Phone calls on Mother's Day

Why don’t you phone them? I don’t set too much store by these celebration days (even birthdays) but feel I have great relationships with my children - even though I might not speak to the older two frequently. (the youngest lives locally and with year old twins and a four year old I have a lot of input.)
I think kids nowadays are more likely to message but I’m sure they’d be happy for you to call them

TillyTrotter

I feel sad for you Nanny .
Maybe when you next speak to your children, and you are not feeling emotional, say that you would really love it if you got a ‘phone call from them on Mothering Sunday next time as it is more personal than a text.
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I think I'm going to try that. Maybe they don't realise I would really love a phone call from them and the grandchildren on special days like this and my birthday.

Thanks Nanny.

I think I need to learn to accept that I'm further down the pecking order. Its hard when DIL's and SIL's parents always seem to be a higher priority. I hate feeling jealous but find it hard not to.

I agree with crazyH. It's not about us now - it's about them as mothers and fathers.

I had presents from 4 of them which were left with dh on various previous visits and the 5th one popped round at teatime while his partner was at her mum's.

Nanny2859 - it’s not as if they forgot you totally. I have 3 children, one daughter and 2 sons. Daughter is divorced, her two children are in Uni, so, she and I went out to lunch. My sons just sent texts. They were busy celebrating with their wives and children. You must bear in mind that daughters-in- law are mothers too. I did receive videos and photos of their day. In the past, I might have got upset, but now, I am just happy that they are enjoying their lives together.
I have learnt over the years, to accept that I am way down in the pecking order. I must be in the minority, but I do prefer texts to talking on the phone .
Just to cheer you up

Sorry to hear you didn't get your Facetime call. Hope you catch up with DS soon.

Sorry to hear that Nanny2859. A text is not a substitute for a card, phone call or visit. You are not AIBU.
I have always made an effort on the day, whereas my younger brother seems to think making an effort for our mum on mother's day didn't count once he became a father himself. He is 60, and may remember once every 5 years.

I was really looking forward to a face time chat with DS in Aus. but he sent a message saying he was ill in bed with Covid. Disappointed of course but as long as he's OK, that's all that matters.

Hopefully we'll catch up in a day or two.

I feel sad for you Nanny .
Maybe when you next speak to your children, and you are not feeling emotional, say that you would really love it if you got a ‘phone call from them on Mothering Sunday next time as it is more personal than a text.
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Sorry to hear that. Sounds very thoughtless of them. Are they normally kind /good people or is this typical behaviour for them?
Think I would let them both know I was upset.

I usually get several phonecards per day from my daughter. My son messages a few times each week.

It depends in your relationship with them, I am afraid there is not one universal answer