AIBU - Friends have booked same holiday

Just avoid them for the month before you go and say you don't want to hear anything about it because you don't to spoil the surprise. As others have said I thought you were going to say they were on at the same time.

I think your husband is BU, and for some reason you feel reluctant to tell him.

It certainly sounds like you’ve advertised this cruise very effectively to your friends! Nothing you can do about that now. But if you want to maintain your privacy in future, it might be an idea not to share your activities so freely?

Next time dont tell anyone your plans, its as easy as that.

Why would you mind? Unless you're just going so you can tell people about it. I've heard of travelling yourself interesting, but this is the first time I've come across it!

Can't see a problem with this - unless you had made a point of asking them not to go on that ship ! A bit cheeky to use your info to get that discount though!
Suggest you don't see these friends until after you have been on your cruise and then you can get together and compare notes as I bet no two cruises are the same.
Only other alternative would be to contact Virgin and change your ship or dates, which is a faff.
Sorry, but however disappointing it is, there is no way you could ban people from doing what your friends have done and it's just a shame that they managed to get booked in, before you did.

Don’t let them spoil your experience by showing you all their “experiences” before you go, that aside it’s a non issue in my book.

Yangste1007

This happened to us albeit in 1985. We got married in 1984 and booked our honeymoon for November 1985. My supposed best friend got married in 1985 and booked the exact same honeymoon but earlier in the year. They went, it was a Caribbean island, and came back to tell me how much they hated it. I had a feeling this was going to happen but couldn't for the life of me work out why anyone would want to be so spiteful. Since then I've always been very cagey about telling other people where we are going. We had a lovely time btw.

Oh, now that really is mean, if it was your honeymoon!

Would this have bothered your husband if he wasn't "a bit down right now"?

If it would, remember both of you from now on, not to discuss holiday plans with friends until you are practically on you way out the door.

If these friends are back from their cruise before you leave, just don't answer or return their calls.

I cant work out what the problem is. Tell your friends you don't want to know any details so you can experience it first hand.

This happened to us albeit in 1985. We got married in 1984 and booked our honeymoon for November 1985. My supposed best friend got married in 1985 and booked the exact same honeymoon but earlier in the year. They went, it was a Caribbean island, and came back to tell me how much they hated it. I had a feeling this was going to happen but couldn't for the life of me work out why anyone would want to be so spiteful. Since then I've always been very cagey about telling other people where we are going. We had a lovely time btw.

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Mixed reactions! Your husband is perfectly entitled to feel a bit miffed. But perhaps you can help him understand not to make a mountain out of a molehill. ! If he’s depressed at the moment then that’s different. Reiterate to your friends that you don’t want to hear a word about it so that you don’t get a false picture of the scenario. Hopefully they will get the message! Lesson to be learned .. don’t tell anyone anything! Have fun

I know I'm eccentric and think differently to most people. And that is ok. I'm also a committed Christian and thinking about the next life and things of God as well as writing and politics and life and the daily grind. However- I cannot for the life of me imagine anyone choosing to spend their life thinking such a small way as this. You are aware there is a war going on in the Ukraine? Women are being raped and murdered and whole towns destroyed. I think you are not only being unreasonable but that you are wasting your short time here on earth thinking about as unimportant a thing as is possible. Your husband needs to give his head a wobble, bless him. Yes petty and grudging and unreasonable. But more sad than unreasonable. Time to be more outward looking.

Yes, you are being very unreasonable. This is nothing to miffed about ?‍♀️

winterwhite

I can certainly see why you feel that your friends have taken the gilt off your gingerbread. Very bad luck.

And yes, you should surely be the ones getting the voucher? The fact that they didn't tell you about that in advance makes it look as though they realised it was questionable. Or that they are very thick skinned I suppose.

Why should their friends go on the cruise ? They aren’t going at the same time ?

So petty.

My thoughts exactly Merylstreep.

I can certainly see why you feel that your friends have taken the gilt off your gingerbread. Very bad luck.

And yes, you should surely be the ones getting the voucher? The fact that they didn't tell you about that in advance makes it look as though they realised it was questionable. Or that they are very thick skinned I suppose.

Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier.

Well, I never knew

Of course! Cruising is such a status thing. All the way up to luxury yachts. And they have gone oneup by booking earlier.
And people do brag about their cruises.
Be grateful you can go at all.

Very mean minded . So if you praised a restaurant vuoi wouldn’t want them to go to that either? Sometimes I am completely”floored “ by the pettiness of some GN contributors

I’m trying to picture what a charmed life somebody has lived to then be floored by such an insignificant issue.

Me too Meryl, me too.

As you do not have exclusive rights on this cruise, I really think YABU . If “bigging it up” to your friends gave them the idea- well who can you blame but yourselves?
Take comfort in the well known cliché that “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”.

To me it is a non issue.

Merylstreep
I agree, I imagine many people would gladly tolerate this small inconvenience if they were about to embark on a luxury cruise.

I’m trying to picture what a charmed life somebody has lived to then be floored by such an insignificant issue.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, why cant they experience this wonderful new cruise ship and experience for themselves? If everyone thought that way, the cruise ships/holiday destinations would be empty, well not quite but...

I would most certainly not want to hear X, Y and Z about it before you go and you did right telling them that. How i see it is that you must have painted a wonderful picture for them to want to book it, which makes me then think, in the first place, if they are such avid cruise lovers and I sing from the roof tops of how absolutely wonderful the experience would be, am I paving the way for the possibility of them booking the self same thing ! In which case I would keep my gob shut... ( if i didn't want them to experience it, but as I say, it wouldnt bother me in the slightest )

I hope you have a FANNNNNNNTASTIC time, I have been in a few cruises and I know how fabulous they are.

Enjoy