To visit daughter without DP?

In your position I think I would just tell my partner that I was going to visit my daughter and grandkids and perhaos mention a hope that he had some nice things to do while I was away.

Thanks Baggs. I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!
Reading back, I think I am being ridiculous. Just don’t want to hurt his feelings as I said.

Why not? Do it!

I often meet my daughter for coffee without my partner. Go and stay for a few nights with the others too. He usually only comes along when it’s a whole family thing.

He seems happy enough.?

You could always tell him that you’re going to visit your DD and that his lunch is in the fridge.

He might quite like a day to himself!

Hahaha you’re right @midgey he might do!

My husband can get bored around children/ grandchildren, and they are his! I just go without him, he’s usually got something he’s either researching, or a film he wants to watch, but I don’t.

As midgey says, he could well enjoy a day to himself ?

Does he ever have plans that do not include you? I was thinking that if he announces he is doing something make your plans for that day but don’t tell him you are going until the last minute, too late for him to change plans.

I know it is better to be upfront but can see that it would be hurtful not to be included if that has been the case previously.

Stop all the second guessing. Do you know for definite that your DH feels the feelings you project on him?

Your relationship sound good, it will not be damaged by you opening up and discuss the problem you perceive with him. I expect he will be gobsmacked that you have projected all these feelings on him and will be more than happy for you to go off and visit your family without him.

At various times DH and I visit our adult children and DGC on our own - and all our children are joint.

Just tell him you are going to be chatting about ‘girly’ things.

You will have a great time with daughter without having to consider how your DP. If he asks what girly things, a little white lie like menstrual problems will probably suffice.

I’m heartless, I know, but girl time with your daughter is priceless.

I spend loads of time with my DD and GDs without me partner and he is their DF/DGf....on the other hand....he does the same....he been round at theirs all day today.....I had made other plans

midgey

He might quite like a day to himself!

exactly. he'd probably be relieved not to have to be on show as it were, with people he doesn't really know.

I'm off on Thursday to visit my daughter and family, returning on Tuesday. DH is own his own with the dog for the weekend. I do this a couple times a year. He is fine on his own for a few days, and I get a good visit in with DD and family. We will visit in the summer together.

Go ahead and don't feel guilty at all. Being separated on occasion is good for us.

He might prefer you to go alone.

Do you never have a mother daughter/grandchild day. You only see her with your partner there? I think that’s really sad for your daughter. Sorry if I have misunderstood.

I should have mentioned- it’s only a day trip!

Its nothing then for him to be offended about. Just tell him, arrange it an go! One day on his own! Why would that worry you or him? Enjoy your time with your family

Just go and enjoy

My daughter and grandson live a 4 hour drive away. Pre covid I used to get the coach up and stay with them for a few days.

My DH often visits his son (my stepson) and GC. without me. I don’t get on with SS, so if I don’t have to go it’s a win-win for me.
You never know, your DP may well look forward to the time alone, I know I do.

I've just had 5 wonderful days with our daughter, her partner and our grandchild in Dorset (We live over 200 miles away). I often go without my husband - why wouldn't I? Life is too short and the little one is growing up too fast for me to worry about going alone. Just go!!

Yes, just be honest with your reasons .... you are allowed to have some one to one time with whoever you wish to.

I see my DD and DS without DH - not his children, I think it suits everyone better

I can't see the problem, unless he's over possessive, unable to self-care or a control freak, surely it's a non-issue. Go and enjoy yourself!