To visit daughter without DP?

BGB31

Thanks Baggs. I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!
Reading back, I think I am being ridiculous. Just don’t want to hurt his feelings as I said.

Have you considered that he might prefer to not go but is not wanting to hurt your feelings?

For heavens sake, you're not conjoined twins. Just go.

I would often go and see my mother with our children without my husband (their father)....not because they didn't get on but because he was working. Go by yourself Am sure he will be fine about it

I am pleased this subject has come up. Have traced sister after 78 years and want to see her. Son did most work ( all really) via detective work and dna .
We both want it to be him and me only so will have to be firm with husband. Exciting though.

I think you are overthinking this.
Do you live in each other’s pockets?

BGB31

I haven’t seen my daughter and GC for a couple of months.
We both work and are often busy.
Next week is a possibility for them.
I’d really like to go on my own. I love my DP dearly but they don’t have a lot in common (he’s not her dad) and I feel I have to be aware of his needs when we’re there so I can’t concentrate on DD & DGC.
(He doesn’t demand this, it’s my feeling and I think he’d think I was being ridiculous if I said it). He’s also partially deaf but hates asking people to repeat themselves so often seems like he’s ignoring people.

I don’t want to hurt his feelings though, by asking if he minded if I went on my own.
I don’t mind him seeing his children on his own, but he doesn’t ask me not to come. It’s usually when I’m at work.

I don’t see the problem with you going alone. You’re not joined at the hip, me and DH don’t always visit my dd and her partner and gs on my own sometimes, it’s not a problem for us

Enjoy your day with your daughter .
Why shouldn't you ?
Don't ask permission or be apologetic - be matter of fact .
You aren't joined at the hip !

Looking back on my long tern relationship I now realise just unhealthy it was -I was constantly made to do what he wanted and under his control
on a suffocating daily basis .
Any relationship should be happy and creative not destructive .

I don't see the problem. My OH and I both have children from our previous marriages.
We often visit them separately. No one is offended.

My husband visits his son who is some miles away and can be gone for a whole day and I love it!
I never get to be on my own and I really enjoy having something that I like to eat and something that I like to watch on tv.
I do try to encourage him to spend some days with his son, but he’s never done it.
That would be bliss for me, I wouldn’t know what to do with myself ?.

Why not ask him if he minds you going alone when you mention that your DD has asked you to come?

If he is hard of hearing, it may well be a relief for him not to have to try and take part in a conversation.

You could say you have some mother-daughter stuff to talk about. I am sure he won't want to intrude on that.

Why not let your partner know you have arranged to have a ‘girly’ day with your DD. That sets it out pretty understandably for him, even though I hate the word girly!

We all need time to ourselves. Since DH retired I've felt myself chafing at the presence of another person in the house and yet all those hours he was at work I could get very lonely. Can't win can we?!

I like to go out for a drive on my own with my music on quite loud. Feel free that way.

My partner sees his children alone every Sunday morning I am never asked to join in, yet I would not dream of seeing my son without him being around or come with me. I feel it says something about your relationship if you prefer to visit your family alone. Perhaps it also says something about me when I feel excluded on Sunday mornings.

Go and see them while you can. My husband isn't my children's dad and although he likes to see them occasionally, it's not enough for me so I often go on my own, he would never ask me not to go and let's face it, it's only for a day. Go and enjoy your family

Tell him your daughter is having period problems that usually makes men run a mile ?

I was just about to ask if your husband is controlling, and likely to cause an upset?

I can't see the problem, unless he's over possessive, unable to self-care or a control freak, surely it's a non-issue. Go and enjoy yourself!

I see my DD and DS without DH - not his children, I think it suits everyone better

Yes, just be honest with your reasons .... you are allowed to have some one to one time with whoever you wish to.

I've just had 5 wonderful days with our daughter, her partner and our grandchild in Dorset (We live over 200 miles away). I often go without my husband - why wouldn't I? Life is too short and the little one is growing up too fast for me to worry about going alone. Just go!!

My DH often visits his son (my stepson) and GC. without me. I don’t get on with SS, so if I don’t have to go it’s a win-win for me.
You never know, your DP may well look forward to the time alone, I know I do.

My daughter and grandson live a 4 hour drive away. Pre covid I used to get the coach up and stay with them for a few days.

Just go and enjoy

I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!

Its nothing then for him to be offended about. Just tell him, arrange it an go! One day on his own! Why would that worry you or him? Enjoy your time with your family

Do you never have a mother daughter/grandchild day. You only see her with your partner there? I think that’s really sad for your daughter. Sorry if I have misunderstood.