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pandapatch

What I really object to is being ambushed by charities at the door of shops. Great Ormond Street had a stand inside the foyer at M&S yesterday and I feel so mean declining (we do give regularly to charities of our choice)

My DF and his friends regularly had a stall for an ex-servicemen's charity at the door of a local supermarket. Luckily many shoppers don't let their personal and self inflicted feelings of shame get in the way of actually donating to something worthwhile. Here's an inside tip - they generally don't care if you don't donate, they are more interested in those who do.

Here's an inside tip - they generally don't care if you don't donate, they are more interested in those who do.

Your DF and his friends are not chuggers.
They're volunteers like DH and his friends.

They don't accost people in the street, prevent them walking past, walk alongside them, quiz them and tell them the charity they donate to is not worthwhile, best sign up to theirs. They're young chuggers, paid on per signature basis.

I think we know the different, don't need inside tips.

I don't feel ambushed by charity stalls. There's no pressure to give.

pandapatch

What I really object to is being ambushed by charities at the door of shops. Great Ormond Street had a stand inside the foyer at M&S yesterday and I feel so mean declining (we do give regularly to charities of our choice)

My DF and his friends regularly had a stall for an ex-servicemen's charity at the door of a local supermarket. Luckily many shoppers don't let their personal and self inflicted feelings of shame get in the way of actually donating to something worthwhile. Here's an inside tip - they generally don't care if you don't donate, they are more interested in those who do.

I get indignant too. When stores declare what they have donated to certain charities, our donations at the till will be included. I do not like others taking credit for public donations.
I say no. I don't feel guilty. I choose to whom I will donate.
Sometimes I pay for raffle tickets myself as a donation. Otherwise I bin with other mail asking for donations.

It's a funny old world.

People getting indignant at being asked to donate to charity. Say no, pass on by, or don't open the envelopes they send you. You won't go to hell for it and neither will they.

You don't have to justify your refusal. That's just a guilty conscience, or lack of self-confidence, or something.

Getting us to donate at the tills means they can collect without having to do any legwork.
I refuse to be guilt tripped into giving, I donate on my terms.
A charity that pays their CEO £200,000 a year does not need pennies from my supermarket shop.

It used to be the same before self service tills and the internet. You would would choose a charity to donate to and they became ever more greedy and demanding, sending begging letters every few months. In the end I just binned them. I dont shop in person now so I miss out on all that. One of the joys of shopping online.

Oh yes the dreaded raffle tickets sent in the post !
I’m sure I speak for a lot of people when I say there is no way I’m going round knocking on my neighbours doors, pestering them to buy some.

What a waste of money they must be as the majority will surely end up in the bin.

We all have charities we support which mean something to us personally without having others foisted on us.

Sago It is only like 'public shaming' if you decide it is. If you refuse to feel shamed, there is no public shaming.

silverspoon125

Janejudge - till at the petrol station

I thought you meant in wilkos

silverspoon125

The power of the Charities.

It starts with a nominal sum 10p, 15p, 25p but it's only ever going to go one way.

They know where we are vulnerable - At the tills.

I don't like it

I don't want it

I totally object to it

I agree with you, and think you are not being unreasonable at all.
I would not constantly shop at places where they do this.
Our charitable donations should be made when we want to make them, and choose the charity too.
It is true that this is a corporate decision, and the till service person would prefer not to ask every time.
Be firm and say no if you want to, or yes if you want to, but it has to be your decision not based on feelings of guilt.

I find it infuriating too.
It’s almost like a public shaming when you say no!
TK Max do it, I end up justifying my refusal.

I actually quite like it. It's only like putting your change in the charity box. Sometimes I click yes, sometimes no. I regularly shop at a place where the guy clicks no before he pushes the debit card machine to the customer.

Aldi don’t ask you, Asda ask on the screen and you just click no
We now don’t have any chuggers in our high street so I m not feeling it I guess it depends where you shop

I shop mostly in small independent shops, markets and the Co-op, and haven't come across this. I would simply say "no" and if I felt it necessary " I already donate as I wish".
And as for charities sending begging letters, my mum became so distressed by this that I contacted the Charity Commission, who were unable to do anything. I contacted as many charities as I could to stop the letters, but it was a losing battle. When her mobility became so poor that she didn't get to pick up her post, we simply threw them away, she would have been furious had she known.

Janejudge - till at the petrol station

pandapatch

What I really object to is being ambushed by charities at the door of shops. Great Ormond Street had a stand inside the foyer at M&S yesterday and I feel so mean declining (we do give regularly to charities of our choice)

These people are not volunteers, they are employed to stand there or accost people in the street. They are paid a salary or a percentage of donations.
They are not supposed to approach people in the street but some do and argue the toss if you say you already donate to a similar charity.

what is a petrol till?

It's called guilt-tripping.

We prefer to make donations directly.

I do give to charities of my choice direct debit. I will put any change I have in a charity box at a till. I don't like being approached about charities I have no problem saying no.

Any organiisation that tries to blackmail me into giving to a charity of their choice gets a firm 'no'. Whether at the till or on online shopping orders, I just say no. As far as I am concerned, End of.

It is irrelevant as to whether I give to other charities or have some objection to giving to charities, or just do not want to. If I give to a charity, it is a charity of my choice and my choice of donation size.

Nothing at all embarrassing about it ,*silverspoon125*, just justified reaction to emotional blackmail.

What I really object to is being ambushed by charities at the door of shops. Great Ormond Street had a stand inside the foyer at M&S yesterday and I feel so mean declining (we do give regularly to charities of our choice)