AIBU about Husband's Anniversary Toast & Christmas Present

If OH is behaving totally out of character I would be a bit worried. You need to talk to him.

ss1024 you really need to find out what is going on with your DH. It seems he is acting out of character for you to be so upset. Have that conversation and tell him you are unhappy.

I'm sorry that you're upset by your husbands actions but I can't help wondering that he has a hidden agenda. Time for some straight talking between the two of you.

Sit him down and talk about this asap you can't go on wondering and being sad. I wondered if he was having some sort of crisis of his own. Definitely buy yourself something nice. Sorry you must be feeling awful I would be.

Can you think of any other changes to his behaviour recently?

Ask him why.

Thoughtless yes, but until you speak to him you won’t know why he wasn’t as thoughtful as usual.

Thank you for your response Pepper 59. It has not always been like this. He usually makes beautiful toasts and has always given me a gift. I appreciate any gift that I get and feel that I should never expect a gift. I was hurt when he said that I needed something under the tree. and then the hurt was compounded as I was so excited opening the big box, and I guess felt foolish when I realized it was soup and immediately told him to put it in the cupboard.

I don't know yourself or your husband, so it is quite difficult to judge. I have to say though Id be pretty damned angry and very hurt. What has he been like on other anniversaries, Christmases or birthdays? Has it always been like this. Cans of soup as a gift? I'd have rathered I was bought nothing than that. It's almost an insult and I very much appreciate anything I get. So your husband actually bought you nothing for Christmas, as the soup was from the dog. There are so many nice inexpensive gifts, chocolates, gift sets, perfume. Im so sorry as to how you must feel.