Feeling Ancient

mabon1

Get over it

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It's very rude and ignorant of your neighbour to make personal remarks. It's even more rude and insensitive to repeat them your DH lacks tact.
Move on from it though life is too short it's not worth dwelling on it.

Get over it

Forget it! Just get on with your life and do all the positive things you’d planned. Stupid neighbour and a bit insensitive of your OH to mention it. That’s men sometimes (not always, for those who are about to berate me! 😂)

When we moved into this house we were both 48. A new neighbour took a parcel in for us and asked if we had grandchildren. I was taken aback and said my children weren't old enough to have children. I have never forgiven the old bat. She must be in her late fifties now and I wouldn't dream of suggesting she was old enough to have grandchildren.

Hi, I have a partner of 73 and I`m 78. He doesn`t look his age and I must say it keeps me on my toes not to look any older than I am!. Saying this because I am aware of the age difference (nothing to do with him} and I can understand how you feel. However, everyone has hit the nail, very very rude neighbour and a rather insensitive husband. Do your class!

How about starting up your exercise class again and giving your neighbour a flyer>! Deliver it personally, smile and suggest it'll help to get himself fit....

Enjoy being the age you are and the things you're able to do. Have a look at Tricia Cusden's blogs on her Look Fabulous Forever website - oh, and get yourself one of these:

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Oops. I should have read all the thread before putting in my twopennyworth above. I just automatically thought it was the remark of a predator and a woman. But I still think it was a strange comment!

What an absolutely astounding remark for anyone to make. She is definitely a person to steer clear of on so many counts! How on earth did they get into a conversation about ages anyway? Honestly!! I'm sure you will find that very few people like her. Just be yourself, confident in the knowledge your husband loves you, and follow your own plans. Remember, age is only a number. And I do know what I'm talking about as my husband was four years younger than me. I was rather proud of that 😉

At the last hospital app I accompanied my husband to …..a very young nurse said” you can bring your father through now”….he was in a wheelchair….. I’ve never felt so gratified , as he’s only 4 years older ! Mind you that was 5 years ago now! But after that he stopped attending hospital appointments and now has eventually had to go into care!
Now he’s looking younger than me as I still work at 72 to pay the care bills.
But yes….you are sulking a bit ….get back to the exercises and watch that flirty neighbour.

Hetty58

Why would he tell you that they said it? Cruel!

Maybe after all the years they have been married he was maybe pleased not to be thought of as older than his wife. I doubt he thought he was being cruel. Husbands can be a bit can be a bit thoughtless at times.

CaroleLM16

The neighbour is a man.

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HeavenLeigh

Just realised some of us are thinking the neighbour that remarked was a man, others are thinking it was a woman! So was the neighbour male or female CaroleM16

She’s already said - it was a man

I was 38 when my DD was born. I remember when she was about 9 taking her swimming and another child asking me if she could play with my granddaughter. I was a bit miffed but shouldn't have cared.

Oh for heaven’s sake. Get a grip woman. It’s nothing 🤷‍♀️

Some people have no filter, if they think it, they say it.
I had a mother like that!

Your new neighbour sounds like a real b*tch! What a nasty and unnecessary thing to say, so sorry,

A few years ago, actually quite a long time ago, someone came to the door selling something, can't remember what. Anyway, he came back again the next day and my husband answered the door. The man said to him ' I saw your Mum yesterday' !! We often laugh about it, yes, even me!!!!

Some years ago I remember my mother telling us that a shop assistant thought my father was her son, as in 'will your son pack or do you want some assistance?' She was a bit miffed but laughed about it when she told us all. I think my parents were both about 68 at the time. She chose to believe that my father looked younger than his years (which he did) rather than she looked much older than hers.

people used to think my late husband was my dad, he was the same age as my mum, he was 18 years older than me, best one, i was in labour and the nurse said your dad is here, her face when i said ..no that is the babies dad..lol don't let it bother you, after all age is just a number.

Just realised some of us are thinking the neighbour that remarked was a man, others are thinking it was a woman! So was the neighbour male or female CaroleM16

What did your husband say in response??

Oh good lord, it could be that this new neighbour was trying to be friendly and simply said something he didn't realise was going to upset anyone!
So what if he thinks you're older?
Not everything is meant to be hurtful!!

Get out there and start your new classes. I stupidly gave up teaching (kiddies ballet) during covid and haven't resumed because of similar remarks from so-called friends. "it was time you stopped gallivanting around" and such opinions.
Apart from benefitting pupils of any age, you will find your own fitness declining once you stop 'galivanting'.
I was a fool.

There are far too many people happy to pass on unkind and ignorant remarks made by others. It’s easy to say take no notice but it can be hurtful - so tell your husband! He won’t do it again, I bet,