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parent very critically ill

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Grannmarie Sat 15-Oct-22 18:33:14

Hello, Dawn, my heart goes out to you, I'm so sorry to hear about your dear Dad. No matter what age you are,you are never prepared to lose a beloved parent.
Is it at all possible for you and your Mum to get to the hospital to be with him, one on either side of hos bed, holding his hands?
I thought family were allowed in for 'end of life' circumstances? It may comfort your parents to be together, even if your Dad is unconscious.

If that is not possible, can you be with your Mum, to support and comfort each other, should the call come?

Please don't give up hope, hospitals have to be quite blunt and prepare you for the worst, but keep hoping for a positive outcome.

Thinking of you and your family.
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silverlining48 Sat 15-Oct-22 18:25:46

No advice Dawn, just hope your dad pulls through. Waiting is just so hard. So very sorry. flowers

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Blossoming Sat 15-Oct-22 18:23:22

No advice I’m afraid, I was devastated when I lost my dad even though it was expected. You have my sympathies, try to stay strong for your mum, you will be a great comfort to each other if and when the worst does happen x

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Dawn62 Sat 15-Oct-22 18:16:40

hi,sorry if i babble but my dad who is 83 is critically ill.He had a triple heart bypass on monday and he had a bleed after it which meant more surgery to repair and now he is classed as very critical and the sickest person in the hospital.He's my dad i am 60 and i am heart broken,i have taken my mum a few times to sit with him she is poor mum in total shock he only went in for stents but needed a bypass,he has not been woken up,he's on bypass machine and his organs are getting weaker,we have been told that there is more chance he won't make it than will and i selfishly cannot take this i want my dad,the days before the op i had endless messages and calls from him,we were'nt allowed to visit because of covid he cried lots every day to me and my mum,told me to look after mum told us he loved us etc,nobody expected this to happen and i am really stuck ,i ring the hospital for updates but they say he's on a knifes edge could go at any point so just waiting for that call.So reason for a posting is please can anyone offer any advice.thank you

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