Confused and sensitive

Dinahmo - this is exactly why she is so active with GS. He goes to nursery full time so I guess she is over compensating with treats and outings. I am happy she can afford it, genuinely. We couldn’t when our 3 were growing up. Life has changed over the years. I am learning to mind my own business. Extended family doesn’t exist now for us. Just need to focus in my own life

I don't understand the current need to send and receive texts all the time.

I suspect that the OP's daughter is enjoying her time with her young son and wants to share it with her mother. She is lucky to be able to do so because many young mothers go to work leaving their children in nurseries.

Thank you for your comments and views. I am not jealous or lonely and am involved with lots of social activities in my community and active with walking with my DH. I think I will just text less going forward. Less is more

Try to be pleased that she has happy fun times with her child and her life is one long party.

Nobody really wants to know about other people's medical stuff, we listen as we get older out of politeness but there is no need to know.

i would agree with her that if she doesn't really have a relationship with her grandfather why would she phone him.

I'd text less often and always begin with a 'how are you and .... (GS) followed by something about what I've been up too. You're not doing anything wrong and TBH neither is your D but it might help you to lower your expectations.

When mine were tiny I often got to the end of the day and found I hadn’t even had time to go to the loo!
Mobile phones can be a curse, one is not necessarily available just because one could be. As you say, she is busy wth her 2 year-old whom you describe as spoiled.
Are you sure you are not jealous?
Not wishing to sound unsympathetic, you may be lonely with time on your hands.
I’d back off, text or message less frequently and fill your own life with your own activities .

I think you need to step back a bit from this relationship. Just reply when she texts you. Younger generations dont communicate in the same way as we "oldies".

Ive had people (younger relatives) who tend to pester a bit and ask me why I didnt respond to their urgent message. Dont you ever check your phone? Yes, I check it a couple of times a week. Lots of eye rolling. I check it every day but dont necessarily want them to know that.

My point is, she has accused me of not asking how they are, but she doesn’t ever ask how we are. Of course I love to receive videos and photos. I only text every few days generally. I recently sent her photos of a flower arrangement I made for our ruby wedding anniversary for display in church as we are having a blessing on Sunday. She hasn’t acknowledged the milestone. Perhaps I should just say nothing in future and just make my texts response to hers and give little of my life away

When she says you bombard her with texts, how often do you text her? Once a day would be plenty if you feel the need for daily contact.
How often does she send photos etc. Would you prefer that to be less often?

Frankly nobody wants conversations about medical stuff unless it’s to talk about their own!

I don’t know anyone under 60 who has conversations on the phone anymore.

Do you think you might be a bit too dependent on contact with her instead of an interesting life of your own.

Your daughter does contact you by sending you photos. Would you rather she didn't? She's actively taking her child out and about and having fun with him. She also sends lots of texts. This is the way (younger) people mainly communicate these days. I think you are being over sensitive. I have medical issues and get on with my life. I don't expect my dd to ask about them.