grandtanteJE65
I have my teddies and some of my dolls as well.
I would not dream of parting with them, but I do realise that some people think it is a little odd of a grown-up to have kept these toys.
I very much doubt that many of the grown-ups who still have one or more teddy or doll regards them as surrogate children - I assuredly do not, nor have I ever regarded my cats as surrogate children.
I KNOW it is make-believe when I think my teddies and dolls still have the characters I assigned to them when I was a child, just as I know that Santa Claus is not real. That does not stop me giving my grandson presents from Santa. I will stop when the day comes where he no longer believes in Santa Claus so I don't embarass him.
The doll and bear family live in MY room - my study-cum-sewing-room, as I am happy to show them to those who like me have a teddy or two, but certainly do not want to inflict them on people who find it odd that I didn't "throw them out when you grew up"
Well, I didn't and an old and battered toy monkey is proof that DH didn't either - that monkey spend years travelling with DH long after they were "both grown-up".
Some grown men play with train-sets or toy soliders, others build model boats and ships, so why should grown women not play with dolls or dolls' houses if they want to?
We are not forcing you to join us.
The OP did not say, or imply, that people who collect Teddy bears or hang onto childhood toys are behaving strangely. I would think most people have probably got a stuffed toy, doll or toy car somewhere about the house from their childhood.
She was questioning those who treat the bears as if they are people, bringing them to weddings and restaurants, and out shopping with them and seating them at the dinner table etc