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Isabel46 Fri 26-Aug-22 15:40:55

Am I the only English-speaking mother and grandmother who objects to the use of the word ‘farting’? It seems that most people find it hilarious.

I was watching ‘Come Dine with Me’ recently and one of the male contestants confessed that his wife does it in front of others- not funny, I thought - and nothing to brag about!

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 09:51:59

grin

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 09:54:24

I always feel a bit uneasy with toilet humour.

It was very frowned upon in my family, and my daughter used to get unreasonably cross about it, too.

Caleo Sat 27-Aug-22 09:56:01

It's not a word I use, and I never watch television comics who think 'fart' is funny. It's nicely onomatopoeic , and it's a pity these old terms are not used in clinical settings.

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 09:57:49

I did once tell a gp that I have always been quite farty, and he typed it word for word into google to look up what might be wrong with me.

Baggs Sat 27-Aug-22 10:01:47

lovebeigecardigans1955

It's a bit adolescent, isn't it? But then some people never really grow up, do they?

And some people can't help it.

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 10:05:02

It is childish, but enjoying childish pursuits is recommended as a healthy way of keeping your mental health and other things sound.

Baggs Sat 27-Aug-22 10:15:39

I seem to remember that a certain friend who had a bowel operation not too long ago was told that farting was a good sign that things were working.

Objecting to an Old English word that exactly tells you what it is, is just silly. Dislike the smell by all means, but the word? Ridiculous.

Childish really.

Doodledog Sat 27-Aug-22 10:19:21

Agreed, Baggs.

And 'fart' is not 'bad language current at the moment' grin. Chaucer went into a lot of detail about it in the Miller's Tale. Clearly, a lot of people found it hilarious even in the 12th century.

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 10:20:04

When I had my appendix out o was told to let them know as soon as i "let off".

It seemed it would never happen; my daughter suggested fetching our sofa up to the hospital, as I always seemed to manage it there.

Caleo Sat 27-Aug-22 10:21:41

Why do farts smell?

Answer: so that deaf people can enjoy them too.

MissAdventure Sat 27-Aug-22 10:26:42

Snigger.. smile

Blossoming Sat 27-Aug-22 10:50:19

Serendipity22

Blossoming

So, not only do I have a disgusting bearded husband but I use disgusting language and I sometimes do disgusting acts in front of others, courtesy of bowel cancer and surgery. Thanks Serendipity grin

!!!!!

In what part of my post have I mentioned illness? I was just replying as others have with their personal take on the matter, i most certainly didnt mean to offend anyone and I am truly sorry if my post did. flowers

You said that “find it necessary to it infront of other, I find it beyond disgusting.” I have pointed out some people have no choice due to health issues.

You seem fond of the word disgusting.

annodomini Sat 27-Aug-22 11:18:13

I agree Baggs. In fact, the word is nicely onomatopoeic! I see that in some series on Netlfix (for example), grumpy men of a certain age are referred to (and call themselves) 'old farts' - fortunately not applied to women.

Serendipity22 Sat 27-Aug-22 11:20:36

But isnt that my perogative? Isnt that what GN is all about ? To be able to say what we feel? No way do I intend to upset nor hurt anyone, all I am doing is speaking as I find, it most certainly is not intended to hurt anyone.

Maybe I say what I say ( on this particular post ) because I am linking it with the people I associate with, who find it a joke to pass wind, in my personal opinion its disgusting but that is purely based on my own association of it all, nothing else.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 27-Aug-22 11:50:11

In our family we say, pardon Mrs Arden there’s a pussy cat in your garden the GC think it’s a really funny ?

It comes from my maternal great Granny.

Answering the OP I do not think that farting scores very highly on the 2022 swearometer.

grandtanteJE65 Sat 27-Aug-22 12:16:09

Regarding the contestant's wife, I am glad I am not married to her boorish husband! His behaviour is surely far more obnoxious than her inability to control her emissions in public.

But yes, OP, I am with you about crude or coarse language. Unhappily, it is so common these days, that I suppose there is really no point in objecting. Those who use the expressions you and I object to, just think we are odd and prudish.

Blossoming Sat 27-Aug-22 13:08:27

“ But isnt that my perogative? Isnt that what GN is all about ? To be able to say what we feel? ”

And it’s my prerogative to reply.

Serendipity22 Sat 27-Aug-22 13:20:42

Blossoming

“ But isnt that my perogative? Isnt that what GN is all about ? To be able to say what we feel? ”

And it’s my prerogative to reply.

Absolutely... of course it is.....

Baggs Sat 27-Aug-22 17:35:39

Serendipity22

But isnt that my perogative? Isnt that what GN is all about ? To be able to say what we feel? No way do I intend to upset nor hurt anyone, all I am doing is speaking as I find, it most certainly is not intended to hurt anyone.

Maybe I say what I say ( on this particular post ) because I am linking it with the people I associate with, who find it a joke to pass wind, in my personal opinion its disgusting but that is purely based on my own association of it all, nothing else.

I fully support your prerogative to say what you feel, Ser.

What I don't understand is what exactly you find disgusting: is it that people fart at all, including when they can't help it, or is it that farts make an unpleasant (but usually quickly dispersing, I think) smell? There's a huge difference between those two positions of disgustingness.

If it's the first, then I think that is an unreasonable position to take. Farts happen. Fact of life. If it's the second, then yes, quite so.

Do you find other natural but potentially embarassing things disgusting as well? I bet you've never owned a dog ?

Serendipity22 Sat 27-Aug-22 18:26:53

Hello Baggs

I think what I am basing it on is that the people who do it ( young people) who do it for a laugh is what I find unnecessary.

My mum was doing it all the time and it never ever bothered me, same with my job in care, it was just a fact of life, certainly couldnt be helped, but when its done to generate a laugh, thats what I find not pleasant and I am not the only 1 I have to add...

Yes we alllll do it, good gracious me, Ive done it myself and I was like really embarrassed. It might be because anything to do with that part of bodily functions was never ever made known or discussed as i grew up, it was never talked about... i don't know..... I really dont know....

1 thing I DO know is that no way did I mean to upset anyone, heck, no way and I am sorry if I did. X

Baggs Sat 27-Aug-22 19:00:28

I think what I am basing it on is that the people who do it ( young people) who do it for a laugh is what I find unnecessary

This makes perfect sense. Thank you.

Yammy Sat 27-Aug-22 21:40:59

Not a word used in my house when little or heard from either parent.
When I had dd by caesarian section they told me to do it as much as I could as it would ease the pain. The girl in the next bed certainly gave a good demonstration and we got on well.
It's an act of nature if someone burps we are not disgusted why do we giggle or frown as my parents did at a fart?

Spice101 Sun 28-Aug-22 02:44:58

MissAdventure

It's not as nice as a blow off, though.
I'd take a blow off over a fart, anyday! smile

I'd be worried about other connotations of that term. I think fart is safer.

grannypiper Thu 13-Oct-22 17:46:24

Detest that word

henetha Thu 13-Oct-22 18:19:02

When you live alone it's amazing how anti-social we can become. I'm guilty of 'trumpetting' a bit!.
Is that better than farting?
I must admit that words like that don't really bother me .