About my neighbour ?

Could granddaughter not be told it's her job to at least put bins back? She learns responsibility, everyone happy.

London MzFitz that is a horrible cautionary tale. Not to mess with neighbours
I have another about road rage. Remember hammer man?

As I said earlier my neighbour on another side is moving house, She assures us she had been planning to anyway but her rude, threatening new neighbours are giving her the impetus to put her house on the market.
I keep my fingers crossed at all times that I don't have bad neighbours.

I had to complain to the landlord about a tenant in the flats next door when my DD was still a child and was scared to walk up the shared drive. This woman would be yelling and swearing to any and everything.
She shut up after that as I think she was worried she'd be homeless. The council found her a house eventually so she left.

You could always write "Naff Off" (or words to that effect) in nice easy-to-read letters on the side of the bin facing him!

Our neighbours put our bins out and bring them back if we’re away or outNo bother. We buy them the occasional bottle of wine or box of biscuits. I think he is being unreasonable and rude. No need for it. Taking his problems out on other people by complaining. He wouldn’t do it to a man , I’d dare to bet.

How would he react if you were to ask him, being the friendly and helpful type, if he could put your bins out for you on bin day, then return them to a location, on your property, of his choosing?

YANBU
We’ve got an old charmer like this a couple of doors down. He and his wife are known for their moaning. He has also been struggling with health problems, but unbeknown to him, so has my DH. We also have other issues _ a very ill grandchild and end of life MIL but don’t take this out on other people. I’ve been very sweet up till recently but have had enough and put our house on the market. Funnily enough, so have lots of previous owners over the years. This couple are very lonely- I wonder why?

LondonMzFitz, how horrendous. that would make anyone anxious about neighbours.
i hope you have got nice ones now.
take care.

no, why should OP go to the bother of any screening/planting.
do not be apologetic about not able to move them.
maybe a vague amused response, or as they say,
yer avin a laaarf !

I would not move my bins.

In your place, I would have told my neighbour that I can no longer move the bins when they are full to the pavement edge for emptying and that they will need to stay where they are.

Could you put a screen of some kind round them? Perhaps use the kind of cheap wooden fencing sold in DIY stores.

If you or your grand-daughter cannot do this yourselves, nor know any handyman or woman who can, (has your grand-daughter a brother, boyfriend or father who could do the job?) go in and ask your neighbour if he will help with the job.

Realising that the cancer he hoped was in remission has come back is bound to be upsetting for him, and like most men, I bet he becomes grumpy when upset.

It is worth making an effort to get along with the neighbours, but shoving heavy bins about is not on, so see if you can find another solution.

If a screen round your bins isn't feasible, I would be tempted to plant a fast growing shrub or two in his line of vision from his kitchen to your bins - and if he complains about that, say nicely that you thought he would prefer to look at a flowering shrub than your bins.

I think it's his attitude that would anger/irritate me. A knock with a polite - I'm so sorry to ask, but would it be possible to - " etc would be much more appropriate. I wouldn't dream of asking a neighbour to move her bins because they spoiled my view. The imagined entitlement of some people.

In my previous home I shared a drive with my neighbour, luckily we got on very well. Further up the street were a number of maisonettes (flats upstairs and downstairs), of course each with a car so the road was full of vehicles. Two neighbours, both in their 40's, had a running dispute about one neighbours girlfriends car which was always parked in front of the bins, a row that escalated into a 3am on a Sunday morning stabbing, leaving one of the men dead and the other serving 18 years for manslaughter (me first on the scene, 2 days at The Old Bailey giving evidence). I find I get very anxious now about neighbourhood relationships.

Maybe just mentioning to him that you are not fit enough to move them far and have no one to help might prompt him to offer help? He does sound as if he's always been a bit highly strung if he's always complained about every noise. Even if his cancer is under control there is no saying what a strain it is putting on him emotionally, not to mention the effects of his drugs.

If the bins are on your land you can put them wherever you want!

If he is married and that physical and socially active while undergoing cancer treatments - he might just be a cranky, miserable human being.

How about throwing him off his game?

Like, now that you know he “God, bless him” has cancer, bake a nice cake or pie for him, bring it over and say “I was so sorry to hear you are undergoing cancer treatments. I hope an apple pie helps to alleviate some of your pain (or discomfort.)” Do that once or twice, see what happens.

Best to just get along, if possible.
USA Gundy

no. the council will just wheel them off the public highway onto your land.
they will not wheel them down a drive, round a corner, or under a hedge.
and they'd prefer you keep them just an inch or two onto your land, so easily reachable when they have to empty them.
if you qualify for the retrieval service they will get them if in view but will leave them just off the highway, which is reasonable enough.
they are v busy.

Wenmore

Although not an excuse, apart from the suffering the disease itself causes, the treatment for prostate cancer can have absolutely dreadful side effects. I suspect he realised as he was speaking that he was out of order and that's why he mentioned the prostate cancer. He may also have a terminal prognosis which won't help his social demeanour. Maybe cut him some slack.

My thinking exactly as I said in my earlier post.👍

If your ring your local council and ask, they will collect your bins and put them back after emptying them. This should solve your problem and keep the neighbour happy too.

Tell him to go and eat his breakfast in a different room then he won’t have to look.
I’ve just moved into my place and my neighbor moaned because I hadn’t done garden yet. Lawn being cut but anything else it can wait until I’ve done the house. I said I moved in 7 weeks ago do I look like Wonder Woman lol they just looked and walked away

most everyone's bins are visible all the time where i live.
usually 3, if they pay for garden waste collection.
and most have yards, but as long as they are not blocking the public footway, i see no grounds for complaint.
sounds a ridiculous thing to be bothered about to me.
do not pander to this nonsense.

Sounds like your neighbour is looking for some TLC. It is coming out as anger but comes from a place of fear. Be sympathetic.
On a practical note, you can register as disabled / elderly with the council and they will put your bin away for you.

I wouldn't be happy looking at bins from my window but I would have asked if you minded me moving them when I moved my own bin. Perhaps you could talk to him again and point out how difficult it is for you to move them and tell him you're happy for him to move them if he wishes.

You d think he d have more to bother him. Leave your bins where you want.

When I was fitter I used to move ours and neighbours bins back into position as they were usually left blocking drives and pavements. The most I moved in one day was 8!

Now I am in need of a little help no one offers. I think the world is a selfish, me, me, me place now.

Looking young and strong?
He has seen me on my newish mobility scooter!!
His diagnosis is not terminal, he has had the cancer for a few years and it is kept under control.
To be fair he has coped with it all well.
However it is not the first complaint, we had endless knocks on the door about the gate into the garden banging, once after I was in bed as I go early, this was mostly when other people than us left it open, window cleaner a culprit also gardeners and delivery men.
I had it replaced a couple of years ago and actually told him he had nothing to complain about now.
I have decided to let it go but will try to ignore him to the best of my ability and “keep myself to myself”.

Well if he appears again with the same grouch you can look him straight in the eye and tell him there are a lot of things in life you don't particularly like looking at!
He doesn't get to make everybody miserable just because he is having a rough time of it.
Go hit a ball Mister!

You must look young and strong if he thinks you can move those bins

Come on annsixty, get your shoulder to it and heave!!
You can do it 😁

(No, don't!)