DOGGY ETIQUETTE

thats it highland dreams - people just have different feelings about dogs - so if you ask it is up to the other person to say Yes or No - and then you abide by their decision in their house or choose not to go.

But its no good person being asked saying Yes and then being upset that dog owner did so.

and forgetting to take a bowl to put water in- yes, bit careless but not a big deal.

BlueBelle

gillycats I d rather touch cash than a tongue that’s licked it’s own bum clean
Dogs should only eat once a day so why would it need food when visiting ?

Doggie people leave your pooches at home

It suits some dogs to eat once a day but not all. For many dogs it's better to more than once a day to reduce the chance of bloat which can kill them. Some dogs have epilepsy and are helped by eating little and often which can help reduce the drop in blood sugar that causes some seizures. My last dog had seizures so he was never left alone either, it's not pleasant for them, or their owners especially when the dog comes out of one or a double or a treble fit, the aftermath can last for hours even with all the drugs your vet can give them. My poor boy would vomit & pee every time, lose his balance & go temporarily blind for a few hours, so could have really hurt himself as he frantically paced around bumping into things when he came to. They need comfort and the reassurance of caring, loving arms & company to know they are safe and calm down.

Sorry but I won't be leaving my lovely dog at home, he will be with us wherever he is welcomed & if he's not welcome, then of course we won't take him & we just won't go. As I mentioned before I'm always well prepared to cater for my dog anyway.

People that don't get not leaving dogs at home & taking them with you everywhere you go,I feel sorry that you don't understand the magic of dogs. I was once like you until I hit my mid 30's and we rescued our first one, I even objected to her at first until we quickly bonded, then life changed for the better, now I never want to have my life without a dog to share it with.

Of course we can leave our dog at home, but we choose not to & that's our choice to make.

We have dog owning friends who come to stay occasionally and always, but always bring drinking bowls, (specialised) food for them, including their own treats, and poo bags for when they walk them.
The dog beds are put in the conservatory overnight. The dogs do not go upstairs.
They are only fed dog food calibrated for their weight and condition and definitely wouldn’t get table scraps!
(Too rich and would risk upsetting their stomachs).
Now, if they would only address the problem of excessive barking….

I guess it depends what is meant by 'the remains of the meal'. -if it were enough to be packed in the fridge as left overs or just a bit of scraps that were going to be binned anyway - in which case, why not give to the dog.

put in another container if you want to - dogs licking plates doesnt bother me (I have a good dishwasher) but if it bothers you, just say no or decant onto something else.

I think people just have different feelings about dogs - but then use the word No if you dont want the dog coming over and/or dont want it having anything at your house.

I would be very cross if people just brought their dog without asking or just gave it food - but if they ask first you say yes or no.

gillycats I d rather touch cash than a tongue that’s licked it’s own bum clean
Dogs should only eat once a day so why would it need food when visiting ?

Doggie people leave your pooches at home

I agree with snowberryz, why can’t people just leave the dog for a couple of hours at home. It’s annoying when you go out for a lovely meal .. and there’s a stinky dog nearby. Drives me mad.

Like I said I have dogs and for me the issue wasn't serving the dog from the serving dish because to be honest you could have served it in whatever you chose. For me the issue was asking for the food. How did she know it was surplus to requirements you may have wanted to use it yourself. I put my dogs first as in I would have made sure it was fed before leaving home or took their food with me. As they are raw fed I wouldn't inflict that on you. I can't get over the cheek of them only surprised they didn't ask for a doggy bag.

I'd love to have guests with dog. Dogs in my house always get to lick plates unless oniony plates.

SparklyGrandma

Grand dog lol Callistemon21, that sounds so cute.

My friend coined the name before she had DGC and I thought it was odd at the time but it's a quick way to describe our relationship ??

Blossoming

I would never allow an animal to eat from the serving dish, ugh!

I'm right beside you on this, I don't even like them licking my hands or face!!
They should've fed their dog beforehand or be feeding him when they got home, and could easily have brought treats with them!
To ask if he could eat from the serving bowl, UGH!! I wouldn't like to eat or drink anything at theirs, for sure!!
Next time, if there is a next time, I'd say no pets!

*bleach, not beach!!

Really cheeky!! And unless you are talking scraps from people's plates then any thing left in serving dishes, I'd normally be saving for other things!! Eg cold cuts of meat for sandwiches. Veg to reheat etc

I don't have marg or ice cream tubs so I'd be hard pressed to find a bowl to feed a dog from. Of course I wouldn't say no to water from something - but the beach would be out after they'd gone!!

I wouldn't be hung up about giving a dog water or food or both, but I believe the visitors were wrong to ask that the food be served to the dog directly from the serving plate.

Did they actually insist is was done this way or were they trying to save their host some washing up? Some people don't mind their animals eating off the human's plates, other people are stick to the stomach at the very thought. If my dog pinched something off my plate whilst I wasn't looking, it wouldn't bother me much but usually I have different bowls for different species! Had there been no leftovers, they might not have asked for food at all.

Grand dog lol Callistemon21, that sounds so cute.

Gillycats

I’d have no problem with it. Humans are the dirtiest species on earth creating environmental problems and disasters. One of the filthiest things you can touch is cash by the way. Each to their own definitely but giving a dog food and water isn’t anything to get hung up about given the environmental crisis we’re in.

One of the filthiest things you can touch is cash by the way

Also, according to a Norwegian study, a computer keyboard - it has more bacterial life than a toilet seat apparently.

I wouldn't be hung up about giving a dog water or food or both, but I believe the visitors were wrong to ask that the food be served to the dog directly from the serving plate. I know the dish can be washed, but that's beside the point. The visitors must know that, rightly or wrongly, not everyone wants so share their crockery, armchair or bed with an animal. It's just social etiquette, ultimately.

Blossoming

I would never allow an animal to eat from the serving dish, ugh!

Me neither. Surely easy to decant into something else?

I wouldn't take my dog to someone else's house unless it was an emergency, but I think I'd rather have a dog visit my home than many of the people on here! Ok, so she shouldn't really have asked for a dish to feed the dog, but if it was washed properly afterwards, there was no harm done.

I think it’s cheeky to ask to bring the dog in the first place and asking for food is ridiculous. I have a dog and do none of these things. Bad manners!

Absolutely no way would I want a dog eating from my serving dishes or human plates! A firm no would have been my response and I think they were very inconsiderate to place you in that situation!

The mind boggles.
How inconsiderate of them to bring a dog with them.
If it were me i would hire a shire horse and call it my baby and ask if i could bring him/her with me.
You have the patience of job.
I don`t get this " it`s my baby crap" ,

I just don't understand this current trend for touting your dog along with you wherever you go. Unless they are service or support dogs they should be taught to stay at home safely for periods of time. Both my dogs are rescues and one in particular was treated cruelly but she has learned now to wait quietly until we return. If I was unable to leave them I would not accept invitations or get a dog sitter. People have become very precious about their dogs to the extent of producing tense, unhappy animals at times.

I love dogs
However I was in costa a few weeks ago, there were 2 couples with a dog. When the lady had nearly finished her toastie she left some of it and got her dog to finish it from the plate, she then drank her cappuccino and gave the cup to the dog saying to her friends, I always let the dog lick the cups clean. Could not believe it.

On the whole you have been remarkably restrained.

My brother once came to stay the weekend and brought his dog without checking if it was ok. I'm not a dog hater but I did have two old cats and they were terrified of this particularly yappy little dog. To cap it all ,the dog crapped in the hallway and it got trodden in, brother thought I over reacted. Needless to say it never came here again, neither did my brother

I think it's incredibly cheeky to even ask to take a dog to someone else's house for a dinner party. Especially when there are other guests. A host should not have to worry about a guest dog as well as her invited guests. I would have said no. I would probably say yes if someone was just dropping in for coffee. I don't have dogs though and would expect visitors to supply their own feeding dishes.