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I think in the new year I will try and ask if they can sort it out. This is having such an effect on the whole family.
I am honestly not favouring Sibling. Itâs that I am worried by forcing them to stay away they will say that they arenât going to alternate any more. And then if Son doesnât come every year (which I donât think he would) we could end up not having anyone here. Son has said in the last that he doesnât want to be in a strict routine. Some years they have hosted us, some years us and DIL parents and other years theyâve spent with friends. So itâs not set in stone the way it is with Sibling.
Seems like you fear by forcing the issue that you will end up having no one , than to be fair to son . Sorry but I couldnât put up with this as if it were me then Iâd have to talk to both sons to get to the bottom of it . Invite them both , then it be up to them to sort out their indifferenceâs , and if your â alternativeâ plans go pear shaped then so be it , at least then your not favouring one son over the other , because the way it stands thatâs exactly what your doing . Book to go away next Christmas and leave them all to it . This is not your problem itâs theirs , to sort out as mature adults.