit might mean to their own parents. Harbouring a grudge or feeling of resentment isn’t going to good for you. Let it go and get on with your own life.