Feeling a bit (a lot really) sad

thomasina34

I have had the same for years, I have always given Birthday/Christmas/Easter gifts and cards for many years, I am lucky if I get a text message on my birthday or mothers day, 2 years ago after giving my son his partner, 4 grandkids one hundred pounds each and multiple gifts as a Christmas present I was not even texted a message saying Happy Christmas Mum and Dad, my husband and I decided that is it, we have never expected presents we have always said just a card will do, I was always bailing them out over unpaid bills, or new washing machines and gord knows what else, I never expected the money back which I paid for anything which is just as well because I didn't even get an offer of payment. That was it we decided no more from out side, with that my son and his partner stopped speaking to us, I didn't care anymore up till Easter this year when I got a text message from the partner saying that I should remember that I have 4 grandchildren, and the kids need new shoes, I just replied saying well you had better start saving because my purse is shut

Well done. I'd have done the same.
Busy or not there's no excuse for this kind of behaviour.

Belated Happy Birthday wishes. Ivanova5

Perhaps your husband could have a word with your son; I am sure you would do it if he he ignored his father's birthday. Or perhaps he ignores him as well.
It is thoughtless and unkind of adult children to behave like this, particularly after you have been generous and supportive; sometimes they do need someone to point these things out.
Happy belated birthday, anyway.

Happy special birthday Ivanova - the young ones are so busy, they sometimes tend to forget us. We are at the bottom of the pecking order. If it wasn’t for my party-loving daughters-in-law, my birthdays too would be forgotten. I don’t think my sons would remember and as for my daughter, that’s another story.!!
She relies on me to remind her of special family dates😂

Nobody likes being taken for granted or forgotten.
Happy belated birthday.

I have had the same for years, I have always given Birthday/Christmas/Easter gifts and cards for many years, I am lucky if I get a text message on my birthday or mothers day, 2 years ago after giving my son his partner, 4 grandkids one hundred pounds each and multiple gifts as a Christmas present I was not even texted a message saying Happy Christmas Mum and Dad, my husband and I decided that is it, we have never expected presents we have always said just a card will do, I was always bailing them out over unpaid bills, or new washing machines and gord knows what else, I never expected the money back which I paid for anything which is just as well because I didn't even get an offer of payment. That was it we decided no more from out side, with that my son and his partner stopped speaking to us, I didn't care anymore up till Easter this year when I got a text message from the partner saying that I should remember that I have 4 grandchildren, and the kids need new shoes, I just replied saying well you had better start saving because my purse is shut

Happy belayed birthday!

Did your son know you would have liked to see him?

Is this the first time he just sends happy birthday and nothing else?

Happy

Can you not organise a get together at the weekend such as an afternoon tea or a meal together? Just say it’s a belated celebration. I think the younger ones are so involved in there own lives we get missed.


Belated happy birthday.

I know where you are coming from though as I have a birthday next month and I’m going to get in and suggest something like a meal together with my family as otherwise it just ends up being “coming round for birthday cake and fizz”on the day.

First, Happy Birthday for Monday ,Ivanovo!💐 Sometimes kids can be so thoughtless, they live in their own little worlds and I reckon he wasn’t trying to be rude, probably just didn’t think. Don’t get upset, especially if he has been having a hard time recently. Ring him up and arrange something with him and his girlfriend and tell them you are celebrating a ‘ belated’ birthday. That’s what I’d do, anyway.

Not in the least self indulgent, Ivanova, very upsetting to have such a thoughtless son. Belated birthday greetings and I hope you plan something pleasurable to mark the occasion.