Neighbour’s party

They were thoughtful to let you know and it's a one-off as I understand your question. No cause for moaning.

Yes, you are being unreasonable. It's really good of them to give you two weeks' notice about the party. Your daughter can wear earplugs.

Get to know your neighbours better and they might invite you to their next party!

Put a note in and ask can you go too. At least they let you know, mine never did, although I knew what to expect at weekends. I ended up moving house because mine were so bad, yours sound pretty decent to me.

Can't believe you even needed to as if YWBU!! Your neighbours could have gone head and not warned you. I think you are lucky to have such good neighbours, many people don't.

Hopefully it's a one off but in legal terms they don't have a leg to stand on making noise until that time YANBU

Yes … you are. They can hardly put off their planned party because your daughter is staying overnight…. if it’s not a regular occurrence I think 1 am is ok… and they have informed you. Don’t be a grouch about it!

As others have said, if its a one-off or infrequent occasion, then just live and let live.

We had a situation last summer when the teenage girls living in the house opposite held a party in their parents' absence which got out of hand, resulting in lads fighting in the street, including sprawling all over my son's car. The girls wrote out an apology for every house affected and hand delivered these.

As it was a one-off and no damage caused to the car, we just accepted the apology and thought back nostalgically to when we were younger and enjoyed partying, though I hasten to add, our jollies didn't include fighting.

Just get earplugs and don't be a misery guts for a one off occasion you have prior notice of.

They’ve been polite if forewarning you and if you turned up at my door and asked me to end a party an hour earlier then I’m sorry it would be a no. It is the weekend after all and sounds like a one off.

Yes very unreasonable it’s just unfortunate your daughter is staying on that particular night. Surely she can wear ear plugs as others have said. Your DH the right attitude.

Thoughtful neighbours giving you time to organise your daughter's stay by informing her that there will be a party that night giving her the opportunity to, if she can, change her plans and stay another night when it's quieter.

You have very considerate neighbours with forethought..count your blessings!

You could check your local council website as there's usually a cut off time after which outdoor parties should be quiet. It may be as early as 11pm in some areas.

Bad luck it coincides with your daughter staying with you but surely not worth falling out over.

It might be raining that night in which case they will be indoors.

I too think you are being totally unreasonable.

You have been courteously given two weeks warning and told when the party will end.

This gives you plenty of time to buy ear-plugs for yourself and your daughter, or to make arrangements to spend the night away from home if you prefer.

I'm with every other person on here plus your DH - live & let live.

Riggie

You could check your local council website as there's usually a cut off time after which outdoor parties should be quiet. It may be as early as 11pm in some areas.

Oh dear how miserable that would be

It's just this once, so your daughter can wear ear-muffs...

Parties that go wrong:

My 'quietest' son was at a small gathering at a friend's house, in his teens, and all of them were very quiet (not all of my kids were like that!). It was a nice evening, and some were sitting in the front garden, when suddenly a car pulled up, out jumped 3 blokes, 2 held one of the boys whilst one delivered nasty punches. The kids were taken aback and it was all over in less than a minute.
They called police and ambulance, and also had the sense to call us to go to A&E as the injured kid's parents were away. Someone also had the presence of mind to write down the number of the car, which resulted in arrests (mistaken identity, thugs do 'racial profiling'!)
Now, many years later ( a mercifully quick recovery) we and neighbours see the funny side of this rather 'goody-goody' set of kids being at the centre of such an incident!

I don’t think YABU. In my experience neighbours usually avoid annoying their neighbours not by an advance notice but by inviting you to the event as well.

Gosh can’t believe you’re complaining I’d love to hear signs of life would be different if it was every night

Please don't turn into my ex Martin Bruce type neighbour constantly , phoning the council , checking regulations keeping notes on his clip board ...driving the entire neighbour crazy .
I hated Iiving next door to him.
I couldn't breath .

Let them have them have their party without spoiling it.

I'm so glad that my father never complained about our very noisy neighbours .
Only yesterday, they got me an emergency plumber .
Today ,another is making a detour to the surgery to collect a new prescription and helping move stuff that I can"t budge out of the garage .
Try to be friendly and tolerant .

Considerate of the neighbours to give advance warning. Cherish them.
We live in an area when the neighbours have a party they don’t now inform us.
Their children did say when they were having parties. The adult parties are much noisier and last last 1pm and don’t tell us.
Please cherish your considerate neighbours. If it’s a special occasion I’d have thought they would have shared that info with neighbours. Is it the type of neighbourhood who don’t speak with their neighbours?

Oh my goodness ! How can you complain?
Your neighbours have done a very kind thing in letting you know. Most people wouldn’t. It’s something we do in our road and it’s very considerate.
they re entitled to have a party if they want one and have no obligation to let you know.

1am is not late and they were courteous in letting you know. Yes, you are being unreasonable.