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Sorry! I just read your follow-up message about how no room is safe from their noise.

Could you possibly set up your bed in a room that is not next to the party wall? If it was me, I'd rather sleep in the kitchen than suffer from neighbour's noise.

Sago

Do not start a feud by playing loud music etc.
This will antagonise them.
I would suggest going to see them with a small but thoughtful gift and explain that this is causing you grief.
Remember that by law you have to notify prospective buyers of any property of neighbourly disputes.
If you have to sell you could ruin your chances.

I agree about refraining from playing loud music because it might trigger aggression? But the idea of taking them a small but thoughtful gift makes my skin crawl.

It's too nice. I'd tell them to keep the noise down to the confines of their property! However - if they are that inconsiderate, it's unlikely that they will.

I totally agree. It seems to be virtually impossible to do anything about anti social neighbours nowadays. I know you can't have people being taken to court for frivolous or malicious reasons. But the pendulum has swung the other way and rude, loud, loutish and selfish neighbours seem to be able to act with impunity.

Dealing with such individuals costs time and money. The powers that be are unwilling to spend that time or that money.

... and they are largely unaffected personally by such behaviour, so probably understand little of its effects, nor care that much.

tickingbird

I believe there should be far more robust procedures in place to deal with troublesome neighbours. There have been murders in the past caused by nuisance neighbours not being dealt with and there’s a dreadful case being heard at present where someone made life hell for several households over a period of years and finally killed one poor man and seriously injured two others. It’s something that should be taken seriously by the authorities.

I totally agree. It seems to be virtually impossible to do anything about anti social neighbours nowadays. I know you can't have people being taken to court for frivolous or malicious reasons. But the pendulum has swung the other way and rude, loud, loutish and selfish neighbours seem to be able to act with impunity.

The mutual friend is my son, who (understandably) doesn't want to get involved, as the neighbour has a 'reputation', if you understand my drift!

Sadly, it's not just the SN. It's their raised voices and sporadic music that really riles me. The SN was the last straw last Saturday - and that's what made me shout. I moved my bed from the party wall a couple of years ago (the noise has been going on for about 10 years, but the last year it has become unbearable because of my work shifts). I also placed wardrobes along the party wall to deaden the noise. No joy.
No point in moving to the spare room as that is over their kitchen and garden ... and their usual Saturday night pattern is that they wander from bedroom to downstairs to garden back to the bedroom ?

#DiamondLily, your husband shouldn’t be snoring if he uses a CPAP machine. My hubbies snoring stopped completely once he got his machine. He maybe needs to get it checked out!

I believe there should be far more robust procedures in place to deal with troublesome neighbours. There have been murders in the past caused by nuisance neighbours not being dealt with and there’s a dreadful case being heard at present where someone made life hell for several households over a period of years and finally killed one poor man and seriously injured two others. It’s something that should be taken seriously by the authorities.

We have neighbours like that,except for the rumpy pumpy noise,which thankfully i haven`t heard.
It`s got to the stage it`s become entertaining as we can hear every word they say and it`s the same old s..t just a different day.
I wouldn`t hold your breath for a reply,but it may have sunken in a little.

I'd give them a dose of Baby Shark.... (the most annoying kids song ever)
Or shout a score at the end like strictly?
I hope that message has worked though.
After calling the police to yet another violent argument from my neighbours they seem (?) to have stopped ?

Couldnt you have a word with your mutual friend? If they gave the number so freely they may have a chat with them too?

Landlords should be made to take far more responsibility for the behaviour of their tenants. It is far too easy for them to just pocket the money and leave the neighbours to cope with the noise and inconsiderate behaviour while they live comfortably elsewhere.

There should also be tighter laws around how homeowners should be allowed behave. This attitude that its my house/garden and I can do what I like in it is taken too far by some people and is selfish and ignorant.

My neighbours are liars, criminals and thieves. They fly tipped on my lawn, stole my parcels and sent their dumb workmen onto my property without permission. However they are NOT noisy. They go to bed at 9pm and get up early. If they moved out I might be stuck with a large and noisy family (as their house is a big detached) and that would be much worse.

Annoying as they are I am thankful for small mercies. I just keep my distance and dont open the door when one of them knocks to have a whinge.

I had 4 years of a mature DJ holding parties beginning at 3.30am on Friday and Saturday nights. Environmental Health sent him a warning letter but didn’t follow up other than put me on a waiting list for monitoring equipment but I never reached the top. I couldn’t have my granddaughter for weekend stays but he complained about people disturbing his baby son on access visits when they returned home from work at 6pm. My ex neighbour, and ?friend, used a letting agent when she moved on but gave us no details. When I found a them out they said there was nothing they could do. Fortunately I worked in housing and knew common tenancy agreements included anti social behaviour clauses. Threatening legal action, supported by witnesses, + photos and home audio eventually resulted in non renewal of the tenancy. It was a long hard slog, causing me a lot of emotional distress. I dread to think how bad it would be to seek resolution with a non responsive home owing neighbour

Are they friends of your son?

My neighbours where students partying every Saturday night until about 4 Asked them to be a bit more considerate but the never. Got my grandchildren to stand at the side of the house at 7am and scream and shout. All the windows in the house shut. They partied a bit quieter after that finishing at 1am.

Is thnere a cut-off time for noise disturnace in your area? If so, get the police on them.

On my way out to work early, I'd duct tape their doorbell down...

Hell is other people…

Sex Noise I think!

I don’t think it can be true, that 10 separate letters of complaint to the council, are deemed harassment. Are the 10 letters from the same person though? I suppose that could make a difference!