Holidays with in laws -need to say no

If you are on day 10 and are unwell *Go To Bed*and stay there, if your DH is so keen on being with them, let him sort them out.
Then just say No. things will only get worse the older they get and then one day they just won’t go home and you will end up caring for them. 24/7.
Time to get your big girl pants on.

If you can't bring yourself to tell them the truth, make something up. Tell them you're going on a walking holiday (as biglouis says, you don't have to actually go.) Or sailing, or climbing - Something that they won't manage.

We went on a cruise one Christmas and New Year and had a fantastic holiday. Maybe consider that ? I used to have occasional holidays with parents/in-laws but we would stay in separate accomodation and that worked. Time for you to live your own life ,isn’t it ? If your husband doesn’t like it, go with a peer group on your own. There are lots of them around catering for just such events.

Yanbu

Tell your dh the b&b is closed.

Have you ever had a nuclear family only xmas?

biglouis love it !

One way to avoid unwelcome visitors at Christmas is to go away yourself. Or just SAY you are going away.

I used to spend a miserable time every year staying with my parents. Then one year a friend invited me to visit her in Casablanca so off I flew. The next christmas I flew off to Khatmandu. Thereafter I just told my parents I am going to X country. Mostly I just stayed at home and did not answer the phone for 10 days. No smart phones then and mobiles were too expensive to take abroad.

I have become a past mistress at not communicating with people (including relatives) that I dont want to speak to. Just dont make arrangements.

Or better still tell them exactly how you feel!

It sounds like you’ve done more than your share. I wouldn’t do it anymore, holidays should be enjoyable & relaxing. just tell them you are doing something different next year. Life’s too short.

If you can’t manage to say an outright no to them how about going somewhere warm and all inclusive … no cooking, cleaning or looking after them. It could even be cheaper than having them at yours.

Better still, just tell them you’re going away, don’t invite them!

just.
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Sounds absolutely horrible.
You’ve definitely done your bit, you need to be assertive, let them go and trash someone else’s home, or preferably just stay home and trash their own.

It's only a holiday if you have a break and enjoy it too.

You are a saint ?- 18 holidays with your in-laws !!!!

I simply would not put up with heavy drinkers in my house for more than an evening, I find them revolting especially older people.

YANBU, they sound ghastly. Stick to your guns and tell your husband he must back you up.

Just say it doesn’t work for you, no need to give any reason.