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Murderous intent?

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GrammyGrammy Wed 29-Jun-22 13:44:38

Am I overreacting or is this attempted murder? A diabetic obese woman in her 90th year brought three sacks of sugar treats per year. She gains half a stone each time and gets uti's. Its made her incontinent. No flowers just this stuff hidden around the house. Three one or two hour visits per year only. Previously this same one got their two other disabled siblings excluded from uncles will and groomed the 3 million for themselves. Is this sack of sugar attempted murder Of an elderly diabetic? Am I unreasonable for thinking it is exactly that?

PaperMonster Thu 30-Jun-22 11:03:24

Well, it’s not the best thing to bring a diabetic but as one myself, I eat chocolate and it doesn’t affect my levels. Depends more what her day to day diet is like.

Callistemon21 Thu 30-Jun-22 09:54:20

GagaJo

Oh I don't know. I had a 'friend' once who deliberately cooked her husband the fattiest, unhealthiest foods she could think of. She told me she was trying to give him a heart attack.

We're not friends anymore.

I've just read book where the wife overfed her greedy, much hated husband and he died. I think it was a Victoria Hislop book. An interesting idea!

Is this thread going to be the basis for a novel?

Maggiemaybe Thu 30-Jun-22 09:42:56

Sorry, I digress. If the story about the will change is true perhaps there is harm intended, but I doubt it’ll make a difference. A lady of that age with a sugar addiction is going to get hold of it anyway. DMIL lived on what my DD1 once described as a diet of pure sugar and lard and lived happily to 96. She wouldn’t have let anyone dictate to her about what she ate and none of us would have tried to.

Maggiemaybe Thu 30-Jun-22 09:33:03

Callistemon21
BlueBelle
Gosh if I get to 90 I ll probably drink ? by the bottle eat whatever I fancy and dance the light fandango
Anyone joining me ?
Yes!!
Not sure about the dancing though, I'll watch you!

Oh, count me in! Though I’ll be smoking again as well by then (I gave up when I was 25 and still miss it). Can’t wait to show off my smoke ring blowing skills after 40 odd years.

Witzend Thu 30-Jun-22 08:23:31

If she’s reached the age of 90 even with health problems, IMO she’s entitled to eat what the hell she likes.

I said much the same to the care home staff member* who told my mother (over 90 with dementia) that she ought to be choosing the brown bread sandwiches instead of the white.

*she was the only one, ever, who I didn’t take to. Def. in the wrong job.

Esmay Wed 29-Jun-22 20:21:26

In my experience : when the elderly aged 90 plus want sweet treats-they get them by hook or by crook .

My father ate at least four bags of crisps and four chocolate bars a day .

And if he didn't get them - he resorted to tempers , tears and tantrums and getting other people ( family ,friends and neighbours ) to get them .

This year ,he's had a very bad fall and is far from well .
For the first time , his appetite has decreased and he's losing weight .
The tempers ,tantrums and tears have increased , but his diabetic condition has improved enormously .

Callistemon21 Wed 29-Jun-22 20:19:09

BlueBelle

Gosh if I get to 90 I ll probably drink ? by the bottle eat whatever I fancy and dance the light fandango
Anyone joining me ?

Yes!!

Not sure about the dancing though, I'll watch you!

Callistemon21 Wed 29-Jun-22 20:16:31

Ooh! Eclairs! Yum.

After looking at the OP, I really must tidy my cupboards blush

Callistemon21 Wed 29-Jun-22 20:10:31

Cherrytree59

Maybe a post from the plimsoll line.
--Nice modern kitchen--

???

DH sometimes buys me dark chocolate.
My children buy me chocolate - are they after their inheritance? ?

GagaJo Wed 29-Jun-22 20:05:13

Oh I don't know. I had a 'friend' once who deliberately cooked her husband the fattiest, unhealthiest foods she could think of. She told me she was trying to give him a heart attack.

We're not friends anymore.

Grannynannywanny Wed 29-Jun-22 20:01:04

I need to confess, after zooming in on the photo, I’ve added caramel aero bars to my shopping list ?

Blossoming Wed 29-Jun-22 18:03:34

Oh no! Mr. B bought me a gingerbread man when he went to the bakery earlier. Is he trying to kill me?

Cherrytree59 Wed 29-Jun-22 17:47:25

Maybe a post from the plimsoll line.
Nice modern kitchen

1summer Wed 29-Jun-22 17:25:41

Well 10 weeks ago my husband was given 6 weeks to live, he said at the time that expensive bottle of brandy in the cupboard I am going to drink. He is on his 3rd bottle - all bought by me, some of his tablets say don’t drink alcohol with them but who cares he enjoys it. Attempted murder- I don’t think so.

Elegran Wed 29-Jun-22 17:17:50

Where did this story come from, GrammyGrammy ? Our reactions to it depend very much on who first told it to you, where they heard it, and so on back to whoever had first-hand knowledge of it. Can you give us a link to where you found it?

BlueBelle Wed 29-Jun-22 17:17:03

Very strange post read it again and there’s a lot of hidden ‘beef’ in there Granmygrammy what’s you’re involvement are you related ?

Yammy Wed 29-Jun-22 17:12:48

Is this a spoof? A diabetic aged 90 being fed sugar and accusing the person of getting wills changed in their favour.
If it isn't I'll have what she's having if I can get to 90.

AGAA4 Wed 29-Jun-22 17:12:17

At 90 you my not worry about the consequences of eating whatever you like.

AreWeThereYet Wed 29-Jun-22 17:10:45

It's possible that the lady asks her visitor for these things when she visits. Often on GN posters say 'At my time of life I'm not being told what to do...I'll do what I want' - well, maybe she feels the same. Where on earth did this story come from??

BlueBelle Wed 29-Jun-22 17:06:10

Well the murderous intent obviously isn't working if she's lived to 90! haha riverwalk you are right

MissAdventure Wed 29-Jun-22 16:58:54

I don't think that's much, spread out over a year.

Riverwalk Wed 29-Jun-22 16:57:52

Well the murderous intent obviously isn't working if she's lived to 90!

Are you this woman's Carer?

Zoejory Wed 29-Jun-22 16:55:20

At 90 she's already reached a grand age.

I'd leave it be. Certainly not attempted murder!

BlueBelle Wed 29-Jun-22 16:51:04

Gosh if I get to 90 I ll probably drink ? by the bottle eat whatever I fancy and dance the light fandango
Anyone joining me ?

FarNorth Wed 29-Jun-22 16:42:47

What is the old lady's own view on the matter?