Over sharing….. personal information.

Dam right you should say, particularly as its making you feel uncomfortable. I have had an entire working career with predominantly women and have listened to things that would shock many of you but I would never share details of the intimacy experienced between my partner and I and if I felt uncomfortable by those conversations I would either protest
by showing a flat hand and exclaiming "too much information"or leave. Not prudish but do have respect for myself and my partner. Now thats not to say any chat about sex is off the cards. I am human after all but dont want to hear of my friends or colleagues personal experiences thank you very much.

I would just say 'sorry I can't help but you could ask your gp to refer you to a sex clinic'.

AmberSpyglass

If it’s not something you want to discuss, just politely say that. There’s no need to be rude - there’s nothing immoral or shameful about our sex lives, but it’s fine if you don’t want to discuss it. Try and do it without embarrassing her or seeming judgemental though.

Exactly. Everyone is different.

Thanks for this post …. I haven’t laughed so much in ages!????????

"Why are you telling me this? It's not as if I can do anything about it."

I'm always astonished by the exceedingly personal things people tell me when I go to hospital appointments! No matter how I try to head them off and inch away they won't be stopped. Even the pandemic distancing didn't put them off bellowing the most intimate details at me. Last month some woman gave me the most graphic description of what had happened to her lady parts when she suffered from some fungal disease. I expected her to produce a photo at any moment.

Most people will at some time experience the sexual side of their life and myself personally would not want to discuss this with a 'friend' regardless of how close we were.

Gosh - I'm afraid I'd have laughed - totally not your business - cannot think what she expected you to say!

I wouldnt want my best friend to discuss things like that with me, some things need to be kept private.

I think your friend is giving TMI and, with respect, even your post has TMI. It would have been enough to say "my friend wants to discuss her sex life".
Btw, I'm no prude either although I have perhaps made myself sound that way.

Horrified. I wouldn’t know where to look

Dutch oven? No idea but it made me think of Dutch cap. Now there was a passion killer if ever there was one. Lost interest by the time the wretched thing was lubed up, squeezed between fingers, shot out of fingers, flew across the room. Catch it if you can. The nearest thing to a sex game back in the day. Yep, sorry, too much information again.

Well they do say you can talk about anything with your friends lol personally I don’t think I would myself well I no I wouldn’t but unless you tell her what happens in her bedroom is her business she isn’t going to read your mind.

Perhaps she needs new batteries?

Or a pneumatic drill?

Or stronger even! ???

Maybe suggest stringer batteries? ??‍♀️

There is one side of me that thinks that you should be pleased that she shares such intimate details with you, but cringing a bit that she does!
I think that the easiest thing would be to just say that you have never had that type of a problem and that you feel uncomfortable discussing it as you have no personal knowledge.
Beyond that, just say that she might need a visit to her GP or to speak to the practice nurse.

Bingo!

Well I googled dutch oven and it said it was breaking wind under the duvet and trapping someone's head under with the fumes that can't be what the rest of you are on about!

Iam, my friend doesn't have dementia but she has something that is affecting her executive function. Tbh we are all quite used to it now

Sex is a normal bodily function but strangely we feel uncomfortable about discussing it. Perhaps it’s mainly older people who feel this, and younger ones not so inhibited?
I am actually quite queasy about many bodily functions and excretions, especially involving bladder and bowels, AND I trained as a nurse.
It’s odd how any post involving sex gets lots of attention on Gransnet.?
BTW do you think they meant a Dutch cap?

I have no intention of looking it up and getting blacklisted by my IP, but going by the culinary version, it must logically be a way to roast/bake something in a container on a hob.

Must leave scorch marks on the BTM, and a smell of burnt flesh.

I would simply tell her that you never had the need for anything fake. Therefore its not something you are interested in discussing thank you very much.

I’ve decided I’m going with Chewbacca and decided it something you put a chicken in. I’ve lived too sheltered a life?

MissAdventure

I went away on a couple of "girls" holidays, where the talk was usually about sex at some point in the day.
It really shocked someone's mum, until one night she asked of any of us had ever had a 'Dutch oven'.
That knocked the wind out of our sails.

"That knocked the wind out of our sails"...

... stop sniggering you at the back...