Gransnet forums

AIBU

Over sharing….. personal information.

(138 Posts)
Sago Mon 21-Mar-22 11:06:56

I have a few really good friends, we talk about all kinds of things, I do not talk about my sex life with any of them or vice versa.

I have one friend who I have only known about 10 years and she often talks about very intimate things, she recently told me she had been unable to climax despite trying very hard with her vibrator.

I don’t want to know, I am not a prude but she doesn’t seem to take the hint, I think she is trying to shock or maybe just get a reaction, I say nothing but should I tell her I find it uncomfortable?

ShazzaKanazza Tue 22-Mar-22 08:28:39

MissAdventure I really want to look up Dutch oven I’ve never heard of it. But I don’t want to at the same time. Oh dear the decision!! ??

Sparklefizz Tue 22-Mar-22 08:19:46

I have a neighbour who has a new "boyfriend" who's 80, and she likes to boast about their sex life. Methinks she doth protest too much!

GagaJo Tue 22-Mar-22 08:08:21

MissAdventure

I'd be most worried if their sex life chats included anything to do with bowels.

Some have been very adventurous. You live and learn!

MercuryQueen Tue 22-Mar-22 06:13:01

MissAdventure

The issue is consent, isn't it?
Just the same as with anything related to sex.
If you don't consent, it's very murky territory.

If a man started to talk about how he masturbated without so much as a "by your leave" I would consider it abusive.
Not because I'm closed minded, not because I'm unaware or offended; simply because I hadn't consented.

This, exactly.

If it happens again, simply tell her that it’s a topic better discussed with her Dr, and you’d appreciate it if she didn’t bring it up with you again.

nanna8 Tue 22-Mar-22 05:46:56

I laughed at the screamed - love it, still ? laughing. Never heard of the term Dutch oven so I looked it up. Eeuw. Sort of thing we laughed at as teenagers. Poo poo and wee wee humour.

Tina49 Tue 22-Mar-22 01:37:28

You could look it up in Urban Dictionary*Chewbacca*, but I wouldn’t!

Chewbacca Tue 22-Mar-22 00:25:05

Dutch oven? Isn't that what you shove a chicken in? Or was that a chicken brick? Oh your so much more savvy than me MissA! Do tell!

MissAdventure Mon 21-Mar-22 23:54:17

I went away on a couple of "girls" holidays, where the talk was usually about sex at some point in the day.
It really shocked someone's mum, until one night she asked of any of us had ever had a 'Dutch oven'. grin
That knocked the wind out of our sails.

Chewbacca Mon 21-Mar-22 23:50:00

grin Best not to ask MissAdventure, there's bound to be one somewhere!

MissAdventure Mon 21-Mar-22 23:42:18

I'd be most worried if their sex life chats included anything to do with bowels.

GagaJo Mon 21-Mar-22 22:32:25

Close friends discuss their problems. Maybe she over estimated the level of intimacy.

Certainly, female friends have discussed aspects of their sex lives with me. Female and male. TBH, I'd be more offended if they wanted to talk about their bowels (I'm squeamish).

Zoejory Mon 21-Mar-22 22:31:12

MissAdventure

Do you generally prefer a type 2 or 3 on the Bristol stool chart, by the way? grin

Definitely a 2 smile

AmberSpyglass Mon 21-Mar-22 22:26:37

If you don’t say anything, she won’t stop.

Chewbacca Mon 21-Mar-22 22:12:16

I'd have just screamed and clapped my hands over my ears.

The best reaction by far! grin

I've always believed that those that drone on about the intricacies of their sex lives aren't actually getting any. If you are, you don't need to relive it by telling anyone else. wink

Summerlove Mon 21-Mar-22 22:02:05

Sago

Thank you all, great to know I am not being unreasonable.
She is a lovely person and has so many great qualities, I will just ignore her comments.

If It comes up again I’d just tell her it makes you uncomfortable.

But don’t just ignore it in the future - to be clear is to be kind.

For the record to others, talking about sex isn’t “stooping low”, some women genuinely enjoy those conversations. It shouldn’t be a taboo. Nothing wrong with not talking about it of course, but no need to shame those who do

MissAdventure Mon 21-Mar-22 20:28:25

Do you generally prefer a type 2 or 3 on the Bristol stool chart, by the way? grin

MissAdventure Mon 21-Mar-22 20:27:01

The issue is consent, isn't it?
Just the same as with anything related to sex.
If you don't consent, it's very murky territory.

If a man started to talk about how he masturbated without so much as a "by your leave" I would consider it abusive.
Not because I'm closed minded, not because I'm unaware or offended; simply because I hadn't consented.

Zoejory Mon 21-Mar-22 20:21:10

I'd have just screamed and clapped my hands over my ears.

I never talk about sex with friends. Ugh. I'd rather talk about the Bristol Stool Chart.

GagaJo Mon 21-Mar-22 20:16:55

Wouldn't bother me at all if she was someone I'd known as long as you've known each other.

I talk about sex to my friends. There aren't any areas I wouldn't discuss with a good friend.

Jaxjacky Mon 21-Mar-22 19:59:23

Blossoming apt ?

Blossoming Mon 21-Mar-22 19:47:19

Tell her trying very hard to climax is an oxymoron.

Sago Mon 21-Mar-22 18:50:07

Thank you all, great to know I am not being unreasonable.
She is a lovely person and has so many great qualities, I will just ignore her comments.

AmberSpyglass Mon 21-Mar-22 17:00:12

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with discussing sex with friends - but you should check if it’s something your friends are comfortable discussing first!

BBbevan Mon 21-Mar-22 16:16:21

Well at least she didn’t show you a rather explicit video, which was what happened to me a few weeks ago. Some people have no sense of propriety these days

Serendipity22 Mon 21-Mar-22 16:09:08

I can honestly say that neither myself nor any of my friends have felt the need to stoop so low.

I have a friend that has been in my life for well over 40 years and never once has sex been discussed, i would feel extremely uncomfortable and i most certainly would NOT engage in conversation about it, my face would say it all, no need for words.
angryangryangry