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Overwhelmed or being a drama queen

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luluaugust Mon 10-Jan-22 14:38:37

So sorry what a lot on your shoulders. Do encourage your DD doing the Masters to speak to the person supervising her and I think she should have a word with a GP if she will. I know its not really much comfort but at least your other DD is in the system and I would imagine will receive an appointment soon even in these times as I know a lot of prioritising goes on. Then lastly, as always with a mum, have word with your GP yourself and see if you can get some help. A nights sleep would be a start.

Dickens Mon 10-Jan-22 13:12:01

You have a lot on your plate - too much to deal with on your own.

Start with a consultation with your GP - can be done via a telephone appointment. You need counselling - professional help, and an ear to listen to your problems. At least then you won't be so alone in all of this.

Easier said than done, but try not to worry about your daughter until you have a firm diagnosis. Blood in poo can be for a number of reasons... medications, gastroenteritis, fistula, inflammatory bowel disease, or even simple polyps.

Please get some help - you will definitely feel better when you have a course of action in front of you, and won't feel so helpless as you do now, it will give you the sense of control that you need.

xx flowers

Hithere Mon 10-Jan-22 12:39:31

When it rains, it pours

Please make your mental health a priority and take to a professional about it.

Some of the concerns you have in your OP are out of your control and you need tools how to manage this.

Droopdrawers Mon 10-Jan-22 12:26:48

Husband died a year ago. Have 3 adult children under 25. All devastated. 2 DDs already had mental health issues. Youngest DD doing a masters and struggling. Had a meltdown/ self harm yesterday. Other daughter has had to have a colposcopy because of 2 dodgy smear tests. She has just been referred to consultant because of blood in poo. I am sick with worry. I reassure her and tell her it will be nothing serious. But I am terrified that it is serious. I’m haven’t slept for days. I am terrified that I will lose them to cancer or suicide. I also feel so sad that my life is permanently on hold. I looked after my husband through his illness, supported kids through uni and with mental health. It just feels like it will never end. There is always going to be something. Then I feel awful that I feel like this and could lose them. Am I being ridiculous?