I'm a gran to a lovely 4 year old boy. I had him stay with us over Christmas and New Year for a few days to give my DS the chance to go out and relax. I love spending time with my grandson.
I live about an hour away by car from my DS, 26. I don't drive. I am single and live with my younger DS, 9 (There is 17 years between my children) My DS does drive but does not have a car at the moment. So any childcare has to be logistically organised via buses and trains. Which is very time consuming.
My DS asked me to look after my grandson this Sat as he and his wife have been invited out. However, I have plans on Sat. My youngest DS has his hobbies - football and then swimming. Then we are meeting his friend from school and the friends mum for lunch. Then we are going to the cinema at night.
I am a single parent. I have had zero child free days or nights since my DS was born 9 years ago. His father died. I have had very little support and struggled greatly at times. My DS, 26 has not bonded with his little brother and has not spent any 1 on 1 time with him.
I am looking forward to some child free time on Sat whilst my DS participates in his hobbies. Just reading the news, enjoying a coffee. That is all of the free time I get to myself every week as I work full time.
I am also looking forward to lunching with another adult and having adult conversation whilst my DS and his friend play.
I have just looked after my grandson for 5 days over Christmas and New Year. Which is really quite exhausting to do on my own with a 9 year old too. I live in a 4th floor flat. Taking a buggy up and down the stairs is not easy!
AIBU declining to look after my grandson this Sat? My DS has ignored me since I said I cant. He is not replying to my texts which is making me feel very guilty.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to fall out as it causes so much stress. What would you grans do?
Thanks in advance.
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