Feeling let down

I can’t stand them either. Why use Darling or Dear at all? Sometimes DS or DSil is used and you don’t know if it applies to Son or Sister.

Yes, laziness GSM- OP saves scrolling back to see who it was!

I agree NS. I find the acronyms really silly and irritating and never use them, other than (out of laziness) OP

I am used to them - but still dislike them - and don't use them myself (apart from occasionally OP).
I can't abide that everyone is "Dear" or "Darling" automatically!

As a longtime GNer I'm quite used to them. Most of us are.

I cannot understand why this site posters use acronyms as others don’t. It’s really confusing and why can’t posters just type the actual word it would make Gransnet better and easier to read without acronyms.

I add my daughter/sons and anyone else that needs to know about certain dates to my google calendar so it will pop up as a notification.

Agree. They can always find time to message when they need something or a babysitter

Glad to see your husband is home. Hope you have been in contact with your daughter and are feeling a bit better.

Welcome Gami1216.

You can look up the list of acronyms, but it’s really easy when the first D is dear or darling so:-

DH - husband
DOH - other half
DD - daughter
DGC - grandchildren
DGS or DGS - grandson/daughter
AC are adult children

All fairly simple when you think about it?
Hope that helps and you enjoy reading and adding your views.

I have had a few invasive rather unpleasant procedures DH came with me must admit AC didn't pay too much attention although they are both very caring and supportive. DD had a nasty procedure but didn't say anything until after as she didn't want to worry me. I think they expect us to have more medical input as we get older. I don't for a minute think this is because they don't care. I know from experience that when we had a few medical emergencies they were there immediately. Please don't think you DD doesn't care. She is a busy mum and she might be horrified to feel she has let you down. Hope you are ok.

I am new to this website and see a lot of initials everywhere in the posts. Forgive me but…….What does DH and DD stand for?

I had a quiet sad time to myself this week. My new car was hit by another car in a car park. Absolutely not my fault. I was driving along when a big car just reversed straight into the side of me. Nice people rushed up to say they were witnesses and everyone was very kind. The other driver apologised and things are going along with the insurance company. However, I was very shaken up and upset. My new and already dear little car is in a state.
Would it have been asking much for my DD to contact me or even text something sympathetic from her holiday? She must know about it as kind SiL was texting.
I know. I'm just feeling sorry for myself and gearing up for complicated travel over the next few weeks.

I have another friend whose son got into dreadful gambling debts which she paid off and she buys him nearly new cars every few years. He rang while I was at hers and I said I would leave and give them chance to chat and she said “oh no he will be ringing to ask for money or something because that’s the only time he calls me.” I felt very sad for her. 😢

I just can’t understand why adult children have to be reminded of family stuff. I never remind my kids. They have birthday dates on their phones and if one of us has to go to hospital we tell them. It’s up to them to remember.

Let’s face it, most younger people are glued to their phones anyway. My nieces can always manage to ring or text their Dad if they need money or want him to childmind but couldn’t care less about him otherwise.

I can empathise with you. My family are all grown up now but I still always remind them about uncles/aunts/other family birthdays etc. It isn't that they need to send a gift or anything but my sister or brother would be very hurt if they didn't at least get a text! It drives me mad. Have people just lost the ability to remember things or make notes of birthdays etc? You would think, in this high tech age it was easier to remember things but obviously not!

Well said Sorechame.

After 63 years of marriage I have learned to pre-warn my family of everything, from birthdays to holiday dates and that includes hospital trips.

My screen doesn't show any acronyms either. I just had to guess what they stood for.
Personally I find it quicker to type 'husband' or 'daughter' or 'gson' and it avoids misunderstandings. I remember being very confused after I first joined, when the original poster (or OP) was talking about her son-in law (SIL) and her sister in law (also SIL).
They are very confusing.

Glad he's home and resting.

I use my Samsung phone for Gransnet. There's no Acronym button top or bottom of my screen. I struggle with 'DS/DH' etc due to dyspraxia and find some of the abbreviations indecipherable.

Congrats mamasperspective!

To add to what she said

This medical procedure was outpatient, so usually the risk is low and very routine
Could have that impacted your daughter's response?

You also said once again, so what is the other ocassion where she was not there for you as you expected her to be?

Hope everything has gone well and that your daughter has phoned.

DH going for a gastroscopy tomorrow, so I know exactly how you feel as the dread spectre of cancer is lurking ready to pounce on us both!

I dug a quarter of a garden bed yesterday while dismally considering widowhood - hope prematurely!

I feel your daughter should have remembered, neither our parents' generation nor ours let the demands of jobs and small children make us forget to ring our parents when they were worried and anxious, so why should the present generation of young parents get away with this kind of thoughtlessness?

The boot is on the other foot here, as neither of us have told our adult son, but will do so tomorrow whatever the result.

You could have simply dropped her a text to say 'don't forget that your Dad is having his procedure today", no one should be too distracted or busy to remember family.

However, I now see that you have updated the thread and I hope your OH is ok.

Very glad to hear the procedure went well and he’s now home where he can rest and enjoy family visits.

Dealing with parental mortality can be a bit of a difficult shift when you’re a grown up, one of my sons was completely distraught after visiting me after an emergency hospital admission with a gall bladder abscess and seeing that I was very ill, possibly ill enough to die!

Try not to be too upset with your daughter, this is the way that family rifts start. IMO she simply forgot the date, it happens, however important the person in hospital is to you.

Sending you a much-deserved - it’s obviously been a very anxious time for you.

I know we are always making excuses for our grown up dds that they are so busy with work and family life but honestly they should understand that family extends outside their own immediate family. Mine included in this. A call or text takes minutes but means a lot. Glad your dh is home recovering and in my opinion your feelings were valid.

My daughters the same ….great in a crisis …but hopeless at remembering family stuff!