Feeling a bit (a lot really) sad

It was my birthday on Monday too. I saw my son and grandchildren the next day and they had forgotten. I didn’t tell them. Happy Birthday btw. X

This thread has made me feel so lucky. Son always makes a fuss of some sort. Occasionally a big present like a cinema TV for my 70th or a simple meal out because OH is working so unavailable. None of this really matters. When I broke my ankle and he was a teenager he helped big time. We spoke tonight and had such a laugh.
I wish you better future birthdays.

Happy Birthday, lovely lady. You’ve done your best, been a good mum. Take heart. All will be well. X

If its a big birthday then clanging great hints in the months leading up .... its my xth birthday coming up what shall we all do? Shall we go for a meal? Shall we have a rave?

Happy late wishes.

I have 2 sons and a daughter, only my daughter sends me a card, not a dicky bird from the sons. Am I bothered, not a bit, they have better things to do with their time and money than send cards that will end up in the bin/recycling.

When I actually think about it - our daughters organise the boys!

What I can't understand is how some people seem to have a birthday that extends to several weeks! I get one day and that's it.
My last significant birthday (60) was in 2020 aling with a 40th wedding anniversary and so couldnt celebrate either but it probably would have been up to me to organise something

Another disappointed gran here, also.

Last weekend we had a fairly large family get together. Three birthdays in August.

My son who i very rarely see, just handed me a card and good wishes.
I was a bit disappointed.

My Dd on the other hand is very generous.

Don’t recall in nearly 60 years together my dh ever spoiling me, on high, low or any days. If I want it I organise it or nothing happens. Now we are old nothing happens I am fair worn out. 😱

Happy Birthday!
Your DH could have spoilt you couldn’t he?
Children can be thoughtless - they are either givers or non givers !
Spoil yourself that’s what I’m going to try and do - my DP recently said let’s not bother with the birthdays - but he’s just stingy…

Gransnetters seem to be very understanding when this type of story is posted. Not remembering your own mum's special birthday is unforgivable regardless of how busy/stressed you are. Same applies to only sending a greeting via Facebook. Why are our generation so grateful for every morsle of attention we get from our adult kids? I think this generation are the most self-absorbed and disrespectful there has ever been. Interesting that they also get more handouts from parents than previous generations too. I'm afraid I'm not one for pussyfooting around and trying to understand this selfish lot. They don't deserve us. Being sad is understandable but I'd be bloody furious too.

Usually men don’t care as much about Birthdays as women do,so always make it special for yourself,arrange to meet friends for lunch etc.E-mail or Text ( they all love to Text) and say thanks for the B’day wishes then ask him over for cake,no point falling out with family.He knows your always there for love & hugs,don’t let it hurt you life is too short & you know he loves you,take care of yourself.

I wouldn’t invite them round. That is forcing them to come and that’s never the same.Clock it up to a bad experience and do something for you next year, like a theatre trip or a day out.
Happy birthday wishes for Monday.

Your husband should have arranged something special AND reminded your son that it was a special birthday. Sons aren't very good at remembering birthdays.

Do you need to organise things? isn't it sufficient just talk about it generally so that he just remembers to send a card or make a phone call.

The dates of all our family birthdays, especially big ones are shared, but it doesn't mean we do anything. If it is DH's we nip out for a meal, if it is one of AC or DC, we will just ring and say we will have meal next time we see them.

Make sure that big birthdays are common knowledge but if parties are to be celebrated, just confine yoursoef to a nice meal, in or nout

The difference being We rather than I, Emily. When it’s always I it can be exhausting. I know because that’s how it is for me too.

Thank you Pascal x

Happy Belated Birthday! Sorry about your son, really inconsiderate. I always ring my parents on their birthdays (we live 350 miles apart), as well as sending a card - and a bottle of champagne if its a big birthday (60, 70 etc). My late husband and I always arranged in advance to do something on special birthdays - we went out for lunch and cocktails for my 50th, nothing excessive as his health was too poor by then for a full day out. Maybe "forget" when his next birthday comes around?

We take responsibility for our own celebrations. We plan our own birthdays and celebrations. We send out invitations to family members.

I did get cards and gifts for my birthday, but not all birthdays. Sometimes it was a FB message like you. I didn't mind at all to be fair,
I'm poor at remembering birthdays myself. My other half on the other hand gets really upset if he doesn't get cards at least. Now my son is married to a wonderful woman and she makes a lot of effort for me which I do admit is lovely.

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I am feeling hurt today for similar reasons Ivanova. Trying to cheer myself up and be positive but it’s not easy is it. If I don’t organise it it doesn’t happen and I am getting weary of it always being me 😮‍💨

My very best wishes and congratulations on your special birthday 🎉 ignore smile eat cake 🍰 call a friend x

sending you a hug Silverlining

I am feeling hurt today for similar reasons Ivanova. Trying to cheer myself up and be positive but it’s not easy is it. If I don’t organise it it doesn’t happen and I am getting weary of it always being me 😮‍💨

My very best wishes and congratulations on your special birthday 🎉 ignore smile eat cake 🍰 call a friend x

Surely hubby could have still taken you out or planned a family lunch or something to celebrate? Or even a bit of a party the weekend before or this coming weekend. I understand it's disappointing to not receive anything from your son but I think in many cases (not all) son's don't give much thought to this sort of thing. My mum has sadly now passed but I used to buy a gift and card from myself AND a separate gift and card from my brother for Christmas/birthdays as he was useless and I didn't want my mum to miss out. Sorry you feel a bit deflated by your birthday celebrations but a belated happy birthday to you!

I understand you feel hurt - I would too! Like others have said though, since being divorced I arrange any birthday celebrations well in advance as family are busy and have their own concerns. I always have a great time!

My sons have never sent me birthday cards ever in their lives. I doubt they know when it is. I blame my husband, he never made any attempt to "train" them when they were young.

Am I bothered - no. More important things to think about.

That is very sad. Would your hubby phone him and say how upset and disappointed you are.