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14 Speeches at the wedding we attended this weekend.

(74 Posts)
nanna8 Mon 14-Aug-23 01:56:14

Boring- there should be just 4 - father or mother, best man, bride, groom. We went to one where the friends came out with some really foul stuff about previous sexual activity. Totally inappropriate, I must be a prude.

Whitewavemark2 Mon 14-Aug-23 01:49:53

At my sisters second marriage, she alone made the speech.

Started as she intended to continue.

Redhead56 Mon 14-Aug-23 00:35:26

Weddings years ago started with the ceremony then the wedding breakfast then hours on end doing nothing until the evening. If you where stuck in the sticks somewhere it was very tiring and boring.
How things have changed we went to a very large wedding in London some years ago. The speeches went on for a hour and half it was unbelievable. It was the most extravagant wedding we ever attended. Money was no concern what ever the bride wanted the bride got. The groom is a relative and we had never met the bride until the actual wedding day.
The marriage did not last eighteen months as we expected. It was just a day that the bride wanted the glitz and glamour centre of attention the actual marriage didn’t matter.
Since then we have attended two weddings not as sumptuous both occasions were just a show for other people to envy. What a shame all the pomp and ceremony meant so much but the actual marriages didn’t.

SusieB50 Sun 13-Aug-23 23:57:11

I went to a lovely fun wedding of my friend’s son a couple of weeks ago. I have known him since he was a toddler and he and my son are close friends. There were a lot of speeches , it was his second marriage and both his teenage children spoke - really lovely, his two best men (one was my son) provided the hilarity, then the bride’s dad gave a sweet speech. The groom also gave a very nice speech.I really enjoyed it and am so pleased that he has found a lovely girl . We were all so sad when his first marriage broke down. The speeches were very entertaining and didn’t go on too long. As most of the guests were medics and sports fanatics it was a very riotous inebriated affair!

biglouis Sun 13-Aug-23 23:31:30

Last time I went to a wedding (some years ago now) there was a long gap between the service and the meal in a city center restaurant. No information as to what we were to do or how a non driver like myself was to get there. I lost interest and got a taxi home. I have not been to a wedding since. They can be unbelievably tedious.

merlotgran Sun 13-Aug-23 23:28:28

We went to one like that. The speeches went on and on and I felt sorry for the bride’s parents because they were completely swamped by the groom’s family. Just when we thought it was all over we had to troop outside and watch a tree being planted in memory of some absent friend who obviously couldn’t be there because he was dead!
DH muttered, ‘Lucky bugger!’

DeeDe Sun 13-Aug-23 23:18:23

I’d have either gone asleep, gone to the bar or taken my husband for a needed by then haircut …
That must be a record… you poor things :/

Esmay Sun 13-Aug-23 23:01:20

A bit much , surely ?

Sago Sun 13-Aug-23 22:43:28

They were spread out over 3 hours😬

BlueBelle Sun 13-Aug-23 22:31:18

Haven’t been to a wedding for about 40 years sounds that I ve dodged a bullet there

Summerlove Sun 13-Aug-23 22:30:38

I hope those speeches were at least while you were eating!

Beechnut Sun 13-Aug-23 22:17:16

grannyqueenie

What a marathon that must have been! I was at a wedding last weekend, unusually the speeches were in the church after the ceremony. There was fizz there for us all while they had some outside photos taken. Short speeches by the bride’s dad and the groom, then a very funny double act from the best men - his 2 adult sons!
A very different way of doing things and less tedious than many speeches I’ve heard!

Very much the same at our daughter’s wedding. All the official part and four speeches at venue then onto another place for dinner and dancing.

Jaxjacky Sun 13-Aug-23 21:41:21

How many loo breaks 🙂

fancythat Sun 13-Aug-23 21:34:13

Been to one with maybe 5 speeches. No more than that.

There is a rule amongst our own family, that no speech to be over 7 minutes.

Harris27 Sun 13-Aug-23 21:33:01

Dear me🤐

silverlining48 Sun 13-Aug-23 21:27:18

At least women had the chance to speak at your wedding Sago. Though maybe 5 bridesmaids were pushing it a bit….but
Why shoukd it only be men, Fathers, grooms and best men who speak.

Patsy70 Sun 13-Aug-23 21:26:08

Definitely OTT. Were they trying to prove something? Which was the best one?

Callistemon21 Sun 13-Aug-23 20:56:23

And a toast at the end of each one?
🥂

VioletSky Sun 13-Aug-23 20:43:57

How long did that take?

grannyqueenie Sun 13-Aug-23 20:43:27

What a marathon that must have been! I was at a wedding last weekend, unusually the speeches were in the church after the ceremony. There was fizz there for us all while they had some outside photos taken. Short speeches by the bride’s dad and the groom, then a very funny double act from the best men - his 2 adult sons!
A very different way of doing things and less tedious than many speeches I’ve heard!

Marydoll Sun 13-Aug-23 20:37:39

My son was married last year and we had nothing like this.
Groom
Best Man
Father of the Bride
Father of the Groom

It seems very self indulgent to me and I would have been extremely hungry by the time the meal was served!

B9exchange Sun 13-Aug-23 20:36:36

Good grief, I am surprised you are not still there - you are not are you? grin

That does seem excessive. I have noticed the Mums are becoming more vocal, nothing wrong in that as long as everyone is brief, but if the total speeches go on longer than 45 minutes I would be getting a bit restless!

Sidelined Sun 13-Aug-23 20:35:34

Wow! How did you stay awake? Or sober?🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sago Sun 13-Aug-23 20:32:29

Yes, no exaggeration 14 speeches.
5 Bridesmaids,
2 Best Men.
2 Siblings of the bride,
1 Father of the bride,
1 MOB,
1 FOG,
The groom,
The bride.
Is this the “modern way”?
AIBU?