Friends childs birthday party

Puzzled as to why you keep referring to her as your best friend? Best friends don’t behave as she does. Say no to her demands….just smile and wave.

Ok so I am a FIRM believer that you always match effort with effort. If someone is generous (not necessarily financially, also with time and effort towards you) then match that energy and be the same with them. If, however, someone is displaying toxic behaviour and bringing negative energy to the table, back off, protect your peace and move on. Just because you have known someone for a long time, it does not mean you have any obligation towards them if they are treating you poorly. Put your focus and energy into those that will lift you up, not those that will drag you down.

Don't go to the party, don't help with the decorating - for the reasons others have suggested. If appropriate, send the child a card and a present to show that you're not ignoring her.

You can be more gentle, just not be available for her. The key is learning to say no.

I don’t think I’d be continuing with this friendship personally!

If she wasnt part of the our friendship group, I would have dropped her years ago.

I dont want to completely drop her as our other friends are just distancing thereself right now and we are part of a bigger group. I dont want to make the group feel awkward or to completely stop speaking to her and then have her attend nights out etc.

I am very busy and nearly fell off my seat when she asked if I could help decorate her childs room. I said no that I had my OWN rooms to decorate. She also has a husband may I add.

I feel bad as we are close friends but she has been texting my other friend saying she cant wait for her to be at the party and only said to me about the party when she wanted my to help out.

I would drop her. Not worth the effort. Just say you can’t help paint the child’s room, do the decorations or go to the party, having just moved house you’re very busy. Which I imagine you are.

I would drop her without a second thought, if all you say about her is true, which I assume it is.

The only other alternative is to tell her to pay her own way, as you cannot afford to pay for her drinks, coffee or whatever, but that doesn't solve the other problems, does it?

She does sound like a user tbh, does she expect you to help with the party is that why you have been invited? Whether you should go all depends on if you think her daughter would be disappointed by you not being there or if you don't particularly have a relationship with her daughter I would just say you are not available that day, but hopefully they will all enjoy.

I had a friend a bit like that and I ended the friendship. I never regretted it. If you feel used and resentful it's just not worth it.