Simple things that men are unable to do!

I picked LTB up from mumsnet - if a poster there says ‘my DH has failed to do the washing up’ or ‘my partner has cheated on me’ - they frequently say LTB (Leave the B……)

What the heck is LTB?
Him indoors, like I've said, when it comes to things like putting the inner roles in the bin, which is literally within reach, will stretch up to the windowsill baskets and put them in there. It's illogical in my mind, but he still does it!
He'll cook a lovely meal, and leave the kitchen looking like a 💣 hit it!
Tea towels were disappearing, I could not work out where on earth they were going to,until I saw him sat on the sofa one evening, during cooking, tea towel in hand, that arm stretched across the back of the sofa and then not even 10 minutes later he had a fresh one out. I pulled the sofa out and there were my tea towels and a couple of t-shirts he claimed had disappeared!!
Now, whenever anything goes missing I say, "Check behind the sofa!" 🤣
He drives me nuts, but I wouldn't swap him for the world!!

StacyAnna

JaneJudge

I must be in the minority as my husband seems to think he can do everything better than I can and even tries to give me advice on my own profession

Now, I think that’s an interesting - and funny - comment. But someone, in a certain frame of mind, could tell you to LTB / that you deserve better / or that that’s really sexist and you shouldn’t make disparaging remarks about your partner…….

he has his good points and I am sure I am annoying as well....

I've just mentioned this to DH and asked what he thought?
He laughed and said some men are just gormless his word not mine. A relation of his made a hut for a ferret and forgot to put a door on it the same person not his father put shelves up in the kitchen for his wife to display plates, when she put them up they all rolled off the end and smashed he had not used a spirit level.
He then said some men are gormless on purpose naming a friend who when asked by his wife to do a bit of shopping bought lard instead of butter saying they were all fat and knowing after a few times she would stop asking him.
He didn't find it the least bit sexist and said he was probably down for Christmas cards.

lemsip

if there is a negative response to a starter thread people seem to pile in and put it down unfortunately.

Sadly this is often the case. I usually wait a bit before posting to get the feel of a thread that has got off to a bad start.

I’m guilty, if that’s the right word, of writing jokey posts about DH and his sometimes quirky behaviour in the early days of Gransnet but I stopped as soon as he became ill even though he never lost his sense of humour. I didn’t include all or other men in my comments though.

Definitely intended to be a lighthearted thread - has certainly put me off starting one incase I get my wording wrong !

JaneJudge

I must be in the minority as my husband seems to think he can do everything better than I can and even tries to give me advice on my own profession

Now, I think that’s an interesting - and funny - comment. But someone, in a certain frame of mind, could tell you to LTB / that you deserve better / or that that’s really sexist and you shouldn’t make disparaging remarks about your partner…….

I must be in the minority as my husband seems to think he can do everything better than I can and even tries to give me advice on my own profession

I’m with opal I saw op post as light hearted banter. We really do need to lighten up.

if there is a negative response to a starter thread people seem to pile in and put it down unfortunately.

No doubt You are not as inadequate as Your Husband Quizzer…Heaven forbid 😜

I really don't think Quizzer was being sexist at all, it's just light hearted banter. People are too sensitive these days, another sorry sign of the times we are living in.

My husband is a professional man, responsible for the lives of many thousands of people in his working life but he cannot multitask, if I ask him something or remark on something when he is emptying the dishwasher, he literally cannot answer me. Saying this does not make me misogynistic, it's just a fact!

Marg75

It's outrageous how some people have answered quizzer, for goodness sake it's s jokey question, it's age old, a bit of fun!!!

There are many things that are age old (like racism, misogyny, etc) but it doesn't necessarily make it right. If you feel this thread is wrong, there is nothing in the rules that says you can't disagree with it and if you don't, just join in.

This has really made me chuckle! I can relate to all of the above, also the inability to pick up a wet towel from the floor, and hang it on the towel rail. Nope, just can't do it.

My DH does the washing up, ironing, vacuums, bakes etc. All of which I also do. I do not however put up shelves, change tires or fix a leaking tap.

My husband is brilliant academically, with a PhD in Physics and other qualifications. However, if he is looking for something in a drawer or on the shelf of a cupboard he will be totally unable to find it if he has to move something else or something is on top of what he is looking for. His inability to ever find anything even when I assure him where it is hasn’t changed over 56 years of marriage! I hope this doesn’t annoy the feminists but it just happens to be true. He is ok in most other ways!

I never had any trouble getting DH to put the bins out. 🤣

It's outrageous how some people have answered quizzer, for goodness sake it's s jokey question, it's age old, a bit of fun!!!

😀most of the same as yours, leaves an empty toilet roll, leaves things on the side when finished, leaves dirt clothes on the floor outside the laundry basket. However, if I leave a drawer slightly open in his study he tells me about it. Funny little habits that we get used to.

A lot of things they can’t do. They’re such babies. So helpless.

(And then there are the wives that truly enable their behavior… and say to you that they’re unhappy in the marriage. Really.)

That said - there are accomplished men out there who give a supporting hand in the household and child rearing duties. Their mothers raised them right‼️

Love a man that cooks! Laundry too😁
USA Gundy

No. That’s illogical. If someone doesn’t think then they aren’t making a choice. You have to think in order to make a choice.

I suspect the issue is that men don’t sweat the small stuff, they don’t fret about a bit of untidyness but that does not mean they are inadequate. Keep niggling at men and you start to chip away at their mental well-being.

I make no apologies for repeating myself. This is posted in AIBU Am I being Unreasonable? Some people think that OP is and said so. That is not getting on a high horse. It is expressing an opinion that was invited. They should not have been flamed for answering a question and deserve an apology.

Many GNers (myself included) will have been bereaved recently or in the past. But surely this cannot mean that this restricts others in what they say about their loved ones. Whilst, hopefully, being fully sympathetic to others situations, it has to be acknowledged that we all have our own lives to lead, and to deal with as we see fit.

Maybe the wording is at fault here. I don't see why we can't have a grumble about things our partners or other family members simply choose not to do without others getting on their high horse about it. We needn't label all men, or women, with the inability to carry out simple tasks around the house. So perhaps the thread title should be:

Simple things that family members choose not to do!

My son, who lives at home, does almost all of the cooking. He has the ability to put empty packets and vegetable peelings etc. in the bin but he doesn't think i.e. chooses not to do it. I'm very grateful for his cooking though...

I don't understand why my DH can't load a dishwasher! He empties it sometimes, so surely he can see that we don't put plastic on the bottom or saucepans stacked together, we don't put spoons in there stuck together with porridge either! ...

that's the royal 'we' of course