Asking for money back

With some experience, I suspect that when you do contact him, he will come up with some reason why he can't quite manage to pay you back immediately. but assure you that he will do it soon.
Make sure you have copies of your bank statement with the money going out to him.
I suggest you email your request so that he will reply in the same way and so you can keep a copy of whatever he has said.
And NO you are not being unreasonable!!! HE IS!!!!

What will you do if your brother says he hasn't got it?

YANBU at all. Tell him you want it now. Instalments are no good if you are moving house. He's taking advantage!

Goodness me! When my daughter split from her husband ( they owned two houses) and she moved into the smaller house …she wanted to move during 6 week school holiday for obvious reasons ( they’re both teachers) so she asked for a loan if £3000 to re-decorate and furnish the second home ….
I said yes but insisted as soon as she got the cash settlement from her husband ( he kept the larger house) then I would need it back. She got her settlement four months later at 9 am and transferred my money to me at 9.10. Your brother is ‘pushing his luck ‘ and I think maybe this loan will never be repaid … unless you had it in writing!?

Of course you should ask for it.

It's so awkward having to ask for the return of a loan, it makes me angry and resentful and plays on my mind. You always end up feeling that it is you in the wrong.

I hope your brother had just forgotten and that he wasn't trying to avoid it.

Whatever makes you think you are money-grabbing?
It is your money and you shouldn't have to ask.

Of course you want your money back. I understand you don't want to rock the family boat but your brother knows that and is using it to his advantage. He is playing on your good nature! Do you have someone willing to speak on your behalf to your brother, husband or adult child?You are not being unreasonable you want your money back , time to let him know you mean business. Good luck 🍀

Where is his sense of decency? He should have paid you back before doing any renovations..

Always remember - only lend money, which you can afford to lose.

Your brother's the one who is being unreasonable Nanny, he should have made arrangements to repay the loan before embarking on expensive renovations.

In the circumstances, it's good of you to ask for the money to be repaid in instalments.

You are most definitely not being unreasonable! Your brother is well out of order and should be ashamed of himself. I think you have been very accommodating waiting this long.

I totally agree with GSM your brother should have repaid the loan before embarking on expensive renovation work. You are being more than reasonable NannyB2604 don't let this go it's your hard earned money.

Good grief, No you are not being unreasonable or money grabbing . He should have repaid the money long ago. You seem to have put the request very nicely. Keep on reminding him and tell him you really need it back.