Old woman!

LovelyLady

Perhaps give the cleaning lady the benefit of the doubt. She was perhaps encouraging them to come sooner given your age.
Old lady at till - please give her some consideration and come quickly.
Yes folk do see us as old. Years ago people didn’t live this long. So we are old if we’re over 60. Just factual.

No, she was just rude.Probably didn't know any better.

I work in the local school breakfast club along with two others.
I’m 65 my friends and colleagues are respectively 51 and 64.
One of the 11yr old year sixes looked at us and sniggered
“you’re all old”.
I went up to him and said Tom (not his name) you’ll be old one day, that’s a certainty. You’ll either be old or you’ll be the alternative I think you know what that is, and Tom it comes around much quicker than you’d believe. I’m not ashamed to be old my life’s been a blast. I Hope yours be will too.
I turned my back and left him with his mouth opening and closing like a little goldfish.
It was our turn to snigger then. Ha!

Should have shouted back "and there is a very rude cleaner working here".

When I was 50 I was congratulated by a group of young Dutch men, because I had been on a scary fairground ride!!

In America on Tuesdays in certain stores you receive 20%off on certain days for being of a ‘ certain ‘ age. One day I was well miffed as I’d missed giving them my ID so imagine my deflated feeling when told , oh don’t worry we automatically gave you the OAP discount …. Didn’t even need to prove it ?‍♀️

Perhaps the cleaner's English wasn't very good - in some cultures being 'old' is seen as deserving respect so people should hurry up and help them!

If you're on here you're old end of

Suzey

If you're on here you're old end of

Chuckle ?

OK, who's willing to post a photo of themselves on this thread to prove they aren't old? I will if some of yous will.

When my husband was a prefect at school one of his duties was to ensure the boys who travelled on the public bus home from school behaved. One day some boys rushed onto the bus and OH said, "Come on lads, let this old lady off first". The "old lady" hit him very hard with her handbag and said, " I am not old". Lesson learned, all his life he has referred to females as young ladies and has been thanked many times for being polite. He still does it and as he is 71 next birthday, it is now more usually factual than cute.

Very impolite,but never worry life will catch up with them one day.

Completely unnecessary to say anything other than "a woman". Age irrelevant. With manners like that the cleaner was possibly just a short step from adding: "Get a move on - she's on her last legs".

Not necessarily Suzey. In hospital after the birth of my 4th child, the girl in the bed opposite had just had a baby and we were discussing baby names. Then her mother, the grandmother, came to visit and she introduced me to her. I remember she was 36, 2 years younger than me.
She certainly could never have been described as old.
Baggs
I am never the right age. I'm trying to apply for an energy saving grant and find you have to be over 75. I may have reached the qualifying age by the time I have finished filling in the online form.

That reminds me of a scene in Minder many years ago. A couple of young boys called Arthur Daily ‘stingy old ba***rd”. He shouted back at them “oi!!! Less of the old”. ?

Alison333

Perhaps the cleaner's English wasn't very good - in some cultures being 'old' is seen as deserving respect so people should hurry up and help them!

Why are people making excuses for her??
She was local, she was rude, I'm not that upset.

TBH doesnt bother me what I am called...I AM old and dont care ......although it does remind me when someone offers me a seat somewhere !!! One ;young man' even offered to open a door for me this afternoon ! was so kind of him ha ha ..........guess when we were young anyone was old .....what goes around comes around !

No, we would not describe another person as a fat, smelly man or woman, but it has always been acceptable to describe people as old or young.

It doesn't worry me. For the last three days, I have been trying to dig a potato patch by removing turf from an overgrown stretch of garden. Said patch is meant to be 6 ft by 10. Forty years ago, it would have taken me at the outmost two hours to remove turf and another two to dig over the soil. Right now I have done half.

The job has taken me twice two hours, and I am thankful that it has poured all day, and I had a visit to the dentist and some shopping to do, so no gardening.

I know I am old when I take on that sort of task, if I didn't realise it before - but needs must when the devil drives and with the rising prices a potato patch seemed like a good idea.

But ouch my back!

!well I don't mind being 81. And yes I am classed as old.

She could have been implying do not keep her waiting as she is old, which could have been what she meant, obviously she should not have shouted what she did. Yes training is required for sure

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She could have been implying do not keep her waiting as she is old, which could have been what she meant, obviously she should not have shouted what she did. Yes training is required for sure

No. She was just rude. A cleaner would not normally interact with customers so would not get any training. Sometimes these low paid workers don't have a lot of social skills.

Perhaps just saying they had a customer at the till ?

If an employee makes you feel humiliated, they have done something their employer needs to know about. Write to the manager and give date/time, what happened, and how it made you feel.

Ignorant and rude, don’t let someone like that matter. I would say something to the Manager though, better she says nothing than open her mouth.

I agree that it would have been better if the cleaner hadn't said what she said. I would not have been too happy with it either in the OP's position

But just consider ... maybe it wasn't even her job to alert the other staff to the fact that a customer was waiting. Maybe she was annoyed on your behalf that you were being 'ignored'. Maybe she thought that adding the words 'old woman' would add a sense of urgency that would make someone come more quickly.
There are all sorts of factors that might explain, though not excuse, how she worded what she said.

I have to say though, I thought that the comment Sometimes these low paid workers don't have a lot of social skills. was as bad, if not worse than what the cleaner said.
Very judgemental and insulting to low paid workers. Saying '^Some people ..."^ would have been much more acceptable - and true!

My young granddaughter said her teacher was old. She looked to be all of 25! Guess it’s all relative.