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Simple things that men are unable to do!

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Quizzer Fri 29-Sept-23 12:47:00

My DH is fit and active but there are some things he cannot do.

Start a toilet roll without shredding the first ten sheets.
Put any kitchen tool back into the drawer where he found it.
Answer my mobile - he can’t work the buttons which are different to his.

Do other gransnetters’ partners have similar inadequacies??

icanhandthemback Mon 02-Oct-23 12:59:00

There is nothing my husband can't do...lots he chooses not to do well because he doesn't want to be asked again. However, he is absolutely brilliant at moving the washing over because I forget. We do our own washing because he didn't sort it well enough for me. 🤣
We are able to lightheartedly tease each other with the battle of the sexes banter but it should be recognised that not everybody has the same ideas of what it humour.
As to Foxygloves, the one area my husband excels is the removal of spiders despite the fact he doesn't like them himself! He's a keeper!

Grandma29 Mon 02-Oct-23 12:58:19

Men are able to do any household tasks.
To state that they cannot iron, switch the washer on etc is absolute rubbish. They can they just want someone else to it!
I got married very young and yes there were some things I couldn’t do but you know what I had to learn quickly. Many years later there’s nothing I can’t do. Cooking isn’t my strong point but I get by.😊

PamQS Mon 02-Oct-23 12:55:39

The fact that fathers don’t hear babies crying in the night as quickly as mothers do has been investigated and found to be a genuine difference between the sexes, I believe.

I found quite early on in marriage that telling my DH what I wanted him to do was effective in getting him to do things. Of course, there are things he’d rather not do, as there are for me. But since lockdown he’s been doing all the daily shopping we need, because he didn’t want me to catch Covid. He started buying very fancy ready meals, most of which I didn’t like, so it had to come to the point of me asking him to stop. Covid seems to have drastically affected my senses of smell and taste, there’s nothing I can do about that. Eg, I used to love a pizza, now I can hardly take a bite of it because it doesn’t smell appetising.

Foxygloves Mon 02-Oct-23 12:51:04

Before I disappear on an overdue) digital detox I would like to apologise sincerely to Lemsip for picking her up on tongue and cheek (although I still think it sounds like something off the butchery counter -“ox tongue, ox cheek Madam?” Or the ingredients of a raised pie grin )
What is innocent bantz to some however can trigger am emotional response in others and I wonder if anybody who moaned about their DH, will think back to how they dissed them if the day ever comes when they have to care for them in mental decline or sit by their side as they slip quietly away for ever.
If a light hearted thread on DHs is needed - how about one on sharing their strengths and qualities? Spider or dead mouse removal, for instance or even if like mine in his latter months, if they cannot do much that is physical , how they can provide a reassuring presence while WE deal with a crisis.

Grandma2002 Mon 02-Oct-23 12:28:20

For some reason my husband cannot make a bed, even when he is sharing the task with me, as for putting on a duvet cover, definitely no. He also never prepares a space or clears room for doing complicated operations. Consequently he knocks things over. For all that he is wonderful for finding things I have lost, picking up heavy things I have dropped, lifting down items from high shelves, occasionally cleaning my car taking the laundry upstairs for me to iron. I think we are evenly matched, I couldn't manage without him.

ginny Mon 02-Oct-23 12:26:50

Quizzer

For heaven’s sake has everyone lost their sense of humour? There are many simple things I can’t do. It is not sexist or misogynistic to share a few funny failures.

Exactly. My DH know some of the things he does or doesn’t do drive me mad and visa Versa. Surely we can have have a little giggle about them without someone get upset and labelling us misogynistic .

MrsThatcher Mon 02-Oct-23 12:25:43

My husband can’t shut doors or drawers. Makes no difference if I tell him! 😅

Quizzer Mon 02-Oct-23 12:15:53

For heaven’s sake has everyone lost their sense of humour? There are many simple things I can’t do. It is not sexist or misogynistic to share a few funny failures.

orly Mon 02-Oct-23 12:05:56

Foxygloves

With all due respect, this makes me so cross.
My DH absolutely did not have the sort of shortcomings OP itemises, but to extrapolate from her personal experience that men are unable to do these is not light hearted banter but every bit as sexist as those dinosaurs who tell us not to “worry our pretty little heads” or claim women can’t parallel park or insist that only they can put up a shelf straight.
What century are we in for heavens sake?

Hear, hear Foxygloves.

As for answering your mobile phone my husband would say you don't understand the concept of "mobile"

Cossy Mon 02-Oct-23 11:58:57

Honestly ladies on here, I suggest this is just banter not intended to be take too seriously and not sexist ! I concur that my own DH does exhibit some of these traits, I put them down to his annoying personal habits ! Chill out folks and have a great week grin

Kartush Mon 02-Oct-23 11:53:42

There is literally nothing my husband cannot do. He cooks, does his own laundry, at 72 still works 5 full days as a handyman. He cleans, shops, takes me to all my appointments, helps babysit, does breakfast every morning, oh and makes the best cup of tea ever.

Twig14 Mon 02-Oct-23 11:47:37

Well said Rafichagran

Twig14 Mon 02-Oct-23 11:46:19

I have been extremely fortunate as my husband helped me with so many things and we worked together as a team. Sadly he isn’t well and his condition prevents him doing things he normally would have which frustrates him. I’ve been very fortunate

Annsan Mon 02-Oct-23 11:40:29

Totally agree!

lixy Sun 01-Oct-23 20:55:53

Not OH but..
My Christmas present to myself is to spend an hour or so teaching both my DS and my DiL how to sew on buttons.
If we have time I'll add in sewing the swimming badges their daughter wins on to her towel!

Yes, should have done it when he was living at home but didn't get around to it somehow.

B9exchange Sun 01-Oct-23 19:25:57

Would it help to get this thread back on track if the question was 'simple things that my partner seems unable to do'? I got that impression that was the gist of the topic, a light hearted thread about things that might wind you up that the person you live does or doesn't do, possibly without thinking.

MercuryQueen Sun 01-Oct-23 17:34:44

The topic baffles me. Other than reproductive system issues, there’s nothing my husband can’t do due to being male that I can.

We absolutely have different strengths and weaknesses, different preferences and priorities, but none are based in gender or sex

Ziplok Sun 01-Oct-23 17:25:41

I’m sorry Quizzer that your post has been jumped on in such an unpleasant way by some posters.
I hope it won’t put you off starting a thread again another time.

biglouis Sun 01-Oct-23 16:50:39

We all have jobs we dont want to do and devise ways to avoid getting lumbered with those jobs. Some people dont have to devise strategies because they just "dont notice" that the dishes need washing or that the bin is overflowing.

Enid101 Sun 01-Oct-23 16:29:07

Jaxjacky

Unnecessarily pedantic Foxygloves correcting posters mishaps in typing, grammar or spelling are bad manners in my view.

Yes, a poster may change their name but not their spots.

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 01-Oct-23 16:20:50

My first thought when I read the opening post was that poking fun online about one’s partner’s perceived inadequacies is not a very kind thing to do. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a sense of humour.

Granniesunite Sun 01-Oct-23 16:11:44

I think it’s a given that we all recognised the typo but as Jaxjacky has posted manners forbid us pointing it out.

We have all experienced death and it’s devastation in many ways I’m sure.

My own experience stared when I was 7 years of age. A much loved parent then years later a beautiful baby boy and of course much loved family members as the years went by.

💐rafichagran

We are all very different in our response to life.

rafichagran Sun 01-Oct-23 15:40:03

I also lost a lovely baby boy, I was very upset for a long time, but I would not be offended about any light hearted threads or things that were said to me especially if people did not know.
I realised that life went on outside my tragedy, and did not take offence at anything that was said in jest.
I can only conclude we are all different. I feel the lighthearted threads bring some welcome relied to all the horrible things going on in the world.

Jaxjacky Sun 01-Oct-23 15:38:14

Unnecessarily pedantic Foxygloves correcting posters mishaps in typing, grammar or spelling are bad manners in my view.

Opal Sun 01-Oct-23 15:08:35

Maybe you do, but sadly not with this thread ..... hmm